Married Couples Divulge Some Of The Worst Aspects Of Tying The Knot

Ask the Chef

Trying to figure out what to eat for dinner.

ildaren

I could happily eat the same thing 10 days in a row. Husband says making the same thing once a week is to often.

createchoas420

On the Daily

Watching general life hurt your spouse.

Medical stuff, Childhood scars, work stress, money struggling, all the crap life can throw at you, watching your partner suffering through anything will break your heart a little and leave you feeling guilty that you cannot protect them from the world.

Honestly, even when I was in labor with our children, my husband looked more scared than I've ever seen him in our shared life. He works with the public in the midst of a pandemic and watching him leave in the morning is agony.

Outside of that I have zero complaints.

SpookyAloof

Let me Be

Lack of privacy. My partner is a clinger and I love him just as he is. But damn I would love like 2 hours a week alone. Just me and my thoughts and not having to share them with anyone. He tries, God love him, but it's not his strong point.

Warp9-6

My wife will just tell me I need to go do something. It might be that I need to for beers with the boys, spend the day away or go camping for the weekend, but she needs her time for herself and I get the same.

leaky_eddie

Imperfect

Your mistakes can effect someone you deeply love.

texasbornandraised95

Learning Blocks

Learning compatibility and chemistry aren't the same.

They are vastly different and having one doesn't mean you'll have both. And both take work after time.

BUT if you can get past those times, life is great.

zennygra

All he glitter....

Just remember--it's not going to be all sunshine and rainbows and magical glittery unicorn poops. There will be tough times and its how you react to the tough times and each other during the tough times that really show what your relationship is made of.

I've been married for almost 22 years and we were together for almost 3 years before that, so my husband and I have known each other for nearly a quarter century at this point. And this pandemic bull? Not even CLOSE to the toughest thing we have gone through together.

KnockMeYourLobes

Forget the Crap

Getting comfortable kinda means you stop giving a crap. That attitude can spread a little too far if you're not careful. Showing affection and appreciation should be something that goes on without effort. But it often doesn't.

selfishflesh

My husband and I had fallen into this trap. We've just kind of existed in the same space.

Neither of us wanted to make the first move to make things better, because we both thought the other didn't care.

Last week it all came to a head - and we had a very long talk about what we want, and what we expect. I feel like we've taken the first steps to getting back where we used to be.

FormalMango

The Stink

Farts. So many farts.

DaZoomies

That, and sharing my bed. I want my bed to myself, and I want to be able to rip one whenever I feel like it.

goosepills

THEM

In laws

Not the case for everyone, I get it. So, I guess I'd say that familiarity breeds contempt. Not in the sense of maliciousness, just obliviousness. Sure, walk by me and crop dust me, how romantic. But this is also the same person that has walked me to the toilet after 6 or 7 surgeries, so I'm not exactly mysterious either.

jdinpjs

MOVE!

Imagine if every time you went to open a cupboard or drawer there was another person standing in front of it.

Thepoopsith

This! And if they aren't there, somehow, they made sure to leave the door open.

unicornpoopssparkle

She Fades

My wife has Elhers-Danlos and I've watched her go from happy, Mobile, and pain-free to barely able to walk without some joint trying to slide out of place. She's always in an incredible amount of pain and it's so difficult to watch her struggle.

magicmaster_bater

Year One

I'm a newcomer, only been married for a year, but the worst part is probably seeing someone you love and care for get hurt. Honestly I don't have much to complain about, it has been the best year of my life.

Kev50027

Just Rage! 

When your spouse uses the last of the toilet paper and doesn't get a new roll... I guess I'll just wait here.

MommaChem

The secret is, you have to hide a roll WAAAYY back in the back of the cabinet. Emergency stash, remember to replace it after you tap it.

Badger_Bard

Eat the Pizza

The idea that you lose your sense of self once you marry.

All gifts are to you, the couple. As if we both want an expensive blender? (I now have 3 of them). Just give us money or a gift card then.

People think it's weird when you go somewhere and aren't with them, or if you like different things.

A couple with a different opinion on anything (even small stuff) is weird to people.

Also, couples that allow themselves to disappear because that's what's expected. Not to say you shouldn't compromise or try what the other likes, but don't stop eating pizza if your spouse's hates pizza.

10GivingTrees

All. The. Time.

Having someone else in my house all the time. All the time.

iluvyouhoneybear

The Mundane

Letting boredom or a sense of complacency ruin your passion for each other. Marriage takes work and anyone that tells you otherwise is either a liar or not actually happily married. It takes hard work to grow together instead of apart and it is a full time job in itself.

4eyes4u

Everybody Says....

Other people telling you how your marriage will be, even when you have been married for years. Lots of angry dudes always telling me she will get fat and control me. 13 years now and I feel free and my wife is a smoke show.

Faifur

For Real. 

Lack of sex. For real. And going out loses the excitement it used to have. All we do is just bring the bull with us at an expensive night out.

Nignug

I don't know much about relationships but I relate to this, my bf and I recently went out for dinner but got ready separately and met at the restaurant (we have lived together for 2 years). It was exciting, it felt like we were going on a blind date. I don't know if it would help you but it's worth sharing.

Catmom7725

The Ride

Riding it out when the honeymoon stage fads. Sliding from ecstatically in love, to comfortably in love can be scary and often misread as falling out of love. Its not all blue birds and kisses and a long, loving committed relationship doesn't have to be.

RingAroundTheRose

Communications

Now you have to actually talk about what each of you do that pisses the other off.

Lord_Derpenheim

That is an extremely hard conversation to have but very necessary.

LittleMissRawr78