You know the saying, "men are from Mars, women are from Venus"? Well the etiquette and customs of these two planets seem to be vastly different, if we're going by how each of the sexes act. But what things should men not be so insecure about? These women of Reddit spill all the tea.
u/Daniel_cej asked: Girls, what is something guys shouldn't feel insecure about?
Works both ways.
Telling us when we've hurt their feelings. I am SO. MUCH. more receptive if I think I've hurt my husband than I am when he just gets defensive/aggressive.
Works both ways. I was kind of upset with my wife the other day and said something kind of mean because I was......upset. If she got mad in return it would have escalated. Instead, she just explained how much it hurt her feelings.
Made me take a step back and apologize instead. God I love that woman.
Nothing to be ashamed of.
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If they can't grow a beard or if they're balding young.
I've been balding since I was 15, but it's accelerated in the past two years. It's annoying as hell, especially when you realize you could have real hair. My half brother has a full head of hair in his 40s, and I'm chilling at 29 about to be fully bald.
A big truth bomb.
Making noises during sex. We LIKE it if we can tell you're into it.
Otherwise it's like I'm banging a spooky ghost.
Everyone loves cake!
That you like things that are deemed "girly." Honestly, we don't care. (Okay, there's that one woman who might make fun you but no one on our side likes her. Just ignore her.)
But we actually think it's sweet that you like things like flowers or that you love the color pink or that you adore going to high end bakeries for dressed up desserts. Don't be afraid to show it. Heck, if you know a good place to pick up a slice of cake, tell us!
Dad bods give the best hugs.
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Their stomachs. If you don't have a completely flat stomach thats okay, most people don't and no one is gonna notice. You look great.
So much this! Mine has been saying he feels fat and I just wish he saw what I saw. He's 6'5 and 210lb- he's hardly fat! He's just not toned which he finds frustrating, but I think he's the best because I just fold right into his hugs!
Nothing wrong with that.
My ex didn't hesitate to tell his male friends that he loves/cares about them, and it was pretty refreshing to see. Go ahead and tell your friends you love them, I won't think you're a wuss or whatever.
Oh, and short kings and I can get down. I'm 5'2". If you tell me that you're a short guy, all I hear is, "When we're arguing, if you put on heels you'll be able to make eye contact." That's a power move, folks. I can feel like an equal in that relationship.
This d*ck is juuuust right.
Average d*ck is best d*ck and you can't tell me otherwise.
Stop being ashamed of it. I've tried all sizes, and there is such thing as too big. You're not less of a man. You can do more with an average one.
You gotta have that Goldilocks penis.
Don't be afraid of this.
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Crying.
Literally crying is so normal and should be normal for guys. If you're sad, cry. If a girl mocks you or is heartless she's a stone cold b*tch who you need out of your life.
Nobody should make you feel sh*tty for crying when you're sad.
No need to be a hero.
Asking for help. Everyone needs help in all different areas at various points in their life, so there's no shame in asking for it. I understand gender and social norms, but it's not the 1940s, men don't need to be big strong heroes that can handle everything on their own.
Don't overthink flirting.
Not being able to start every new flirt session with something super clever to say. It's fine. Having good energy behind "Hey. How's it going?" Will appeal to plenty of potential matches. Slucksters get tiresome anyway.
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