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Straight Men Confess How They'd React If A Gay Man Hit On Them

Straight Men Confess How They'd React If A Gay Man Hit On Them
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"Reddit user FregeanCoder asked: 'Straight men, how would you react if a man hit on you?'"

It can take a lot of courage to put yourself out there and let someone know you're interested.

As long as they're not creepy, aggressive, or crazy, it should be flattering, right?

If you're straight and a person of the same gender as you flirts with you, this should be easy to deal with.

In most cases, it took a lot more courage for them to ask than for you to hear.

The following question has been asked to many a straight guy over the years.

Let's see how the times and reactions have progressed.


Redditor FregeanCoder wanted the heteronormative gents out there to share with us, so they asked:

"Straight men, how would you react if a man hit on you?"

I've flirted with many a straight guy, and 99% of the time, it's all gone over well even if they turned me down.

Be Polite

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"I've told them thank you but not interested."

twinturboboosted

"Pretty much this for me as well, no need to get scared, but at the same time I did have one super creep, not a comfortable experience."

Empty_Jellyfish_1995

Happy Endings

"My response was, 'I’m flattered, but it’s not my thing.' Guy insisted on buying me that drink anyway as an apology. Thirty years later, we’re still friends. I was best man at his wedding, and now they’re both like brothers to me."

ElectricTurtlez

"Wow, an 'apology' - for flattering you!? Maybe he felt that he made you uncomfortable. Sounds like a generous and humble person."

BoringBob84

"I wish men could do that when women reject them. For some reason, if a woman rejects a straight man he thinks 'being friends' is like a punishment."

Joygernaut

Aww Shucks

"My wife and I were at a gay bar with some friends and one time while alone a young man offered to buy me a drink… it was the most flattering feeling, which I of course told him as I politely declined. He must have been having a rough patch since he was very attractive and had no business hitting on a guy like me. Or maybe it was late and he was drunk."

corona-lime-us

"You could have been his type. Never know."

twinturboboosted

"Haha. Perhaps. I’ll cling to the possibility. I’m just grateful my wife agreed to marry me before I discovered IPA’s and how to smoke meat!!!"

corona-lime-us

Keeping it

"I had a man I thought was hitting on my girlfriend and telling us both multiple times he was into threesomes tell me in a forceful way at the end of the night was gay. I said ah, that's cool man good for you! He walked away looking kind of sad and defeated. It wasn't until the next day that we realized he was hitting on me and we all had a chuckle at my obliviousness."

Gettinrekt1

No Harm

"Well normally at first I’m polite and say no thanks in some way or straight out. If it ends there it’s amusing no harm done. But just like with women if they are overly aggressive after then it’s a lot different. Ashamed of how common that type of stuff is. It has nothing to do with people's sex life. People are capable of all kinds of things. We know this but seem to act like it doesn’t happen."

_Dirty_Deedz_

OHHHHHH!!!!

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"Probably the same way as when a woman hits on me - be oblivious to it until weeks later when it suddenly dawns on me."

Eccentric_Fixation

I always hate that A-HA moment.

Like, where was my mind at in the moment.

SEE MEEE!!!

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"I'm gay, my oldest friend is straight. Took him to a gay bar once. He got very offended that no one tried to hit on him."

J8766557

Why not?

"I'm a straight, bearded, short but pretty muscular guy living in (very liberal) Berlin. Apparently, that's attractive for a lot of gay men so I'm getting hit on by men pretty regularly, a lot more than by women. I usually just tell them I'm not gay and then it depends on their reaction."

"Keep talking, do more drinking, keep dancing... Why not? I've been on the opposite side after a rejection by a woman and it's nice to just keep having a good time instead of an awkward exit that you'll cringe about 10 years later randomly."

Magnetobama

Back when we danced

"Not sure how it works nowadays with apps like Grindr but in the late 90s/2000s, we had a gay club in our city (no longer exists and there’s not another one unless you drive 30 min to a town over). Anyway, I was the straight friend in a group of gay guys because I loved EDM and I think by association, other gay men thought I was gay."

Always flattered, politely said no and they would turn to the next guy waiting in line for a drink and hit on them. Rinse and repeat. I think what I learned is that men regardless of sexual preference are all horny and will try again and again until they find someone down to clown."

irn

Thanks, Corey

"I was at a house party and he started hitting on me. I kind of panicked and said I was dating one of the girls at the party. Went over to her after and asked her to play along because he was hitting on me and I didn’t want to start a fuss. Ended up hooking up with her later that night and 16 years later were married with 2 kids. At our wedding speech, I thanked him even though he wasn’t there. Corey wherever you are, thanks bud."

reload88

Beautiful Hair

"Happened to me by a coworker. I very politely explained I wasn’t gay but it never changed my opinion of him. He eventually thanked me for dealing with it the way I did and I explained it wasn’t necessary to say thanks. I asked him why me though. He replied, 'You’ve got one hell of a head of beautiful hair!' And he was right."

Particular-Paper-558

Be Fair

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"I flirt a little but make sure he knows I'm straight and there is no opportunity for us to be anything but friends. Gay dudes are some of the best friends a straight guy can have and I don't give a f**k what anyone thinks about that. Just don't lead them on, it's not fair to them."

somedoofyouwontlike

Well it does sound like we've come a long way.

It's nice to know.

Let's flirt.

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