The truth hurts.
Unencumbered truth bombs in a break up hurts the worst.
Sometimes it's a surprise when a lover reveals why they're going.
Other times you see it coming and chose denial.
Either way, who cares?
The hurt is still gonna hurt.
So it's always a good idea to know the why and how, so that growth can happen.
Either we can change ourselves or keep a better lookout for the toxic the next round.
Redditor Turbulent-Visit-8741 wanted to hear the more somber ends to love stories, so they asked:
"Why did your SO break up with you?"
I'm just not in love with you anymore.
I wish I had had a better answer. But it was the only answer.
She Was Right
Idiot Reaction GIFGiphy"Because I was a f**king idiot and used alcohol as a bad coping mechanism, and it got to the point where I was a horrible person when I was drunk. I miss her but don't blame her for leaving."
Lopsided-Finger-7586
About Andy
"She kept talking about Andy at work constantly. When I finally blew up and asked her if something was happening she hit the roof and ended it. 2 months later in the announcements in the local newspaper guess who was engaged to Andy."
brothhead
"Lol they always think they’re slick, right? I had a similar situation, I guess she thought I didn’t notice how often his name came up or how she’d make involuntary facial expressions when someone from their school group mentioned his name. It is what it is man, I know the feeling."
SalsaSmuggler
She Deserved Better
"I was a drug addict slipping below the waterline, she was a middle class beautiful woman who deserves better than that."
Rumple-Wank-Skin
"Kudos for not instantly saying 'she was a *itch' or something like that. Taking ownership is a rare find. But it takes two, as they say, to make a thing go right."
"You BOTH deserved better out of you, and you deserved help when you needed it. (I certainly know very little about your situation so I apologize for presuming so much, but as a career addict, hypocrite, and know-it-all, it certainly sounds like something I was about to write myself….)"
TwentyCharacters2022
2 Fast
"I got way too serious way too quickly. I wanted to spend all my time with her and just smothered her. Its a bit embarrassing looking back at it now. She's the only relationship Ive had where I was the one who got dumped."
UnfinishedThings
"That almost seems like a right of passage for guys that are late bloomers. Every guy i know that's always been single and finally gets a girlfriend get way to clingy and scare them off. Doesn't matter what you tell them they can't help themselves."
CarmenxXxWaldo
"I did the same with my first relationship. I got super clingy and pushed too hard because I was immature. He ghosted me instead of talking to me though (this is before cellphones I’m so old lol). So I guess we were both too immature."
Alternative_Let_1599
Unoriginal
Not Funny No GIFGiphy"Met their soul mate that was a year younger than our eldest child (18) after 22 years of marriage."
LJRGUserName
"Oh God, I had a similar experience. 22 year marriage as well. They got married last year and she is currently pregnant. He’s 52 and she is 34. I also got the 'soulmate' explanation when I found out he was cheating. They’re so unoriginal."
Mahalo-808
Age is definitely more than JUST a number.
The Diagnosis
"I was diagnosed with autism and suddenly all the quirky things I did, and had always done she suddenly became noticeably uncomfortable with. Eventually she cheated on me."
Woffingshire
I’m feeling this one. Was diagnosed a few years ago and suddenly all my quirks and idiosyncrasies have an explanation, and now my wife (who used to love my quirks) is upset that I’m 'not doing anything to fix it.' Seems like she’s no longer tolerant now that there’s a diagnosis - makes me think that I’ve gone from quirky to broken in her mind and she’s embarrassed? Frustrated? Angry? I don’t know."
-praetorr-
Not Happy
playing broken heart GIF by Antoine DoréGiphy"After being together for 6 years, 4 of them living together, one day she said 'I'm not happy.' Packed all her stuff and left. Never seen her or talked to her ever since. I wish I could at least gotten a proper reason for it or just a talk about what went wrong."
MrKhinkali
The "Fun" Guy
"The manager that she had been spending 10+ hours a day with behind the bar just seemed more fun. Left me, the kids, pets and house to take care of and just disappeared for days and sometimes weeks. Found out Xanax was involved, which would explain the lapse in time."
"Wish she would have just broken up with me, rather than cheat for months beforehand. Should be noted that weekly I receive 'I miss you and I just want to come home' texts. Too bad I moved cause i couldn’t afford our place alone… no home for you to return to. Enjoy your screaming matches with the 'fun' guy. Since I moved on, my life has been unreasonably better."
No-Influence-9293
The Last Straw
"Fantastic Beasts: The Crimes of Grindelwald. She loved it. I thought the biggest crime was the movie itself. We had a fight about it. The end."
"Jk. It's more complicated than that. A lot of tension was building up over the past year, but that fight made us realize we were very different people than we used to be and that things hadn't been working out for a while."
Akai1up
"When you're fighting over mundane things and arguing harshly about personal taste in movies, sh*t has gotten rough. I feel like there's a large lack of respect and trust at that point."
smileunicornsloveyou
Good Luck
Sad Season 2 GIF by FriendsGiphy"I had cancer and ultimately my arm removed at the shoulder. First it was 'I'm totally devoted to you' and 6 months later it was 'good luck.' This was 13 years ago. Still pisses me off."
Patri100ia
Some people are the epitome of cruel.
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