Friends share secrets and lies.
But there are only so many secrets that one person or group can keep.
It's the messier stuff you hope you stay hidden.
Redditor unkunk wanted to hear ALL the tea we had to spill.
"What is something you are aware of about your friend that they don’t know you know?"
You can't hear any of mine! But let's hear what Reddit had to say.
Infidels
Illustration Couple GIF by Jacqueline Jing LinGiphy"That they are cheating on their partner and their partner is cheating on them."
BackgroundAdvice1
"I want to know how it ends. Keep me posted. I'm genuinely curious."
Kreezy_Genie
The Family Tree
"He has an older brother who was arrested for drug and weapons possession. He's told me he has no siblings."
pumpkinspicenation
"Oof. I feel this. My older brother has an extensive history of drug abuse, violence, abusive behavior, severe mental illness, and legal issues. I haven’t spoken to him in years. For a long time, I lied and told people I didn’t have any siblings because it was too painful to talk about. I tell people the truth now, but it took a long time to get to that point."
emshlaf
Smiles
"Was passing by an odd part of town, and saw my friend's van parked near a cafe. Had to be his; two-toned, covered in stickers some of them for his band(s) past and present. I wrote an unsigned note saying 'The Universe Smiles Upon You' (yes, I'm a Khruangbin fan) and left it under his windshield wiper. To this day he has it stuck to his fridge, no idea who penned it, and each time I see it I have a cheeky smirk to myself."
JGAllswell
Happy Wedding
"Oh I have something I’ve never shared before. At my friend's wedding, her mom and I got drunk and smoked freshly rolled cigars outside. Her mom confided in me that my friends father wasn’t a good man. It’s weird because her dad is the greatest guy - spoils her and her brothers, spoils his wife. He’s also just a great human."
"I tell her this and she says, nope, that’s stepdad. She packed herself and my friend up when my friend was just a baby and left the country they had lived in and moved here. My friend has never once let on that her dad isn’t her biodad. She’s also never said her mom was married before. So that’s a secret I’ll just leave here."
sometimesiteach
So Sneaky
Chris Tucker Smoking GIFGiphy"I use to have a couple that bought weed from me separately. Neither of them wanted the other to know that they smoked. So they asked me not to tell the other. It was hilarious."
TheHippieOne
Why not smoke together? Lovers who smoke together....
Facade
Schitts Creek Comedy GIF by CBCGiphy"Despite the social media addiction to showing off their glamorous life, they’re broke, in massive debt, and completely dependent on her parents to get by."
WanderingRaindog
Santa Muerte...
"I am aware that he’s a drag queen. My fiancé likes to watch drag shows, so me and her go to one every once in a while. Upon going to one I remember seeing a great act by a queen with a distinctive tattoo of Santa Muerte on their left leg. Weeks later my friend invites me to a gym session since he wanted me to teach him how to deadlift. Well, he was wearing shorts, and you know what I see? Santa Muerte on his left leg."
"We are gym buds and then I become more familiar with him. I know he’s In a bit of a conservative household so I try not to bring up the convo since maybe it’s not him. Out of curiosity I take a mental note of his other tattoos. Then see him again on the stage weeks later and realize, yep, all of them match."
"I know his secret, but it doesn’t change my opinion on him. I’m tempted to support him directly, but I don’t want him to get scared. So when I did see him, I always leave a cash tip."
DecrepitGoose
“sleep thru anything?”
"That he wet the bed until he was 14. His mom and aunt got chatty over tea and started talking about it while I was hanging around waiting for him to get ready."
thelaughingpear
"There’s a decent chance this is due to a sleep disorder which he may still have. The people outgrow the wetting the bed but the sleep disorder persists."
"The people do not go into REM sleep. They go to a deeper sleep thus the not waking to urinate. Does the friend fall asleep in the day, riding in the car, seems to be able to 'sleep thru anything?' There is treatment. Maybe you could hint they get a sleep study if some of those other symptoms are there."
mlperiwinkle
Scars
"That I know he’s drinking again, and it’s not just a couple beers here and there. He hides it because he knows the repercussions if goes back to being a full blown drunk again. I will walk away. I went through hell watching him self destruct the last time, and was still there when he got sober. I supported him the whole way, but swore I’d never do it again. That s**t left scars."
SexyWampa
Hey Fam
Sad Hide And Seek GIF by NickelodeonGiphy"That the reason why my friend's relationship came to a sudden end is because he and his gf were really close in the family tree and not because of other things."
sasksasquatch
Missed Connections
"My best friend wanted to have sex with me in high school. A mutual friend told me later on. I actually felt the same way at the same time, but we weren't aware of the other's feelings."
spasamsd
Open Marriage
"Slept over one night in my friend's basement drunkenly. Woke up in the AM to hear his parents loudly arguing because his dad was trying to push for an open marriage. They divorced about a year later."
Guns_57
Cop Confession
"I know their dad died from erotic asfixiation. I never told anyone. I knew the cop that was first on the scene. He told me what happened and I told him this was our high school friends dad. He agreed to keep it on the down low."
Damantinomies
Shower
"I saw one of my closest gal friends naked back in high school. We were hanging out at her house, and she stepped away for a while. We were listening to music on the computer in her living room, but she had been gone for like 20 minutes. I went to look for her, and saw her wet naked body in the reflection of the tall mirror in her room. She went to take a shower apparently. She didn't notice me, and no, I wasn't a creep, I didn't stare at her, or anything. I, of course, was incredibly embarrassed, ran back to the computer, and I couldn't look at her for the rest of the evening. I never said a word about it... until about last year, I think. We were getting drinks, and I told her about it. She busted out laughing, and we giggled about it all night. I held that secret for like 14/15 years."
Dumb_and_confused
Well, that is a lot to process! Thanks for sharing.
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