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How People Became The Black Sheep Of The Family

Reddit user Yuizun asked: 'How did you become your families black sheep?'

As much as most of our favorite movies and books like to portray beautiful, functional, unconditionally loving families, we didn't all come from households like that.

It can be especially hard to be singled out by your family, functional or not, as the root of all its problems.


Redditor Yuizun asked:

"How did you become your family's 'black sheep'?"

Family No Matter What

"My family on one side shares a toxic belief that no matter how bad someone treats you 'family is family' and you continue to associate anyway."

"My parent on that side was abusive, so as an adult, I chose to not have that parent in my life. At first, I was given the 'Yeah, they were wrong and treated you horribly, but...family' speech by a few relatives, but I stayed firm on staying away from this parent."

"I'm now basically disowned. I guess family is family unless you refuse to deal with your abuser, then you aren't family?"

- Orchidforever

Not the Right Kind of "Successful"

"I didn’t go to medical, dental, or law school, lol (laughing out loud)."

- Additional-Brief-272

"I don't want to be that guy, but I'll one-up you."

"My brother is the black sheep because he's not a surgeon. He decided to be a pediatrician. My father was actually disappointed in him."

- GeneralGrueso

Adoption Troubles

"I was adopted at birth. Black Sheep Status attained!"

"My parents 'settled' for an adopted child after failing to conceive a biological one. S**tty for me that they finally got pregnant with the long-desired biological kid very shortly after my adoption."

- 1derHamster

Age Gap Issues

"I'm kind of the automatic black sheep because of my age. I'm the oldest grandchild in the family and my mom had me when she was very young so by the time her siblings had children I was already 13."

"So I'm kind of an island of my own experiences in a different phase of life than everyone... too young to really hang with the adultier adults and too old to hang with all my cousins who are 13+ years younger than me."

"Growing up, it was very isolating. It's gotten a bit better now that all of us are older, but I still don't really feel like I belong especially well anywhere."

- HeraPlum

Being Introverted

"Being an introvert in a very extroverted family."

- ApplesPeaches

"Try being introverted at home, and extroverted at work, while your family knows this."

"So it's always just, 'We know you can do better, why are you always so quiet around us?'"

- Martina313

The Sibling Shadow

"When my older sister set the bar too high starting in second grade."

- FiremanBillBradley

"My brother was always in trouble at school. I was quiet and too shy to do anything but get my work done but whenever there was trouble in my classroom it was always said by a passing teacher, 'Oh, that's x's sister, bound to be her fault.'"

- Valuable_Recipe_1387

Making Big Moves

"I moved to Japan, which I thought was fine, but in my family's eyes I am the same as Al-Qaeda."

"No joke."

"The day before I moved to Japan, my dad said to me, 'IF YOU HATE AMERICA SO F**KING MUCH, WHY DON'T YOU JUST MOVE TO IRAQ AND JOIN AL-QAEDA!'"

"Like bro, chill the f**k out, I'm moving to teach English, gawd dayum."

"My parents have since calmed down, but my 24-year-old sister basically called me a traitor the last time we talked, and my 27-year-old sister said I'm a f**king id**t for moving to a country that isn't even free."

"My parents still make fun of Japan constantly and tell me they will never ever visit me here (to which I said cool, I guess I'll never see you again, because I'm not going to America until you visit me here) so yeah."

"Somehow I'm the black sheep for just like, doing what I want."

- Particular_Stop_3332

Mental Health Stigma

"I was open about suffering from severe depression."

- LadySygerrik

Toxic Family Members

"For refusing my sister's toxic behavior in my life."

"My family is the kind of family where the saying 'family is family' really is implemented."

"However, not with me. I tolerate what I want. If you are a piece of s**t, you don't deserve to be in my life. My family did not accept that and well, baaaah."

- Kitasuki

The Wrong College

"It was a long time ago... but my older sisters were attending Wharton and MIT at the time. The best I could do was Carnegie Mellon. I still remember the look of utter disappointment on my parents' faces."

- PluckPubes

Unapologetic Lifestyle

"Pursuing my constructive life passions and even morphing them into my work, making a good living at it, and being happy and unapologetic about it."

"Instead of doing something my parent thought I should be doing instead, something that wasn’t a 'waste of my time' like a 'real' job."

"I’m the only one of my siblings without a DUI or any other legal issues. Still the black sheep."

- LivingWithWhales

Breaking Generational Cycles

"For being significantly more mentally stable and responsible, and also not enabling or making excuses for a problematic relatives behavior."

- missesalchemist111

The Unplanned Pregnancy

"I was born and had needs and that was it."

- Sunsa249

"I was born as a result of high school sex. That was my fault. They weren't ready for me. Then I had needs like education and medical care and that was just asking too d**n much."

- literally_lite_rally

Black Sheep by Association

"By being born to my mother who was already a black sheep because she was born five years after her four siblings as a 'pleasant surprise.'"

"Most people don't become the black sheep. They're born it."

- Disig

Supportive Siblings

"Supporting my sibling when my stepparent was continually unfair about them. Went from being the unwilling favorite to ‘She Who Must Not Be Named.’"

"Thankfully my in-laws are amazing!"

- bad_dancer236

From ridiculous and petty reasons to larger social issues that a child never could have chosen for themselves, people have been turned into black sheep for all sorts of reasons.

The common thread for each of these people was their decision to value themselves over how they were being treated.

Clearly, the people viewing them as the black sheep didn't like having boundaries enforced around them.

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