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Common Behaviors That Most People Find Normal But Some Consider Horribly Rude

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While people try their best to be pleasant, sometimes we are so wrapped up in our own worlds that we don't realize some of our behaviors or actions aren't appreciated by everyone.

Things like talking on the phone in a public place or listening to music without headphones have become so normal that people don't always realize others may be irritated by this behavior.


There any many things that some people consider normal that others think are rude.

Curious to know what some of those things are, Redditor dentistani asked:

"What is something people find normal, but you find horribly rude?"

What Happened To Private Conversations?

"Face timing in public. Not everyone wants to be a part of your personal life or conversation."

– Fuzzy_Principle8075

"Talking on speaker phone in public. The number of people I see holding their phone out in front of their face while they yell into it is annoying."

– mattwb72

Don't Answer The Question

"When someone talks to you or asks you a question, then when I respond with a meaningful answer, the other person just talks about something else to someone else or just doesn't respond."

– aboxatar15

"My MIL does this. Whenever we visit, she'll ask me a question about work/my side of the family/a hobby I have/whatever as a platitude, and a lot of times before I'm even done answering, she'll be like, "Oh, hey, [my nephew], tell them about your baseball game last weekend.""

– Infinite-Weakness584

May We Meet Again

"Depending on culture, people will propose to meet up again but they do not really mean it. Where I am from, if you tell someone you want to meet up again you actually mean it. I learned it the hard way when I took people for their word and tried to arrange a meet up but they'd ignore me."

"They say they do this to be polite but I consider it more rude. Just say ''goodbye''"

– maya_clara

I'm Not Here

"People just showing up for a ‘surprise visit’, like I love my family and friends but sometimes I just don’t want to hang out and a bit of forewarning would be nice"

– red-and-misdreavus

"I've had to set boundaries with my mother as she was doing the "We're coming down and going to stay with you thing." Like could you ask?! Besides she's exhausting and never stops talking and needing attention."

– Fuzzyphilosopher

"If someone shows up unannounced at my door I just don’t answer. F*ck em"

– 360SubSeven

Text Me Back!

"Expecting me to be within reach at all times. Just because I have a phone does't mean I hate you because I leave it in the other room sometimes, or go on a walk without it. I'm not dead if I take a couple of hours to get back to you."

– billbaparker

"There’s a special place in hell for people who keep messaging you trying to get your attention simply because they want it and not because they have anything important to say."

– murderymcmurderface

Can't Hear Myself Think

"Kids watching videos or playing games with volume on. Sorry I was trying to enjoy my own thoughts."

– TheConstant815

"Listening to anything on your phone without headphones/earbuds while around other people. Don't care if it's radio, music, social media. Worse if other people are trying to have a conversation."

– Daedalus332

Personal Space, Please

"When clients stand directly behind me, looking over my shoulder at my computer screen while I'm at work. 1) Back up, I don't want you standing close to me. 2) I did not invite you to look at my screen, and it is intrusive and it is uncomfortable to have you watch me work."

– madindenial

Far Too Personal

"Asking married or older people why they don’t have kids."

– DragonFlyMeToTheMoon

Focus!

"Having your phone out while socializing. I’ve stopped hanging out with people who can’t put their phone away while having a conversation, it’s so rude."

– bamblb

"There was a guy I was seeing for a couple months and when I would message him he would take HOURS to respond most of the time. But then when we would be out together at dinner he would be messaging on his phone right in front of me, replying to his mates group chat. Really showed his priorities."

– MissMidknight

Someone's Not Listening

"Talking over somebody whilst they’re already talking."

"Everybody does it and it’s so ignorant! It’s as if they’re saying “yeah I’m not interested in what you’ve got to say, Me, me, me and me…etc…”"

– Jlaw118

"My husband does this! Sometimes I just stop talking. If I’m irritated, I’ll say, “Sorry, did my talking get in the way of your interrupting?”"

– godrainlovemusic

Going, Going, Gone

"Ghosting has become pretty normal and I hate it"

– toxicrith01

"I'll never understand why this has been normalized"

"What confuses me even more is why people get so defensive when you say that it's a cruel thing to do to someone."

– RadiantHC

Ask Me First

"Filming people without their permission, especially if they are dancing or singing. Just because people are looking silly doesn’t mean you get to make them your joke."

– Soobobaloula

"pushing someones face into a cake on their special day, that is terribly rude. Not funny or cool."

– winkledorf

"Dangerous too - fancy cakes with multiple layers can be held together by wooden skewers. People have literally lost eyeballs that way."

– merecat6

"Just this past summer, I attended a wedding where the bride gently put a bite of cake on a fork after they had cut it together then fed it to her husband... Even cupping her hand underneath so no crumbs or icing could fall on his suit. And instead of doing the same to her, the groom full on chased his bride down to smash cake in her face super hard and throw it all over her while she was being dead serious trying to run away saying "no. please don't!" . And while everyone laughed like hyenas and cheered him on like it was just fine. One big joke."

"She looked so heartbroken after with cake all over her hair (which looked beautiful), her face (with perfect make up) and her dress (which was a unique style of dress that she had sewn a piece of one her father's shirts on since he had passed. So her dress was obviously something that she put a lot of thought and care into). He then proceeded to chastise her after she was upset in front of us, threw back his champagne in one gulp and then went back to the bar then dance floor."

"She spent the next 45 mins trying to fix herself. F*ck that guy forever. She's a distant cousin and although we aren't super close, I have ALWAYS known her to be a perfectly sweet, kind and loveable person so I couldn't believe she was with this jerk! I hope it's gotten better but.. My hopes aren't high for her. I wish I had felt comfortable enough to approach her and tell her she deserved better. I should have anyway."

– iwant_torebuild

Mind Your Own Business!

"When someone you don't know very well asks you personal questions."

– Back2Bach

"Add to that, someone asks you personal questions you don't know too well and feigns that are suddenly really concerned/ supportive of your struggles. Like I didn't want to be vulnerable in the first place with you and now I feel like I have to be appreciative for your fake a*s empathy."

– GreenIce2022

I 100% agree with that last one!

Do you have anything you'd like to add? Let us know in the comments below.

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