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People Share The Questions They're Too Embarrassed To Ask The LGBTQ+ Community

People Share The Questions They're Too Embarrassed To Ask The LGBTQ+ Community
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It's PRIDE month. It's time to be loud and proud.

Well, every minute of everyday we should be loud and proud.

But this month gives you an extra special buzz.

So in the spirit of learning, we will be taking questions from the class.

I know cisgender straight people still have a lot they don't understand.

What do you need to know?

Redditor hre_nft wanted everyone to feel comfortable enough to be as aloud what they've been waiting to ask a queer person. Safe space for all. They asked:

"What question have you always wanted to ask LGBTQ+ people but didn’t because you don’t want to offend them?"

There is always a good way to ask questions. I don't mind many of them.

I'm Out

coming out gay GIF by AT&T Hello LabGiphy

"What should I say to someone who comes out to me? Saying 'um, OK' or 'that's nice' sounds like I'm dismissing them but trying to ask questions or engage in conversation about it seems intrusive."

KaleidoscopeOk1749

"It depends, your response should match their excitement. People that casually weave it into conversation usually don't want confetti and vice versa."

Ok_Objective6181

So Many Letters

"I know you guys want to be inclusive and all but I always feel behind on all The letters you add to LGBT, so is it fine I just say 'LGBT+?' This is not meant to not be inclusive, I'm all for LGBT+. But sometimes it gets a bit too many letters for me personally. So will I offend you guys if I only say LGBT+?"

Riufu

"Lol all the labels I identify with are included in the + and I just say LGBT. I don’t know anybody who has been upset over hearing the shortened version. You’re good to keep using the acronym that you already say."

cas47

I Don't Get It...

"What does non-binary mean? I'm from Italy and I've never met someone who came out as non-binary or even transgender. My brother met a guy once and he (my brother) said he looked gender-fluid. Gender-fluid Is the only term used here, nobody talks about non-binary."

"I know that non-binary means that you don't identify with one gender specifically (I guess), but I really really don't get it. I'm bisexual (although I've never gotten in a relationship with a woman) so I always felt like I could relate to most people of the community in one way or another."

"But this is just something I can't seem to understand, also because I've never met someone like that. I know I might never be able to get it because I'm cisgender, but I was wondering if some of you would like to take some time to share their experiences with me so that I can understand you a little bit more."

Basyl_01

Nuances

"I know I can look up the definition of it, but why is 'queer' part of the acronym? Doesn't it encompass 'lesbian' and 'gay?' Is there a nuance I'm missing?"

Ok-Ninja1040

"One of the unintended benefits of the term 'queer' is that it's a good way of saying 'Not straight, and it's not really important for you to know why or how.'"

-CoreyJ-

Hello There

Art Peeing GIF by badblueprintsGiphy

"Is it ok to use adjacent urinals/talk at the urinals if you two are dating/ married?"

CashmeoutsidePearl

So far, nothing here seems offensive.

You Like It?

Fab 5 Netflix GIF by Queer EyeGiphy

"I wanna ask them every time an LGBTQ+ character appears in fiction, if they felt it was a good representation or not."

NoStressAccount

Pleasure Principles

"Do asexual people not want sex/don't feel horny, but still get butterflies in their stomach for a person they like? Or does that mean they don't have crushes/attraction in any form?"

skootch_ginalola

"Each person is different but a lot of asexual people still have crushes and can still be in love with people. Asexual people can be in happy and healthy relationships."

"Some asexual people might still find pleasure in sexual activities but they might not focus on sex in life. Not all asexuals are sex repulsed. But some are. There is asexuality and people who are aromantic. Aromantic people don’t feel romantic attraction to people, but might feel sexual attraction. Some people are both asexual and aromantic."

ArcherE14

Chosen at Birth

"Why is intersex included when it's a physiological/chromosomal variation and not a sexual/gender orientation? Sorry if I worded it wrong."

Fluffy-Ad342

"Intersex people often have their gender chosen by their parents at birth and so tend to have experiences very similar to trans people. Often it even has to be corrected later in life with surgeries and hormones. It's the variation from the normal binary gender/presentation of that, which aligns them with the queer community in most cases."

Yaboijustlikesgoats

Identities...

"For non binary folk: I'm having trouble wording what I want to ask, like, why I guess? I identify as a woman but don't fit in with the typical stereotypes or gender roles, but I still consider myself a woman. I don't feel like activities, or behaviors, or clothing or whatever has to have a gender to it, so why specify that you don't identify as man or woman? Idk maybe because it's not something I've struggled with, it's hard to wrap my head around! Either way, I 100% support anyone who identifies any way!"

meowing_cat93

Extra

Gay Hearts GIFGiphy

"Do you have to pay an upgrade fee to go from the LGBTQ membership to the LGBTQ+?"

ticklemejesus420

"Omg dude, you can get it for free with Amazon Prime! You didn't know?"

Araskog

I Like You

"How do you know you are attracted to the same sex? I personally wanted to know this because I am struggling with my sexuality. I have an attraction to men at least as far as I know. But I am constantly going back and forth with women. And it's been very confusing. So I guess it may be how do you know if you're attracted to anyone?"

Plush_Orchid

Ask all you want. Just be respectful. It's easy...

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