You know those people that you try so hard to like because they're a friend of a friend or a coworker you see every day and with whom you have to maintain civility but they just make it so difficult for you?
On the surface, it's easy to see why some people are less manageable to be around, while it's more difficult to detect in others.
All it takes is one bad tendency or idiosyncrasy to write a person off for good.
Curious to hear from strangers online, Redditor Individual_Owl_6925 asked:
"Whats the most unattractive thing a person can do?"
These types of people never learned about having social graces.
Disrespect
"Treat others like sh*t"
– TimSantee
"Or their kids."
"As a man in his 40s. Nothing turns me off more than a horrible mom."
– ArtVandalay47
Conversation Hijacker
"When having a conversation and someone is attempting to shut down ones excitement about a topic that they are passionate about."
– Charitable-Cruelty
Lacking Passion
"Or just not caring about their passion or ignoring them. I've met more than a few people who did that to me, I told them what I was passionate about and they couldn't even remember. I thought it was normal and that I was just boring until I started going on dates with people who actually loved hearing me talk about that stuff and even said it was attractive how much I care about these topics, and that they thought I was super interesting."
"Never settle people, and never accept poor treatment as the norm, there's always someone out there who will actually care about what you have to say."
– _Confusion_Time_
Pretentious
"Treat people that they consider 'below' them like garbage."
– throwawaytheist
"If you want to know what a man's like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals."
– jacklightsout
Some people are just so insufferable?
What kind of people, you ask?
Observe the following.
Into Labels
"First week of college my roommate’s bf shows up with HIS roommate, Tate."
"Me and Tate were left alone for a couple minutes. We were chatting and he was going to show me something in his wallet."
"Then he was like 'oops! I almost dropped my GUCCI wallet!' while smirking at me 🤮"
"I have never felt so grossed out or embarrassed for someone in my life."
– Dramiotic
What's In Your Wallet?
"Literally yesterday when I was walking out of my local gym (filled with douchebags) this meathead was on the phone in the lobby talking to someone about potentially buying a $600 wallet. So clearly trying to get people to overhear him. I swear I cringed all the way to my car."
– Heldpizza
"Unless that wallet is mugging proof (prevents you being targeted) I can’t see how any wallet could be worth that much."
– KaralDaskin
Talking Smack
"Their only source of conversation is gossiping about people."
– noname121241
"I have this nephew whose only source of conversation is talking about how much he hates Tom Cruise. Seriously, it’s all he talks about and he says he’s his greatest enemy. He’s 15."
– ___sephiroth
Some people are just plain rude.
Their Way Or The Highway
"Force their beliefs and opinions onto you—and act like a cranky baby for the smallest disagreements."
– Aceedbath
Pure Selfishness
"I find entitlement extremely unattractive. It manifests in many ways, like being rude to staff, demanding stuff, selfishing/self centeredness, expecting unreasonable things...."
"Just f'king naaaaah! Don't care if you're playboy grade 10/10, you ugly to me."
– downvote_quota
Star Of Their Own Show
"Base their life off social media likes."
– JD054
"Brag about themselves. Some body who practically ignores what anybody says and always tries making the conversation about themselves."
– tywalker215
Their Phone Is More Important
"Send texts to others all the time while you're hanging together. See ya."
– 3ilham0dgd
"Even if they text you all the time when they're with other people? /j"
– anon
"I have the opposite of this problem. I'm not a texter. My dates LOVE that I'm not reaching for my phone when we're out. But then they hate it when I don't text them back quickly."
– esoteric_enigma
The thing I have a problem with people is more like a pet peeve.
But I guess it still qualifies as an unattractive quality.
It's when people are consistently late and horrible keepers of time. I've gradually kept my distance from a number of people who weren't respectful enough to be punctual for a lunch or dinner date.
What's worse is when they're on time for other "important" obligations like reporting for work or any formal appointment.
But when it comes to meeting up with friends, they somehow think that taking their sweet time and running a "few minutes late" will be tolerated.
Nope to that.
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