Why People Had To Break Up With A Good Friend

Not The People They Once Were

"I stopped hanging out with all my friends because they all changed."

"They were nothing like how they were when I met them."

"I looked at them as my brothers but they've become what we all swore to never become and dragged me into it."

"Nothing but doing drugs, selling drugs, robbing people."

"I just decided to walk away before I became exactly like them and moved on with my life."

"I wish they could be how they once were but I know that isn't gonna happen."- SuddenCheesecake3273

Lack Of Reciprocity

"Yeah I realized my 'Treat others the way you want to be treated' approach was one-sided."

"I helped someone through some real rough patches, and when I went through some dark times they were nowhere to be seen."- fuifui_bradbrad

"Pretty much all of my high school friends and some other friends I met through work or mutual friends."

"I kept feeling like it was a 'one way' friendship."

"I would be the one texting them to hang out but I would never get texts from them to hang out."- GoldenGod48

Unervalued

"I recently cut off my childhood best friend because he views me as an ATM."

"I don't care about money."

"If I can help someone out, I will with 0 hesitation, but I refuse to be taken advantage of."

"My breaking point was when he was finalizing his wedding party and told me that I was a backup groomsmen in case anyone cancels."

"We've known each other since we were 10 years old and have always kept contact even when he moved away, but I'm not important enough to be one of the first people considered to be there."

"During that same conversation, he said that he'd still expect me to attend and hinted at wanting a cash gift from me."

"We haven't spoken in a couple of months, and I hope that trend continues for the foreseeable future."- morganfreenomorph

No Room For Negativity

"Had a buddy in school who was a really nice guy but the absolute most negative person ever."

"Everything was bad and awful, never ever stopped complaining."

"Walked into the library - too cold, walked outside, too hot, standing in the atrium - windows 15 feet up were dusty, lights inside were too blue but the wooden desks made things too yellow."

"Never stopped."

"School was stressful enough and eventually I changed my study group and location so I want around him and I just felt a whole lot better and light and happy."

"Sometimes you have to be selfish and say that if things/people aren’t making your life better, cut them out."- Dr_D-R-E

Manipulative Influence

"Man I'd called my brother since we were 5 (we're 28 now)."

"He was one of the cool kids and stayed my friend (the socially awkward weird kid)."

"Joined the marines after school, came home, and met a girl who had a kid."

"We drifted apart here and there from 21-25 but still kept contact and hung out once in a blue moon."

"I asked him to be my best man."

"He obviously said yes."

"His S/O didn't like me."

"At the time, I didn't know why."

"My wedding starts to near, i text him telling him we REAAALLLY need to go get fitted for tuxes, get a text a day or so later essentially saying he was out because of xyz."

"This was very out of character for him."

"Time passes."

"My wife and I celebrated our 1st anniversary."

"I'm outside doing stuff in the driveway, a guy that i don't even recognize walks up."

"It's him."

"We talk for a minute, and he starts breaking down, grabbing him, and we go inside."

"We talked for a while. In short he was at a mental breaking point, constantly manipulated by his now fiancé, wont let him get a job because 'she needed him at home to help her anxiety'."

"I offered him an out, gave him a place to stay as long as he needed and gave him a vehicle to drive in the mean time."

"Offered to get him a job with a good friend of mine."

"He stayed with me for a couple of days, his SO shut his debit card off, shut his phone service off, etc."

"But she would turn his phone back on to torment him."

"He came and went from my place a couple of times over those next couple of months."

"But he was stuck in an abusive relationship."

"He kept going back to his abuser."

"Telling me shed claim I did all sorts of stuff."

"Then i came home, and he and his stuff were gone."

"I texted him a day or two later, just saying, 'You good buddy?'"

"Got a text back saying how 'he couldn't hang out with me anymore and didn't like how we talked about SO when we were together, and how awful it was that we would ever do that'."

"This was written by his SO without a shred of doubt."

"The last thing I texted him was 'I don't know if i believe all that based on our conversations, but like I've said 100 times, I just want you happy and healthy if thats what it takes, then thats what it takes, you know where I'm at if you need anything, love ya dude'."

"If you're out there brother, if you read this, I miss the f*ck out of you."

"I worry about you regularly."

"Stop by, please."

"F*ck you Kaitlyn, i wish nothing but the worst for you."

"You're a shrewd cold woman and do not deserve the man or the perfect life you plaster on social media."- Theebalz106

Who Was Bringing Who Down?

"Had a buddy who was hanging out with some guys at coffee shops and they'd discuss philosophy, poetry and current events (we were in our late 20s)."

'At any rate one day he gets a call from one of the guys and my buddy asks me to go with him and we'll grab a bite afterwards."

"So we walk in and the guy is seated in a chair facing the couch."

"I jokingly asked if this was an intervention."

"Guy proceeded to tell my friend that they could no longer be friends because he needs people who will elevate him."

"In the midst of this very snarky monologue my friend looks at me and smiles awkwardly and was like 'you hungry?'"

"We stand up and leave."

"My friend is a now a c-suite employee and that guy who 'broke up' with him is still working a min wage job, been married several times and is barely holding his life together."

"Was just so...random."

"I can still remember the room and what we were wearing and the look on my friend's face when he realized what was happening and we left."- Ok-Bus1716

Friend, Not Servant

"My dear friend dumped me because I couldn’t do her anymore favors."

"She pushed off my visit a couple of times so I just quit trying."

"I almost lost my job because I had to pick up her daughter from school."

"I told her I couldn’t do it anymore."

"Kind of relieved because I was tired of always doing favors."- GingerJanMarie

Sadly Inevitable

"I got into a fight (over text) with a friend whom I had been walking on eggshells around for years."

"Unfortunately my best was involved because she was a part of the group message."

"My best friend didn’t talk to me for months."

"It broke my heart."

"The other friend as soon as I cussed her out and blocked her I felt a weight lift from my shoulders."

"My best friend eventually started talking to me again."

"So a happy ending."- Lazy_Enthusiasm25

"Best friends from elementary school through college (my college not hers)."

"Found out in college that she was lying about things to take advantage of me financially."

"My grandparents had left me some money that should have paid for my entire college including living expenses."

"Instead I worked through college and lived with my parents and also took out student loans."

"For instance I paid her rent for an entire year before she got evicted anyway because she was blowing the money I gave her on random stuff."

"While I was helping her clear her stuff out before they changed the locks I overheard her parents comment about how they had been paying her rent this entire time too."

"Or once she came to borrow money from me at work saying she bounced a check at her job and she was going to fired unless she paid it back."

"I got off work to a message from another mutual friend saying that they had gone to the movies and seen something we'd planned to watch together then clothes shopping but we could go see something else that weekend."

"She never did cover the bounced check and did lose her job and get a warrant out for her arrest."

"It wasn't just me it was everybody she did this to."

"Like at one point, she lived with her mom who was supporting her 3 siblings, and took the mom's car overnight and used an entire tank of gas to drive to another town to go clubbing, and the mother had to beg a neighbor for enough gas money to get to work."

"She also dropped out of college the first week of the first semester but never formally withdrew so her parents were still on the hook for the entire semester of fees, and she had a 0 GPA."

"I finally told her that I wouldn't give her any more money or pay for her when we went places."

"If she wanted to be friends, she needed to pull her own weight."

"Shortly before the fallout, I'd introduced her to my cousin who was bemoaning his religious gf's unwillingness to 'put out'."

"Within 2 weeks she slept with my cousin then told him she was pregnant and he needed to do the right thing and marry her."

"Once he told his parents they were engaged she told him that she lost the pregnancy but he couldn't call off the engagement without telling his super religious parents that the whole thing was because of a pregnancy scare."

"They did end up getting married."

"She talked him into enlisting in the military since she had previously commented about how unfair it is military wives don't have to work, that supporting their husbands is their only job."

"They've had 3 kids she does nothing for, her mother moved in to take care of them for her and his parents supplement his income so they can afford housing."

"She hasn't held a steady job since they've been together."

"So I've been avoiding him and her both for 15 years and get all the drama second hand from our mutual cousins (and his sister) who all hate her!"- misoranomegami

A friend is someone who is always there for you, and who you'll always be there for in return.

Any friend, however, who only brings you down is not a friend at all.

And sometimes, the only way to forgive and move on, is to let go.