Online dating––much like "regular dating"––is difficult because it requires you to put yourself out there and be vulnerable!
Unfortunately, online dating does suffer from the same sort of problems that people run into in other places online; the veil of anonymity is such that some people may not be who they appear.
That's not to say online dating is without success stories, because there are plenty out there alongside less successful tales, as we learned once Redditor Nikkiris11 asked the online community, "How has online dating worked for you?"
"She had a unique..."
My friend was weighing the pros and cons of dating this girl, he described a girl who I thought sounded really great and advised him to see her. He didn't and I never met her.
She had a unique name and years later I see that name on tinder. I think it couldn't be a coincidence so I message her the story of my friend and how I thought he blew it.
We've been dating for 7 months.
I told my friend and he got a good laugh.
"Turns out..."
Girl I met online I dated for a few months. Turns out she was temporarily separated from her husband. She started seeing another guy without anyone else knowing. I find out she was cheating on me and still married when the wife or girlfriend of the guy she was messing around with spray painted her car when she was caught at his house one night. The police called me to figure out where I was that night and told me she was married but not to the guy she had been spending the night with. This was the same day my mother died.
"Met a girl..."
Met a girl on Plenty of Fish. We went out but it didn't really work out. We are still friends and talk frequently 3+ years later.
"I think we were both..."
Met my ex-girlfriend on Tinder.
2 years together followed by an healthy, adult breakup - we still keep a good relationship post break up.
I think we were both so ready to find someone right at that time that we haven't stopped to take time for each of us as a person. We became one person as a couple and not 2 people part of a team. We were doing literally everything with each other and that led to our downfall.
Still like her very much though and probably always will. I guess my advice is a lot of people are ready to put everything on the fast lane while dating online and that's a mistake. Take your time."
"I met a boy..."
I met a boy online 14 years ago when I was 17. He was in Alaska, I was in Australia, but he was my 'online dating boyfriend'. He's currently sitting next to me in Australia as my husband of 8 years. 10/10 would find in the abyss of the internet and marry so hard again.
"Never gotten a date..."
Rarely match, when I do get a couple messages back and forth of pleasantries and getting to know then ghosted.
Every time.
Never gotten a date with anyone from online.
"Messaged by a girl..."
Messaged by a girl on Bumble who was wearing a pro wrestling and a Mass Effect shirt in two different pics, and responded immediately.
Been dating for over a year now.
"Highlights include..."
Not great. Highlights include the dude that kept texting me pictures of Hitler until I blocked him, several who got too drunk to stand, one who puked as I tucked him in and then called me a snotty b*tch for not sleeping with him, and the guy who licked my face with no preamble on the ride home. Yeah, I'm done lol.
"After countless..."
Got married to the person I met online dating. After countless sh*t dates, it was just really nice, relaxed, and we just clicked. We've barely been apart since, and that was 10 years ago.
"So not really dating..."
So not really dating....but I met my husband online. In a MSN chat room... in 1999 when online dating was unheard of.
One day he sent me a " whisper" (a private message for those of you who have never heard of MSN chat) and asked if he could come see me. He lived 5 hours away and drove down to take me to dinner and then drove back home.
20 years later we are married for 13 years after doing long distance for 7, and have 3 kids.
@sama/X
