Content Warning: Sexual Harassment
"She deserved it." "She was asking for it." "She wasn't clear about her boundaries." "She didn't actually say 'no.'"
We've heard all of these rebuttals time and time again when women account for instances of being sexually harassed, pursued, and assaulted. But most of the time, women do exactly what they should do, and no one else wants to take accountability.
Other than becoming physically violent, TikToker @hotweirdgirl69 and her friend did everything that they could have done to encourage two men to leave their bar table that they had joined without an invitation.
TikToker @hotweirdgirl69 started recording a video mid-sentence, with the camera facing her and her friend, while she told two men across the table that it was a "girls-only table."
The TikToker then proceeded to tell the men that they were not welcome at the table. She pointed out other tables that were empty that they could use instead. She made jokes about an empty table being lonely and the men coming to the table's aid.
Then she became angry, threatened to spill one of the men's Guinness beer all over him, stood up to make herself taller, threatened to leave the table herself, and screamed, "Witch! Witch! Witch!" to cause a scene.
Through each of these attempts, the two men smiled at the two women, and their gazes were empty. They also spoke in low tones in a language that did not sound like English, suggesting that they might not have understood everything the TikToker was saying. But screaming "no," pointing at other tables, and threatening to knock a drink over really should have done the trick.
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@hotweirdgirl69 disgusting.
Some TikTokers pointed out that this was a perfect example of how often women do the "right" thing and are blamed anyway.
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Others were thoroughly creeped out by the men's stares, smiles, and lack of communication with the women.
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In any kind of social gathering place—like a bar—and in any country there are going to be misunderstandings sometimes, and that's especially true if there's a language barrier. But language should not have been the subject here, as these women clearly were not interested in talking.
Quite frankly, a bear typically will shy away and even leave the scene if they're yelled at enough, and they definitely wouldn't have to walk away smelling like beer.