When we are in a valley, depressed, anxious, or feeling hopeless, it can seem that things will never improve again. It feels as though that destroyed self-image and total lack of motivation is a permanent state.
Truly, it's a sense of total doom that arises from a mixture of both internal and external circumstances.
But we can get out of there. We can leave that place. People have been there and ascended. It's possible to resurface and rediscover joy, to access feelings of pride and gratitude that seemed gone forever when down in the valley.
What pulls a person out of the hole, however, is variable. Different things work for different people. Some need interpersonal connection and love. Others need to forget themselves in an ongoing task or action.
However it happens for people, their stories remind how entirely possible it is to get back in the saddle.
panicdotjpg asked, "What broke you out of your lowest point in life?"
Externalize
"Getting a job, interestingly enough."
"I actually had something to do during the day instead of being stuck at home missing my recently-passed grandfather and listening to my parents' marriage implode."
"Being forced to interact with people also made me more assertive and gave me responsibilities."
Fake it til You Make it
"Theater."
"I was in an abusive relationship. I played a character who's husband was plotting to kill her. I kept on getting compliments on how well I played the part of the terrified battered woman. The week before we opened I left him and never looked back."
"If my character could survive and find happiness than so could I."
-- BAUIntern
Love Helps
"I was saved by a girl I was really crazy about. She was outside of all the problems going on and was a beacon of light and hope in the disaster that was my world."
"I started building a life with her in another state and could escape the horrors I was dealing with and go visit her whenever I could afford the plane fare."
"She kept me going, gave me hope, and ultimately helped rebuild our world together."
Nurturing Forces
"My fiance and my mom. I'd been running dead end fast food and living in my own filth after my ex destroyed me emotionally and I failed out of college."
"I met my fiance on line and we started talking. She kept going out her way to keep me company when I was lonely and online playing games together."
"Meanwhile my mom pushed me to try a budget program for kids who didn't go to/finish college to get IT training and job skills to be more hireable."
"It's been 4 years now. Engages. Working a high end job. I owe it all to the 2 best women in my life."
"I am a lucky man"
Forget Yourself
"Had a child. I never even realized I was at my lowest point. I was a night shift worker at taco bell after failing out of college."
"Up to my ears in debt with no prospects in sight and the worst part was I had grown to accept that I would be struggling to pay rent, going without health care, and living off of Ramen for the foreseeable future."
"I would have even said I was happy."
"Then I found out I had a kid and suddenly I knew that I had nothing to offer. I wouldn't be able to provide a stable home, Healthcare, or any of the costly advantages a kid can get in this country. 6 months later I was in a bus headed for basic training."
"18 years later he is getting ready to go to college and I have always been able to keep a stable place for him to come to when things get too stressful."
-- shroom2021
From Someone Who's Been There
"I was recovering from a life changing injury and was taking my limitations a bit hard. I met a guy my age that was confined to a wheel chair, he spoke with me and was so positive."
"He had it worse than me and had that kind of outlook. I had no right to be a stick in the mud, I chose to accept my situation and live positively."
Neurochemical Interventions
"Magic mushrooms. I was at my heaviest weight and a mushroom trip gave me the push I needed to start losing weight and being healthier."
"I'm still not where I want to be with my weight, but I'm going in the right direction"
Other Neurochemical Interventions
"Medication. I can't stress enough how much of a difference I've felt and experienced after starting anti depressants. The fog has lifted and I've never been this level headed and confident. I've struggled my whole life and have experienced some very very low points."
"Finally in my 30s I decided to look I to meds and it really helped."
"There is definitely something to be said for diet and exercise and getting outdoors, but failing that, talk to your doc."
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