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People Share Their First Thoughts When A Guy Refers To Himself As An 'Alpha Male'

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Confidence is an admirable trait.

A person who is determined, knows exactly what they want, and goes for it despite unpopular opinion usually succeeds in achieving their goals.

But when it comes to friendships or romantic relationships, guys who exude too much self-assuredness and see themselves as superior can be a total turn-off.

Especially when they refer themselves as an alpha.


Curious to hear from strangers online, Redditor XqueezeMePlease asked:

"What are your immediate thoughts when you hear a guy refer to himself as an 'Alpha Male'?"

People shared their interpretations to hearing a guy declaring himself an alpha.

Self-Granted Permission

"Translation: 'I am going to be an unapologetic a**hole.'”

–darkwulf1

Moving Forward

“I can’t take anything from him seriously from now on.”

– YourLocalOrangePeel

"It's a real life cheat code to make your reputation go to 0%."

– AstronomerNo556

Being A Male

"try to explain to them how much of a bitch they really are for having to boost their self importance by telling others how great they are....instead of actually BEING great."

"i will never forget my father telling me 'being a male, does not mean your a man.'"

– tokikain

What is he really saying about himself?

Hiding Insecurity

"That he’s deeply insecure."

– ButternutSnuggleButt

"Narrator: he wasn’t an alpha male."

Yellowmellowbelly

The Thing About Actual Male Confidence

"The entire sub-culture around 'Alpha Males' is centered around men being insecure. And I say this from personal experience. In middle school, high school, and even early college I was a very insecure guy and I’d watch videos constantly on 'how to be an alpha' and it would only spiral into me hating myself more for not amounting to the standards of an 'alpha'.

"Confident, secure men wear what they want, do what they want, and are comfortable being themselves regardless of what society or its standards say. I mean take Harry Styles for example, that man can wear a dress, put on makeup, and be himself confidently AND he still is more of a man than any self-proclaimed 'alpha.'"

"Manliness and masculinity isn’t about looking like a lumberjack, drinking whiskey, and working out 24/7 (though it’s okay if you do any of these things because that’s what you genuinely enjoy), its about being confident in who you are as a man whatever that means for you. People fail to realize, if you are a man and you do something, anything, that in and of itself is inherently manly regardless of what society says."

"I’m so happy that I was able to come to these realizations and deal with the real underlying issues I had of low self-esteem but it’s so sad to see so many young men fall prey to “alpha” bs and base their entire existence on the concept of trying to be 'alpha' all because instead of talking through their feelings and mental health they let their insecurities dictate their life."

– ccalicich32

Measure Of A Man

"Small dick energy."

– NeoWarriors

You want to stay away from these types of men.

Self-Aggrandizement

"Translation: I’m extremely insecure and need to feel superior and also think woman are property."

– TwistedFate21

Potential For Abuse

"My girlfriend has bruises she lies about"

– AsperaAstra

Code

"'Alpha Male' is just code for I think I can beat up most people around me so I want to be treated as special and not be forced to obey social niceties and laws."

– anon

Public Threat

"Like an alpha of a program or videogame, highly unstable and should not be available to the public."

– Whismurr_

Let's face it. No one using the phrase "alpha male" to describe themselves is going to be likable.

Unless you are desiring to be dominated by a superior alpha under erotic pretenses, you're better off keeping your inner circle exclusively without complete morons.

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