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Woman Asks For Advice After Learning Her 'Amazing' Boyfriend Of 5 Years Doesn't Believe Women Should Be Allowed To Vote

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The 19th Amendment gave some women the right to vote—Native Americans, Asians and most Black women living in the south were forced to wait for separate laws allowing them to vote—but even White women voting was extremely controversial at the time.

But the 19th Amendment passed 99 years ago.

Surely no one is still opposed to women voting.

Right?


Well...

Reddit user randomaccount1775 (let's call her RA1775 for short) went to the subReddit relationship_advice to ask what to do after finding out her significant other doesn't think women should be allowed to vote. No, he wasn't born before 1920 (we think?).

After extolling his virtues in her since updated post, RA1775 revealed:

"...he just admitted to me that over the past year he's grown more and more extreme in his views, to the point that he believes women have ruined the country (we are American) and that they should not be allowed to vote... He says he did not feel comfortable telling me about this sooner because he thought he would lose me."
"I'm upset and I can't tell if I'm wrong to be upset about this because I know that everyone is entitled to have their own views, but now I just feel as though he doesn't even value my own input/views. He has assured me that he still thinks that I should be allowed to vote but that women in general should not..."

Here's her full post.

People had feelings about her "perfect, most amazing partner."

LeatherDaddyLonglegs commented:

"The best advice I ever saw was 'Don't marry a man unless you'd be proud to have a son just like him'
What are you doing, OP?"

That advice resonated with several other Redditors.

"In this situation, I would ask if you would want him to raise your daughters." ~ Yosemite_Pam
"'remember my little princess, Daddy loves you, and you're too stupid to vote'" ~ Thr0waway886
"'And you're ruining the country'" ~ NewYorkJewbag

DoctorSass shared their own experience with a man they thought they knew, who after years together revealed a side they didn't expect.

"So I dated someone for 3 years who at the end of our relationship casually mentioned he didn't think the Holocaust happened. I. WAS. SHOCKED. I too had the same feelings you are having and wasn't sure what to do."
"In the coming weeks though he became more and more open with his radical viewpoints and it became abundantly clear that we would never work out. It was so weird though to have someone I knew SO well become a stranger in a matter of weeks."
"If I could go back in time to when he first told me that, I would have left him then and there. It would have been a lot less ugly in the long run that way."

She added:

"There were other red flags before that I ignored and brushed off as jokes, for example racist or misogynistic or homophobic jokes that when confronted he'd be like 'I was just kidding'."
"We also had many substantial conversations where I believed that although we had different political views we saw eye to eye on all the big stuff. For example, the sandy hook shooting happened when we were together and we both agreed stricter gun control was necessary after that. We both had different personal view points on abortion but both agreed that it was a women's right to choose. We both were avid supporters of gay marriage."
"We had a lot of deep conversations however world war 2 never came up. He was a veteran so we extensively discussed Middle East politics and current wars but hadn't ever discussed previous wars. A lot of you are apparently avid world war 2 historians and bring it up much sooner than we did."
"I however was completely blown away when he said this on our nightly walk like nothing. i was madly in love with this man and this hit me like a ton of bricks."
"We fought bad. He called me names for not supporting his beliefs. There was no reasoning with him about this... He became more and more radical and the relationship ended horribly violently and dramatically."

asymphonyin2parts commented:

"I don't think he gets a vote on whether you stick around."

jrai86 had a warning for RA1775:

"I seriously doubt that a man who thinks women shouldn't be allowed to vote is good in all other ways. He's clearly a misogynist. Do you really want to raise little girls with a man who thinks like he does? This is a deal breaker."
"He says not you, just women in general."
"That's not true. If he could take away every woman's right to vote including yours, I bet he'd do it in a second. This guy is poison."
"What would your mother, or sister, or friends say if they knew he believed this? What would you say to them if their partner told them he believed this?"

pomegranatepants99 asked some things others also wondered:

"HOW exactly did we (women) ruin the country? By voting? For what?"
"This is a huge red flag. Basically bf is saying that as a woman you're not capable of making your own decisions?"
"That your decisions are dangerous?"
"Imagine what a marriage with this person would look like. If you had children - especially FEMALE children - what would he teach them??"

RA1775 added an update to their original post.

"I wanted to say thank you to everyone that has offered me support. It has really helped me get through all of the self-doubt I have been facing.
"He really had me questioning this entire situation and whether I was overreacting or not..."
"Thank you again to everyone that has shared words of support and advice, it truly means a lot. Even if my opinion isn't valid to him, at least it's valid to all of you!"

She has not provided an update.

Until then, here's a message for her and women everywhere.

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