Despite having access to a whole world of potential mates right there in our pockets, dating someone who wants to stick around for the long haul is becoming increasingly hard to find.
After going on 21 first dates in 2024, TikToker Lindsay, who goes by @cuteascluck on the platform, would have to agree.
Unfortunately, she already has her first 2025 experience locked in, as well.
After matching with a guy on a dating app, Lindsay thought things were going well. They used FaceTime for their first date, and everything seemed to go well on their second—this time in-person—date.
But their third date at a bar/restaurant went awry thanks to a pair of strangers.
Reflecting on the experience, Lindsay's date seemed to be doing everything a woman would hope a guy would do and was "coming on strong" while expressing his interest in dating her long-term.
But when she came back from the bathroom, the two women sitting at the table next to her got up to leave. One of the women complimented her hair and then handed her a note.
At first, Lindsay's date questioned what was inside, but when she said there were "a lot of words" and that she'd read it later, he let it go.
But Lindsay didn't know what to think and turned to TikTok for advice.
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Many could not see the note in the original video, so Lindsay created another, showing it in its entirety.
The note had been written on what appeared to be receipt paper and was folded so the message could not be seen from the outside.
In large handwriting, most of the note read:
"Just no!!!"
In smaller handwriting off to the left side, the writer added:
"You can do better."
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Some TikTokers admitted that they thought Lindsay had said something affirming originally, like, "Just know that you can do better," but seeing the actual note sealed the deal for them.
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Others agreed and stated that the girls were likely warning Lindsay about something.
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The saga continued in a third video when Lindsay decided to confront her date about the note.
Prior to asking him about it, he had sent her a series of "drunken sales pitch" text messages, telling her how much it made sense for the two of them to be together and that there was no denying their future together.
This alone made her start to lose interest in the guy as a prospect, but his interactions with her about the note sealed the deal.
He told her that he "didn't remember" the other women at the restaurant and later that he "didn't know" the other women that were there that night and surmised that they must know his ex.
This alarmed Lindsay, as it made her think that he must have been a questionable partner in the past.
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Fellow TikTokers reassured Lindsay that there were more than enough red flags here to stop dating the guy.
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Lindsay has since ended the relationship because of the note, the "drunken sales pitch" texts, and his dismissal of the women she interacted with when receiving the note.
As much as he felt that they were a guaranteed match, it was clear Lindsay didn't feel the same way—and no amount of "chemistry" or "convincing" will change that.
