It's becoming alarmingly obvious that the Venn diagram of people who complain they can't find anyone "good to date" and people who behave terribly on their dates is essentially a circle.
TikToker Rachel Anderson recounted her experience of a first date that went sour within about 30 seconds, leading her to block the guy before she even reached her car.
In preparation for the date, the guy in question coached her, telling to dress as if they were having a "lounge day" together, and sharing only the general area where the date would take place. She was looking forward to it, followed his suggestions, and even called to check in before the date to see if she'd misinterpreted anything.
But the only "misinterpretation" turned out to be that this may have been a date for her, but for him it was an opportunity to embarrass and humiliate someone.
Anderson recounted:
"I was told it was a surprise and to wear something comfortable, to act like it was a 'lounge day at home.'"
"So, I throw on some sweat pants, a sweatshirt, some tennis shoes, my hair in a bun. No jewelry, no nothing."
In a follow-up video, she shared that she was wearing a lounge set that many influencers wear on the go, a high-quality sweatshirt, and she curled her hair before putting it in a bun. Not knowing what they were doing, she wanted her hair out of the way, and she didn't want her jewelry to be lost or ruined.
Staring gravely at the screen, Anderson then asked:
"Why does this man then try to walk me into a fine-dining restaurant?"
That was enough for her to exit the date.
"Immediately no. I turned around and walked out."
"As soon as you meet me, you want to level the playing field by humbling and embarrassing me by bringing me out to a place where you know that I am under-dressed?"
"Absolutely not. I went and got myself some fast food."
"Old me would have tried to figure out why. I would have messaged him. I would have been like, 'How could you embarrass me like that?'"
"Now? Immediately blocked. You showed me who you were, and you don't have to show me twice."
"You will never, ever have the opportunity to try to humble me again."
You can watch the video here:
Fellow TikTokers reassured Anderson that she had read the situation properly and they were proud of her for walking away.





Others agreed and vented about people not behaving properly in the dating scene.





In a follow-up video, Anderson pointed out that the three main questions she kept getting over and over and over again were about what he was wearing, what she was wearing, and why she didn't research the restaurant and its dress code before the date.
In the video, Anderson explained that her date told her to dress like they were having a "lounge day," and even when she FaceTimed him before the date to make sure her outfit was okay, he agreed it was and showed what he was wearing, which at the time was a casual jogger outfit.
The area they intended to meet also had a variety of activity centers and restaurants, many of which would have gladly welcomed them in their current attire, so she didn't think she had a reason to worry.
But when she arrived at their meeting spot, he was wearing a dress shirt, dress pants, had a fresh haircut, and then attempted to lead her into a fine dining restaurant. She said she immediately knew what was going on and decided to leave.
At this point, the date really showed his true colors by following her, insisting it was a joke, and then yelling at her, demanding her to stop and get inside.
You can watch the follow-up video here:
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After hearing more of the story, fellow TikTokers were grateful that Anderson elected to just walk away.





No date is guaranteed to work out, obviously, but we can recognize when we're being treated unfairly, and act accordingly.
This seemed like a planned humiliation tactic, and Anderson did the right thing by walking away and blocking the guy without giving him a chance to explain his "joke" or try to embarrass her again.














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