Usually giving it away by what they say to us.
Without even needing to open their mouths.
Redditor redwan-ezt was curious to learn the dead giveaways that someone was insecure, leading them to ask:
"What screams 'this person is insecure' without them saying a word?"
"A coworker of mine suddenly started parking his car couple blocks away from office."
"I found out later that it’s because his Truck was in repair shop and his insurance only gave him a ‘small sedan’ as rental."- Lime_n_Lemon
"Anyone who can't let their partner out of their sight."- katieobubbles
"People who perceive quiet people as arrogant or stuck up."
"If someone not interacting with you causes you to believe that the person must think they're better than you, then you have a self-esteem issue."- 07SAS
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"Bullying behavior."- brokenmcnugget
"Big boss at work I think has a fetish for publicly bullying/shaming people."
"He doesn't try it with me anymore, but in the last meeting, he tried to bully me, he said something so insulting and out of nowhere that I just started belly laughing, and said that was a good joke for you."
"He was furious that I laughed at his pathetic attempt to publicly bully me and shot it right back at him."
"He's never tried to insult/bully me again."
"Same with school bullies really, just gotta fight fire with fire."
"My boss later came to me and said he's been moaning for the past two weeks about how I publicly embarrassed him."- X0AN
"Someone who perceives neutral statements as attacks/criticism and becomes defensive, someone who is unable to reflect about their own behavior because it threatens their identity and ego."- throwRAbcredditsucks
"Seeking constant validation from social media."- de_das_dude
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"Trying to crush your hand during a handshake."- LateralEntry
"The girlfriend of my male coworker friend would physically put herself between the two of us."
"If I happened to be chatting in a circle of friends, there’s GF relocating and shoving her way between our line of sight."
"And if we were at dinner, when I would visit the restroom, she would move and sit in my seat."
"All of this took place in a larger group of friends who saw it as well, AND not to mention I was usually sitting next to my sweet, smart, funny, smoke show of a husband."
"I learned that she didn’t just do this with me, but even his female cousins."
"When they broke up, she ended up moving next door to him and getting married within a few months."- IGuessImFineWithThis
"Jealousy."
"It’s a self-esteem issue."- JRich61
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"People who constantly have to be in a relationship and just jump to another person immediately after a break up."- Stagymnast198622
"People who wear designer brand everything, all at once."
"Valentino belt with LV bag and Gucci sneakers....like a walking Times Square."- OutlandishnessAny183
"Social media is full of lifestyle pictures."
"One watch after another."
"Luxury sports cars (probably rentals)."
"And motivational quotes."
"Upon further review, if their feed is dominated by motivational quotes, they're working through some stuff, 99.8% guaranteed."- squishmallow1996
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"Punisher logo and its variants."- apackagefromted
"Copying every facet of someone else."
"If you have to try and morph into someone to have a sense of self, you have issues."
"Get your own clothes/hairstyle/makeup/wedding details. "- GrlInt3r46
"They need to put their name on every building!"
"Lol."- LeftyLibra_10
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Perhaps the most ironic thing about these tell-tale signs is that most of the time, people behave this way in an effort to hide something about themselves.
When all they do is make themselves even more conspicuous.
Though anyone watching the news wouldn't disagree that some people's insecurities are far more obvious than others...
The craziest part of the story?
According to NBC10 Philadelphia, Graham was explicitly told not to move her car:
“The whole area was locked off, and I walked over to the cop, and he told me not to move my car, so then I didn't, and then it all kind of froze over, and my car kind of got the worst of it.”
That warning came just before a 6-inch water main broke nearby. The street was blocked off with caution tape as crews worked, but the damage was already underway. With nine inches of snow blanketing much of Philadelphia, cars passing through the area repeatedly splashed water onto Graham’s parked Civic. Over several days, that runoff froze layer by layer, sealing the vehicle shut.
The result looked less like a car and more like a chilly art installation—one that might reasonably charge admission. Thick ice coated the windows, doors, and tires, freezing the Civic in place and turning an ordinary parking spot into a neighborhood spectacle.
When Graham returned the next day, the scene stopped her cold:
“I was definitely in shock.”
You can see the car fully encased here:
Neighbors later told NBC10 that water from the broken main flowed down North Front Street for several days. Each passing vehicle added another splash—and another frozen layer—to the already immobilized car.
Rather than panic, Graham took the situation in stride:
“It's fine. It's kind of funny, so it is what it is. I shoveled it out on Monday, and I was driving on Tuesday, and then left it in the same spot I shoveled out.”
She even filmed herself attempting to chip away at the frozen exterior:
Unsure what to do next, she shared photos of the ice-covered car on social media. The post quickly went viral, inspiring social media jokes, memes, and photoshopped images. Rather than bristle at the attention, Graham leaned into it.
She shared one of her favorite reactions from commenters:
“People had photoshopped little tickets onto the windshield of my car, so I thought that was pretty funny, honestly.”
As the video spread, Graham’s boyfriend launched a GoFundMe to help cover transportation costs and potential repairs. The fundraiser quickly surpassed its original $5,000 goal, raising $10,400.
In the GoFundMe description, Graham’s boyfriend explained the situation:
“Tianna is a Philly school teacher, juggling grad school work, who relies on her car to get to work and get by day-to-day. This wasn’t negligence or recklessness, just a genuinely unfair situation that left her without reliable transportation overnight.”
The frozen Civic even became a local attraction, drawing Philly neighbors who had to stop and see the ice sculpture in person.
A news report captured the scene as residents gathered around the encased car:
The Philadelphia Water Department confirmed that the repairs to the 6-inch water main break are complete. And when NBC10 spoke with Graham last week, she said the car could start but remained unsafe to drive because ice was blocking the exhaust pipe.
Still, social media rallied around her, praising her calm attitude and sense of humor, with some neighbors hoping the viral moment might bring a little luck her way.
You can view the reactions here:
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Luckily, by Monday, Graham’s Civic was finally shoveled out and towed. She said her insurance company believes the car is likely totaled, though it will undergo an inspection to confirm.
In an update shared on TikTok:
So, what began as a frustrating stroke of bad luck quickly snowballed into a viral moment that rallied neighbors, entertained the internet, and helped offset the fallout. And after several days as Philly’s most famous ice sculpture, the car’s final act—being towed away on Monday—brought the saga to a fitting, if soggy, close.
But father of two, Redditor Fit_Bowl_7313, didn't see it that way when he left a special note for his wife and their two-year-old and four-month-old daughters.
The dad wrote:
"Dear Mommy, Blakely, and Kensly:"
"I will miss you girls so much this week! Mommy is doing such a great job. She is Superwoman and Supermom! Make sure you are good for her this week!"
"Blakely and Kensly, Daddy is so proud of you girls! You are both so smart and so funny! I love you girls so much and will miss you!!!"
"Keep practicing your alphabet letters, Blakely! And keep practicing your tummy time, Kenz!"
"Love you and can't wait to FaceTime on the phone with you and Mommy this week!"
"So proud that you three are my girls!"
You can see the original letter here:
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Feeling good about what he wrote, the Redditor was later confused when his wife had a negative reaction to the letter, believing that it was only for their daughters and not for her.
Confused, he shared the note on the "Marriage" subReddit, wondering if he'd done something wrong, writing:
"I said goodbye to my wife this morning for a work trip for a week and left this note on the table for my wife and two little girls (two years old and four months old)."
"I addressed it to the 'The Girls,' meaning all three of them (including my wife)."
"But she thinks it shows no care towards her and that I only care about my kids and not her."
"Does her anger seem justified here? Just want to see if I’m missing something here because my intent was to leave a nice note for all of them. Thank you for the feedback!"
Some Redditors reassured the dad, stating that this was a very sweet note to receive.
"Your wife is delusional. This is cute, and you clearly meant it for her, too. You complimented her." - Important_Salad_5158
"As a wife and mother, all I see is a beautiful and loving note. I’m very confused by her response." - soicallherbigbooty0
"It’s a sweet note. Nothing to really be upset about. She probably just wants to be recognized outside of being a mom. Four months is a tough time and solo parenting for a whole week is daunting."
"Send her some flowers while you’re gone with a cheeky note just for her. Nice flowers that come already arranged from a local florist." - merrygirl07
"It's a lovely note. Maybe she’s just hormonal? Losing herself in being a mom? Does she get out much right now? Asking because you mentioned the younger one is only four months old." - Timely_Survey_7990
But others were critical of the letter and understood why the mom was upset.
Not only did the letter fixate on the daughters and their current achievements, but the letter only mentioned his wife's role as a mother and only referred to her as "Mommy" and not by her name.
"She wants you to see her as your wife, not just mommy. She wanted a note that said I love you so much and I can’t wait to get back to you. She wants to know you still see her as the beautiful woman you fell in love with and not just 'Mommy.'"
"This is her way and opportunity of saying you don't acknowledge her expectations at other times. This is just a symptom of underlying resentment that you need to address." - Edith111
"I don’t think she’s delusional at all, I think she’s four months postpartum and in her own with two toddlers. And yeah, he missed the paragraph to the only person who can read the letter. This was a super cute letter, though, but I can see why this stressed her out, given the circumstances." - jalapeneno
"I was going to say she has a two-year-old and a four-month-old! Postpartum made me feel like a crazy person and I felt like I needed more attention from my husband as well, so this could just be hormones talking."
"Being upset about you leaving and her alone with two babies is a lot and overwhelming, as well, so I would just consider that to be what’s going on post partum is no joke." - Aggressive_Junket245
"I'm a dad, but I would never have written that section outlining what the kids should work on while I'm gone. It's hard enough solo parenting with two kids at those ages, she doesn't need the pressure of his expectations that she should help them work on letters and tummy time. The letter was great until I hit that. My ex-wife would have been angry too." - MaineMan1234
"Your response is very dismissive of her. Maybe she doesn’t want to be 'super mom.' Maybe she is feeling overwhelmed at the prospect of caring for the two kids and the household all by herself for so long without any rest in sight."
"He tries to be appreciative in his letter, but perhaps he should write more to her directly as his wife (outside of her role as a mother)." - Party_Meringue9740
"I see that she was mentioned to their children, who she will be caring for, yes, OP complimented her to the children, but she doesn't have a note to just her."
"Reading this note to her children and bridging that intended connection from OP, to their kids is an added thing. Sweet, loving, well intentioned, but with a four-month-old, I didn't really want to have to do or think about extra things, and she has both a four-month-old and a two-year-old. For a week. Presumably alone for most of that."
"OP, you left your kids sweet messages and included sweetness to their mom, but she didn't get a personal message from her person, her partner, who she's supporting to go on a week-long business trip."
"Like a 'hey, babe, I love you and appreciate you so much, and I'm gonna miss you while I'm away. You've got this Supermom/Superwoman,' for her on the note. When you come back, bring something she likes, and a little gift for each of your girls."
"Like personally, I get mad when my partner doesn't say goodbye to me with the same enthusiasm as our kid every morning, I can't imagine a bare goodbye that's meant for a week." - IllChange1151
The dad may have meant the best with this note, but it's clear that more was needed for his wife to feel secured and loved, not just as a mother figure to his children.
He needed to remember who he dated, and who he married, before he ever had children, and to remember to address her in that way, too, not just as the mother of his children.
