Woman Leaves Note For 'Rude' Server On Receipt After She Kept Misgendering Her Boyfriend

After a server at an Indianapolis restaurant misgendered a young woman's boyfriend not once but three times, the woman called the server out in a series of TikTok videos.

The first of the videos, posted by TikToker @licibaby96 on Saturday, has gone on to receive 2.7 million views.

The video's caption gave viewers a brief synopsis of what @licibaby96 and her boyfriend, Oliver, went through during their visit to Indianapolis' Boathouse Grill.

"What a rude women!"

"Like we told you 3 times !"

"You had no excuse to keep doing it!"

"At that point it’s disrespect! "

"I hope you have a horrible day!"

The video began with a close up of @licibaby96's bill and the note she left for their server before leaving.

"You had 3 different chances to not do that!"

"Be better next time. It’s 2022!"

The video then cut to a shot of the tip she left for their server, a five-dollar-bill, just over ten percent of their total bill, before the camera panned to Oliver, looking visibly shaken.

Things then shifted to @licibaby96 in her car on her way home, where she gave a detailed account as to what transpired at the restaurant.

@licibaby96 confessed there is little she enjoys less than giving servers poor tips, but after their server misgendered Oliver, a transgender man, on three separate occasions she simply could not justify giving her a good tip.

Particularly as @licibaby96 believed their server misgendered Oliver intentionally on the second and third occasions.

When their server first came to their table and greeted @licibaby96 and Oliver by saying "hey, ladies," @licibaby96 confessed their server did apologize after being corrected and attributed her initial mistake to her age, without justifying it as an excuse.

But upon returning to the table, the server once again referred to them both as "ladies" resulting in @licibaby96 once again correcting her.

Even though the server was once again apologetic and expressed her concerns @licibaby96 and Oliver were "insulted" by her blunder, @licibaby96's patience with their server was beginning to wear thin.

"She's like, Oh my god, I'm so sorry, I hope you're not getting insulted."

"And I’m like, ‘Well no, he’s trans, so he probably is f*cking getting his feelings hurt'."

While one would have imagined this would have made the server more careful for the remainder of the meal, she once again referred to them as "ladies" when leaving them their bill and wishing them a good day, which proved to be the last straw for @licibaby96.

"The ignorance is ridiculous."

"Your lucky I tipped you at all, it's 2022, get with the f*cking program."

@licibaby96 continued to express her anger with what she and her boyfriend had just experienced in a follow-up video.

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@licibaby96 revealed her boyfriend had trouble even finishing his lunch after being misgendered by their server and also vented in this supposedly "woke" modern era, there was simply no justification to behave as their server did.

"You don't gotta gender anyone that you don't know, and this b*tch knew."

@licibaby96 concluded her rant in a subsequent follow up video, revealing in the caption exactly why this experience rattled her to the extent it did.

"I hate seeing him hurt , I hate people , I’ll be his protector though always ."

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@licibaby96 expressed what she found most befuddling about the experience was while Oliver might have "an androgynous face" he otherwise does not look at all feminine and is clearly an extremely handsome man which she told him directly as he was driving.

"Just understand that that lady was very insecure with herself, because you did not deserve that and there's no part of you that looks feminine."

@licibaby96 ended the final video documenting the saga by promising to spend the rest of the day making sure Oliver "felt like the man" he is, quickly turning her camera to show his flattered expression at the steering wheel.

@licibaby96 found herself with abundant support from TikTok in the comment section, with several offering their love and support to Oliver after the hurtful and humiliating experience he went through.

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Some current and former servers agreed there was no excuse for their server's constant misgendering, while others agreed she wasn't worthy of any tip at all.

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But @licibaby96 justified her decision to shortchange their server, rather than deprive her of her tip altogether, having been a former server herself.

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It must have been a blow for the server to receive a smaller tip than she was accustomed to.

One can only hope it will teach her however bad she felt receiving a small tip, Oliver felt even worse each time he was misgendered.