Boyfriend's Mother Slut Shames Girlfriend For Having Sex Toys Locked In Basement, And The Internet Has Feelings

As a guest... act accordingly! 

I agree with everything said in this thread, you're 100% in the right. Being a guest somewhere doesn't give you unlimited access to everything in that home, that's stupid. Do you think guests to the White House are allowed to run around going into every room because "they're guests?"

This really gets me though.

she had to find out what I'm hiding down there because she thought it could be something illegal

So her response to a locked basement - basements are often used as storage, they're out of the way, nobody needs to be in a basement - is to go into your bedroom, snoop for a key that she doesn't know the appearance of, take any key she sees to use on the basement door, and then...what. What if you had a meth lab down there? Was Mighty Mom just going to stand there proudly "I FOUND THE METH LAB, THIS IS ILLEGAL, I'M VICTORIOUS!" And then your evil empire will just crumble because one nosy Christian lady in her 50s saw your setup.

That excuse is so hilariously lame that I think we need to send it to the glue factory. She's a nosy snoop that doesn't respect boundaries and she did this because she can't handle being told no. I guess in a way it's good that she showed these colors now rather than testing your boundaries in smaller ways over several years. Now you know she's an invasive prima-donna, and knowing is half the battle!

Best of luck navigating the fallout, OP.

SisterSpecter

Mama is coming for you...

The fall out is going to be the WORST.

She is going to tell everyone in his family and everyone who will listen about what she has in her basement. The mailman in his home town will know. I'm sure if she has a facebook she has made a status about it and called all her biddy friends at the church to come pay the devil away.

I cringe to think about what she is going to do next.

Flip out on her son, I think. This is just the first explosion and she went in there looking for a reason to hate OP. Hence the break in. Even if she didn't have a sex dungeon down there, she would have gone through boxes like "THIS NAKED BARBIE DOLL FROM YOUR CHILDHOOD? YOU DEVIL PEDOPHILE!" She's an all star Olympian at mental gymnastics.

Can we take bets now on if Ma is going to demand he dumb OP? OH and do absolutely everything to sabotage their relationship in an all out war?

REDDIT

Shame on you lady! 

she had to find out what I'm hiding down there because she thought it could be something illegal...

Devout Christian here, in my 60s. And I agree 100%...why in the world would she automatically think this? It's such a ridiculous leap it makes me question whats going on with her own life. We have locked rooms in our house. One is a very old root cellar that with ridiculously steep steps (I store canning stuff there), another has all my husbands old military uniforms/trunks etc. My community is ridiculously conservative (we aren't political) and I have never had anyone question locked rooms. With a lot of children etc. it's a given. Everyone I know has locked rooms. OPs bf's mom shouldn't have did what she did. She violated hospitality, stole from her and broke into her property. The mother is using Christianity as a shield for her own sinful life and clouded ethics. She ought to be ashamed.

REDDIT

Worry about what else...

Pretty sure she's gone through everything in your house.

spinthesky

No doubt about it. medicine cabinets, pantry, under the bed. you have been 100% invaded.

generaltsao

How would she like it?

I bet if you pulled out her purse, dumped it out, and started going through all her crap she'd understand why people like privacy.

thewoogier

It's her not you. 

When I'm a guest somewhere I do my best to stick to what the people who leave there would consider acceptable. To begin with, I always consider the bedrooms, other than those for guests of course, of limits and obviously, if somewhere's locked, I have no business there.

People like her bf's mother don't have any respect for people's privacy and clearly said she didn't want their hospitality by going through their stuff.

Mira113

You're a Saint... 

Honestly I would have straight up kicked her out of my house. OP is a saint for even letting her stay in her room.

leetdood_shadowban

Don't be a Mama's boy son... 

You can't control people. Stand back and watch where the chips fall. Good insight in the guy to be gained.

If the guy meekly obeys his mom as an adult male, then that's a bullet dodged because now you have a good reason to drop the guy. Or otherwise you'll be dealing with the shallowly judgmental crone meddling in your shit constantly.

If the guy goes "I love you ma but go f**k yourself" he's a keeper.

ouchity_ouch

Get her a reservation... 

If she can afford to be so rude and disrespectful she can afford a hotel for the rest of her stay.

Her justification for her actions shows that she likely never had any respect for you and was just snooping for something to get self-righteous about.

Amforsythe

Jesus take the crowbar? 

So she stole, and broke into a room of your house, for jesus? Huh.

Honestly, sounds like you handled it right, I think the next step is in your boyfriend's court.

Kiyasu

Makes me wonder if this type of behavior is why her son lives on the other side of the country.

niteox

It is obvious that she don't have any respect for you or for her son. The best thing you did is just telling her to wait for her son to come. I don't mean anything but you should put yourself in her place. If this man was your son and you never realized for his life-time when he used to live with you that he have an intendancy for such a lifestyle, you may be a little freaked out, right? I don't mea any offense to you. I totally respect you and you choice. I'm telling you that for when your boyfriend call (he will call you, don't worry. But he must had a lot to deal with now) you should be reasonable. Don't start blaming his mum because she broke into a private part in your house. Just tell him to stay with her till she comedown. He already know that, but trust he don't wanna hear what he already know about his mum.for now you can just try to call one of his friends who could know where is he now.

Reddit

God bless her... 

I never understand why, the people who are most "Christian"... Don't even follow the stuff the Lord said. Like love everyone. And don't judge. And don't open locked doors. It's simple.

Reddit

Hello Mrs. Grey...

You should have ball gagged her until her son came home.

sixuldv8

I think BF's mom has a personality disorder. I'm serious.

I think it's a common one that's often talked about. She has no boundaries, her children are an extension of herself, and when she is alone, she experiences super-anxiety and is propelled into action. It's almost mindless action, but in a place where Extenstion-of-Self lives (otherwise known as Her Son), she feels entitled to do whatever she wants.

As opposed to a fairly normal person.

Nora_Oie

Hello 9-1-1... 

What she did sounds kind of illegal.

Reddit

It disturbs me how people assume that having a "guest" status somehow allows full-range use of someone's house. Unfortunately, devout-religious folks like that are often into dogmatic shaming if they find something out of the norm, especially when dealing with a female. Mother Dearest should probably realize that her sonny-boy is big enough to make decisions on his own and isn't "corruptible." In her head, you're the scapegoat. That's her issue.

Going through your house is a violation of basic privacy. Period.

If she can't own up to that being her fault, then she's got some serious internalized issues with boundaries. There's nothing wrong with you having full control over your sexuality -- she, however, doesn't need to make it any of her business. If she does, she needs to get some therapy.

I have to agree with the others here, you handled this beautifully. She has absolutely no right to be shaming you when she should've minded her own business. It's not you, it's her. Mommy Dearest needs to fix her boundary issues.

Hopefully, your bf will show her some boundaries, have her gtfo, or get her a lobotomy.

MeaksmacK

The truth hurts... 

I'd probably point out to her that her son has a hard time keeping his pants on around you. Rub it in her face.

moms_on_reddit

Hide the key...

I need to know - how did she find the key to the basement? Was it obvious which key goes with which lock? I can't imagine someone rummaging through personal items in a house, quickly coming upon a key, and trying the basement door. If it really happened like that, she must have been really determined and really tearing through your stuff to find that key. F**k that lady.

nirekin

You're out!! 

I would kick her the hell out. You were trying to be thoughtful and not shove what you do in her face, and she was a disrespectful ass to break into the room and then call you the one with the problem.

Also, I'm mad jealous of your basement. That sounds like fun.

fierceandtiny

Check and Mate. 

Man, she really checks all the boxes on the crazy scale:

Snoops around? Check

Opens a locked door in a house that's not hers because she believes she's entitled to? Check

Shames you for your sexual preferences? Check

Babbles about Heaven and Hell? Check

Your BF has one crazy mother

MrSnippets

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