Whether we have children or not, most of us can at least agree that parenting isn't always going to be easy.
But one of the hardest things about parenting, ironically, is the disagreements we will face with others who think they could parent our children better.
Bri of @briknighttt on TikTok was recently having trouble specifically with visiting other people's homes with her toddler along for the journey.
She had realized a little baby-proofing, like putting the knife block out of reach or putting the antique glass vase on a higher shelf, went a long way—but very few people were willing to make that effort when inviting her over.
In her video, Bri questioned how controversial the subject of baby-proofing was going to be, but she argued that if someone was going to invite a person with children over, part of their preparation for that family to come over would be a light baby-proofing session.
The idea behind doing so would mean that their possessions would not get broken or dirty, and their parent friend could actually spend time with them instead of chasing their child around the entire time.
Bri specifically referenced family in this video, seeing the irony of a mother-in-law or aunt wanting to see their grandchild, but doing nothing to prepare for their visit, thus setting everyone up for failure.
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Fellow TikTokers were divided over the video, and the issue primarily came down to the sense of entitlement that some viewers picked up in the video.
While it might be nice for every home to be safe to take children into, it's not necessarily the responsibility of those homeowners to prepare for children who are not theirs.
That said, people who love someone with children—and their children by extension—might go a few extra steps to make those loved ones feel at home while visiting.
Most viewers who were fellow parents completely understood Bri's take on the situation.
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But there were a few who found these comments to be entitled and insisted on the TikToker parenting better.
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Bri responded to this final negative comment, not understanding why it was so difficult for others to do things for their loved ones to make them feel more comfortable in their home.
That also included, in her situation, actually closing her dog into the back room of her house. It might seem over the top to some, but for her, she knew that her guests were comfortable, and she knew her dog was in a safe space.
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This video series is a great example of how every household is different, and how people are going to parent differently, as well.
But that doesn't necessarily make everyone entitled—it makes humans want other humans to understand why they're so stressed out.
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