Byyyeeee: People Confess Why They Broke Up With Their Ex

Lack of Empathy

"I had just been diagnosed with Stage 4 metastatic cancer. All the attention I had been giving her I didn't have the energy to maintain while getting Chemo and avoiding Covid."

"My final straw. She yelled at me on the phone while I was in intensive care with pulmonary embolisms."

"Just that light bulb moment, and I was done."

"That was 3 years ago. All good now. I'm in remission, and thinking about dating again."

~ Owlflight317

Unhealthy

"I got into an argument with a crazy ex that was about 8 years older than me when I was 19 and we were screaming and chatting at each other and I remember she grabbed this vase that I had just bought her some flowers in and chucked it at my head and barely missed.

"It's hard to remember what kind of insanities I was yelling at her after that but she came around the corner with two brand new butcher knives from a knife set we had bought earlier that day and chased me around the house in circles."

"The house had bars on the windows and you had to have a key to open the front and back door it did not just have a manual lock."

"I ended up putting myself in the bathroom and holding the door as hard as I could and she actually stabbed one of the knives through the door."

"The whole knife did not come through the door only about two inches of it but that's plenty enough to still scare you."

"It was around 2010 and I had one of those prepaid phones in my pocket and I called her dad to come get her. He lived across the street."

"After her dad got her calmed down he took me on a ride to the duck pond at like 2 or 3:00 in the morning and was feeding the ducks old pizza and was just telling me that I needed to chill out and trying to give me some kind of a life lesson."

"He was probably pretty intoxicated himself but usually managed to hold himself together."

He really wasn't a great guy but came in during his daughter's mental crisis."

"The duck pond adventure started to end as the sun came up and I went and locked myself into the bathroom at the house and just went to sleep on the floor."

"I was going to get my things and get out that morning but she begged me to stay and at the time I thought that was what I really wanted."

"I think she kind of was mentally unwell at the time and I wasn't my best either."

"I did not call the cops on her and we reconciled for a time."

"Unfortunately I seem to have a pattern of not realizing I'm in a major mentally abusive situation due to growing up in one."

~ SnooCalculations8038

"Wife and I were attending couples therapy."

"The therapist said she was being literally abusive to me. My then-wife demanded a new therapist."

"Second therapist said she was being abusive to me. My then-wife filed for divorce.

"While my life right after was hell, it's come back around and I'm doing better than ever."

~ wjmacguffin

"My drinking, lies about drinking, and sh*tty finances because of drinking. 107 days sober today."

~ No_Step_4431

"Finally, someone who admits it was their fault. Me too brother."

"Past exes all was because of my drinking. Thankfully, I found someone who helped me quit."

"I'm 1yr 8m sober. We got this."

~ taizzle71

Infidelity

"She cheated."

"We had our home, our plans and were preparing to marry in about three months when we separated."

~ PGabrielSL

"Thank goodness you found out before getting married."

"I know it must really hurt and maybe even keep you from trying again with someone new but you really dodged a bullet."

~ krasavetsa

"Yep, my wife cheated and it's costing me about 100k between legal fees, buying out her equity in the house (which she paid none of), give her a chunk of my retirement and liquid cash."

"Honestly I think everyone should have a nasty infidelity clause in a pre-nup at this point."

"I can also look forward to sending her 70k in child support over the coming years. And I'm gonna take a wild guess that most of it won't be spent on the kid."

~ Throwawaysi1234

Something is Missing

"It took some time but we both realized that we weren't giving each other what we needed."

~ 2ByteTheDecker

"Same! He saw it first so he was the one to leave me, but thank God he did, we were so incompatible!"

~ Obvious_Ari

"Leaving my last relationship was rough—it was my first ever relationship and lasted 7 years—but I was so relieved at the same time when I got dumped."

"It was a very healthy breakup on both sides, and we kept in touch on and off for just under a year afterwards until she began seeing someone else and I felt it would be best to leave it be out of respect for her new partner."

"We honestly just both grew up (got together when I just turned 18; both young) and eventually fell out of romantic love."

"I still hold her to the highest respect and will always have a place in my heart for her, but I was so glad when she bit the bullet and broke it off. I would've felt too guilty to do so; I owed her so much."

"We had a very tumultuous relationship for the first couple years—we were very much in love but I had a lot of unresolved mental health issues, had a nervous breakdown, etc..."

"I still hate what I put her through but hope I was able to make it up to her in the last couple years of the relationship."

"Anyways, I wish her the best. My life and mental well-being has gotten SO much better in the last few years of being single; in a way I owe that to her too."

~ knoxollo

"He wants to get his life together."

"We still love each other and he thinks he needs to do this on his own but I want to be here for him, I promised him when we first started dating I’d be here for him as much as I can."

"It just hurts because he thinks I’m not strong enough to still love him and be apart from him when I am. It’s complicated."

~ coffincowgirl

Not enough time

"Her not having enough time for both grad school and a relationship."

"She did make the right choice though."

~ Formo1287

"Oof, yeah. Grad school is a real drain, emotionally."

"Like, you need the support of a partner while you go through it, but you don't really have anything to give back."

"It's an awful time."

~ Economy-Mission6933

"Just broke up with a girl halfway through a medical degree. I couldn't do it. I had been supporting her financially for 8 years and even another four I couldn't do. She also wanted me to cook, shop more than her."

"I started telling her I wanted her to contribute more towards the relationship. She grew distant but then really leaned on me when she needed financial and emotional support."

"She gets through her exams gets admitted to the doctorate and then cheats on me on holiday with a Swiss rocket scientist."

"He's now supporting her finanically in a long distance relationship. Feels like I dodged a bullet. Still 8 years is a long time."

~ nevaehenimatek

It's complicated seems to be the mantra of relationships in the 21st century.

Are we no longer as loyal or loving as we were in the past?

Or do we just have more options and an unwillingness to settle.