It's easy to say that we would intervene if we realized that someone was cheating, but would we actually follow through when it happened?
That was the question chef, caterer, and TikToker @culinaryem faced when she planned to cater a wedding for a "lovely couple" she nicknamed "Sweet" (the bride) and "Dirtbag" (the groom).
Prior to the pandemic really setting in, the caterer met with the couple and planned out all of the culinary details of the wedding, confirmed the dates and locations, and everything seemed to be ready to go. Even when the pandemic hit, Sweet contacted @culinaryem to confirm that there would still be a "micro wedding" on the originally-confirmed date, with a larger wedding party to follow when the pandemic was over.
That seemed like a great plan to Em, at least until she received a call from a woman, who she nicknamed "Bamboozled," who was setting up a joint birthday party for her boyfriend and his twin brother.
The TikToker showed up at the event location and worked with Bamboozled and the twin's girlfriend to set up the space. Then the two birthday men showed up: Dirtbag and his twin brother. Neither woman in the room was Sweet.
TikToker @culinaryem made eye contact with Dirtbag, who seemed to recognize her, because he proceeded to make "awkward eye contact" with her throughout the rest of the birthday celebration. After the event was done, he offered to walk her to her car and tipped her $100, and thanked her for "everything," which sounded like a loaded statement.
After the event, the TikToker knew she had to decide whether or not to explain this to the bride.
Eventually, she decided to let the answer to a question decide for her. She contacted Sweet to see if she was still catering for her micro wedding, and when the bride said yes and that she was "very excited," Em knew what she had to do.
She explained that she could not "in good conscious" still cater the upcoming wedding events because of the birthday party event she had just witnessed.
The bride thanked her for telling her and said that "obviously" the wedding was canceled.
While she felt disheartened to have shared that information with such a sweet bride, @culinaryem could not proceed with helping out with a wedding while knowing what was going on behind the scenes.
And of course, she hoped that Dirtbag ended up alone.
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Some were amused by the idea of the $100 as "hush money."
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Others were disgusted by the twin brother and girlfriend likely being in on the affair.
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Some were also thankful that Sweet was responsive to the information and also wished her well.
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Ironically, some male TikTokers criticized the caterer for outing Dirtbag's second life before he could marry Sweet, so she decided to share a follow-up video, pointing out that she is not under any sort of confidentiality agreement, and if she ever sees anyone acting like a dirtbag, male or female, she will out them.
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It can be really scary to share what you know a person to be doing, simply because you don't know quite what the consequences of telling will be, and you really might not have all of the information.
But when we're suspicious that someone is cheating, it's generally better to share that information so that if anyone is going to get hurt, they will have at least invested less time in the relationship than if you'd stayed quiet.
As TikToker @culinaryem pointed out, hopefully Dirtbag ended up with neither Sweet nor Bamboozled, and hopefully Sweet is incredibly happy.
