Navigating the dating scene can be rough, and it can be really hard to understand why a relationship doesn't end up working out.
Men, for example, have posted infinitely on the internet about the "pointlessness" of dating because of women always breaking up with them, while women have admitted to seeing fewer and fewer reasons to even participate in the dating scene.
TikToker Jennifer Readon shrugged, though, and pointed out that the dynamic of a relationship dissolving generally comes down to something pretty simple: the straw that broke the camel's back.
In a simple diagram, the TikToker drew a picture of two stick figures in love inside of a big heart. She then wrote a "small problem" that appeared outside the heart and used the example of the couple writing each other "good morning" texts.
When the couple agrees to both send these texts, everything is fine, but if the guy repeatedly forgets or does not participate, the girl might feel like the relationship is imbalanced and question why he isn't also sending these texts.
Seeing that she's concerned, the guy might work on sending the texts for a while, solving the issue, but then he breaks the chain again and stops texting her, which turns into a bigger problem, according to the TikToker's chart, because the guy has now signaled to his girlfriend that he does not care about her needs or helping to fulfill them.
Upon feeling like her needs aren't being met, and that she's dating someone who doesn't care about fulfilling them, she might start nitpicking other things that didn't really bother her before, in an effort to be heard by her boyfriend, which will result in more fighting than the relationship has seen before.
By the end of the journey, the TikToker reasoned, the woman will simply not like the guy anymore, not because of these reasons, but because his lack of involvement in the relationship is unattractive.
"One day, these [problems] become unattractive to her. She's going to realize that all of these little things that you do that remind her that you don't care about her enough are unattractive."
"So now the problem is not these things, and it's not even that you don't care enough; it's not even that she never got 'good morning' texts; it's literally that she does not like you anymore."
"Now, unfortunately, she's going to have to break up with you, and she's going to move on with her life, and you're going to go and tell your friends that you got dumped for no reason and she's crazy for dumping you for no reason over something so simple."
"But in reality, she never dumped you at all. This was a slow-moving process that eventually led to the final reason. You weren't dumped. You probably actively chose not to give her what she said she needed, and now you guys aren't together anymore."
You can watch the video here:
While the video initially went viral in 2023, it recently was reshared on Twitter (X), and users thought Readon hit the nail on the head.
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Going through a breakup is hard, but sometimes we have to take accountability and understand how we were involved in the relationship's dissolving.
If a person does not want to do things that make the other person feel heard and secure, they aren't the right person to date them, plain and simple.
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