First dates can be very exciting.
Sure, you're nervous, and you're hoping this person isn't a serial killer, but that's all part of the excitement.
Imagine being interviewed later that you were on a date with a serial killer?
Podcast fame cemented.
But first dates are the chance for everyone to put their best lies... Sorry, best foot forward.
That's why certain behaviors can be alarming.
Don't ignore the red flags just because you're looking for romance.
Redditor Fun-Lack7534 wanted to hear about all the big signs we need to watch out for when a romance begins, so they asked:
"What is the biggest red flag on a first date?"
If they're too touchy/feely from the jump, then jump... away.
Past Issues
Will Smith GIF by Red Table TalkGiphy"They keep talking about their ex."
Chocolatelover4ever
"Yikes, I'm guilty of that 😬."
palmtreegroove
Look Up Please
"When they won’t stay off their damn phone."
"I hate when this happens. Half the time I expect they are trying to show you something, but no, they are just browsing social media or texting. What's the purpose of meeting me at a restaurant then? You have WiFi at home and could do the same thing there haha."
Carbon-Base
"Had this on my last date, she wouldn't put her phone away. Later she even said, that I didn't talk a lot."
The_Shadowy
Who are you?
"They don't look anything like their pics."
ximby77
"I went on a date with a girl once. We matched on Bumble. She was like a supermodel gorgeous but I really don't care about looks, we just clicked and got along and that's all I care about. Well, we meet at Starbucks, and the girl looks a solid five years older and 200 pounds heavier than her pictures."
"I was obviously taken aback, and she eventually told me she used pictures that were many years old and slightly edited so that guys would go on dates with her. She then proceeded to talk about nothing but sex, in a public Starbucks, on the first date. We didn't have a second one."
whatisausername32
You're missing 2 wheels
"If they have you get on a motorcycle and burn your leg and then take you to McDonald’s."
Johncamp28
"One time, I went on a date with a guy who took me on his motorcycle to a restaurant. We get there, and he rides up onto the sidewalk and stops. I’m not really sure exactly how it happened, but I didn’t realize he was getting off, and so I stayed on."
"The whole thing falls over with me on it. So, I’m laying there on the sidewalk with my leg crushed by the motorcycle, and he just stands there gaping. Then, he had the nerve to get angry at me because some random guys who were standing on the corner came running over and picked up the motorcycle and helped me stand up."
virgincoconuhtballs
Yuck
Parks And Recreation Nbc GIF by HULUGiphy"Poor hygiene."
edthebuilder5150
"Yup! Bad teeth and/or smells."
Take a shower.
Brush your teeth.
Do some laundry.
It's the basics.
Cheater
glenn close GIFGiphy"She says, 'By the way, I am married but my husband sucks and I want to cheat on him.'"
"I had this happen once."
jeophys152
Disinterested
"If someone spends a lot of the time telling what they don't want, what they don't like, instead of discussing their interests and yours, probably not a good sign."
CMarlowe
"Went on a first date once with a girl who had just gone through a divorce and was obviously nowhere near ready to start dating. She was beautiful, kind, smart, etc but really been screwed hard by her ex and talked about it the whole time."
"We had like a six-hour date and went to multiple locations and really had a nice time but I friend-zoned her super quick into the date. I figured it would be at least a couple of years before she was truly ready to start dating someone. In retrospect, I’m so glad because very shortly after I found my now-fiancé who is just amazing to me. When you exclude what is not right for you, you make room for what is."
GoodAsUsual
23?
"Lying about their age. The guy I went on a date with told me he was 23 (my age). I found out through a close friend and roommate that he was actually almost 30 and that his lying about that was the tip of the iceberg in terms of the red flags he gave off."
Bookkeptclean
"Yup, I went out on a date who lied about their age and appearance on a profile (years older and gained a lot of weight), and like the second sentence of the evening was her being like, 'So, let me explain about maybe things not being what you might have thought...' I don't even remember what the explanation was, but it obviously wasn't good enough."
irai2
Hidden Treasures
"She asks for a photo ID. Her apartment is a total pig pen when you pick her up. You sit on her sofa to wait for her to finish getting ready and find a knife in between the cushions. This all happened on a first date and I still took her out. What a dumda**."
"I took her out a couple of times (I was newly single and raising kids, so the pickings were slim). After a few dates, a friend of mine was shocked to receive a wedding invitation. OUR wedding invitation. I was more shocked than him. I don’t even know how she got the addresses of my friends. Just retelling this story is going to give me nightmares again."
Bacontheblog
Oh the search for romance is never going to be easy.
Will it?
