Surprising Things Poor People Learned When Dating Someone Rich

There are life lessons learned through adversity. Some of them are actual survival skills while others are about managing expectations and disappointment.

But some people face very few hardships in their lives due to the power of money.

The way is paved for them without their having to lift a finger.

There are lessons learned from a life without adversity, as well. Just usually not good ones for that person or everyone around them.

Reddit user KoushunTakami asked:

"Poor people who dated rich people, what did you learn?"

Payoffs And Buyouts

"I learned that every family has similar issues, rich people can just solve them quicker."

~ chillysaturday

"Or hide them better…"

~ Electronic-Exit-6441

Unrelatable

"They will never truly be able to even begin to comprehend your struggles, and therefore they will constantly dismiss and minimize your problems, which will lead you to be extremely frustrated."

"Trying to explain to someone that you can’t afford takeout and need them to do their dishes right now so you can cook, while they are telling you to just order out instead and to put it on a credit card, most of the time it’s not worth the relationship."

~ Beneficial_Size6913

Only The Best

"Generally they can't cook well, but somehow have the best kitchen gear."

~ azninvasion2000

Wretched Excess

"They simply can’t wrap their head around not having enough of everything at all times."

~ VNDMG

Who Does This Sound Like

"Money doesn’t make good parents, and bad parents plus unlimited resources just makes bad people."

~ gogogadgetdumbass

Worthiness

"No matter how humble and rational one is, dating someone several tax brackets higher will test one's ego and self worth."

~ Shahfluffers

Lifestyles Of The Rich And Infamous

"They expect you to live their lifestyle even though you can’t afford it."

~ JASPER933

"I dated a girl from a rich family years back. I had to turn down so many impromptu weekend trips to Vegas/New York/the Bahamas."

"She was very sweet, but didn't quite get the concept of working class budget or requesting time off of work."

~ FLwicket

18 Holes

"I learned how to play golf."

"Her dad always wanted to chat with me about my future, plans, business opportunities, college choices, etc..."

"And he always wanted to discuss these over a round of golf at the country club."

"I really hate golf."

"Also, apparently $100k means nothing? Dude literally offered to buy me a new Mercedes, and have my old beater truck 'disposed of'."

~ headhunterofhell2

Love Of Money

"That good parents are better than rich parents."

~ swagerito

"Rich high school girlfriend. Such an easy, carefree life. Never will want for ANYTHING."

"Outrageously work addicted mom, absolute benzo pill freak father who demolishes a sports car and gets thrown clear every year or two."

"She will never want for anything, but she is absolutely one of the most maladjusted people I ever intend to know."

~ FoGuckYourselg_

Little Things

"My rich ex's parents strongly approved of me, and basically financed all the things I got her."

"For instance, I mentioned wanting to take her to Aspen, and that I thought I could afford a condo, and they told me she didn't like Aspen—and gave me the number for their travel concierge to work something out. So we got a Swiss chalet with everything all set up."

"When I wanted to get her jewelry, for her birthday, her mom put me in touch with their fashion person in NYC. Who knew what dress she had ordered to wear for her birthday, and helped me pick out a $30k necklace and earring set to go with it."

"She didn't care that I was spending her family's money 'it was the thought that counts'."

"Although I think she liked it better when I just cooked her/them a nice meal, (used to work as a chef) which they always found amazing as none of them could cook, at all. They lived off of eating out, getting fine dining meals to go, and a part-time private chef."

"The fact that I could just say, 'you want shrimp scampi tonight?' and run by the store and just make a meal that didn't require giving some advance notice, or getting dressed to go out and be seen somewhere was apparently one luxury they couldn't afford."

~ iordseyton

Parasites

"A lot of people want to pretend to be their friend and take advantage of them! Like, A LOT!"

"The leeches assumed I was doing the same and would talk openly about it to me… it was honestly disgusting!"

~ Vegetable-Rain7652

We Know This Is True

"An idiot with lots of money is still an idiot."

~ linjaaho

"I dated a guy from a wealthy family once who burnt his hands FOUR TIMES in the brief time we were together, forgetting to put oven mitts on before he pulled the tray out of the oven."

His mum told me once that she’d bought his intelligence by sending him to private school. I remember thinking, 'You probably should have bought some more'."

~ binglybleep

Bribes

"I had a friend that was offered $50K on the spot by the father to end the relationship with their daughter. They met when she was studying abroad for a semester, never mentioned that her family was filthy rich."

"He traveled from the US to Germany to see her and stayed with them for a month for vacation. They were around 22 and he didn't have a job or anything lined up back then."

"One day the dad took him out for a drink, offered the cash and told him how it was going to work and the plane tickets, he came back to the US and never talked to her again."

"Turns out her dad was Sr. VP at Porsche and her mom's family owned a famous winery/viney in Europe."

~ jacd03

Clueless

"That they are often insulated from the experience of peasant life. I was working 12-hour shifts in an industrial kitchen trying to save up enough for my next semester of college."

"Her friend (whose house had a fully stocked kitchen that only 'the staff' ever used) heard that I was working to pay for school and therefore could not take time off to go on a vacation."

"She took a moment to think about my situation, looked concerned with her furrowed brow, and then finally asked, 'Why don't you just tell your parents? school is a good thing, of course, they'll want to pay for that'."

~ The_Swoley_Ghost

High Expectations

"I grew up in what I can only describe as the identical median income household and had a decent job, so not poor, but I dated a woman who I met while she was in law school who's family was very rich."

"The subconscious expectations were overwhelming. I would plan a little surprise and she would expect something like a trip to Europe... She wasn't trying to make me feel bad, her expectations were just so high from the world she grew up in."

"Just to be clear and fair it wasn't directly a money thing. If I planned a super romantic grand gesture she would like it even if it cost very little money. It's just the disconnect."

"She grew up in a family with an amazing mom who had all the time and money in the world to plan super nice gestures for her kids and a partner with a full time job just couldn't compete with the subconscious expectations that that created."

"And I definitely could have done better with a lot of it. The disconnect between us on this issue, with almost none of it having to do with money was the problem."

~ chicagotim1

How Do They Survive‽‽

"He had zero survival skills."

"In 1987, I was an 18-year-old product of a single-parent household on a full-ride academic scholarship and he was a 19-year-old full tuition paying legacy admission at an Ivy League University."

"Having helped raise two siblings, I was used to problem-solving and independence. He was used to summoning someone to fix everything for him."

"This was pre-cellphones, pre-internet so no lifeline for him outside of a landline and snail mail."

"If we missed the exact bus we needed (underclassmen weren't allowed to have cars on campus because the college was intertwined with a small New Hampshire colonial village), I could figure a dozen alternate ways to get from point A to point B by looking at the bus schedule."

"He could just stand there, helpless."

"He couldn't turn on a stove or use any small kitchen appliances. He had never shopped for necessities like linens, daily clothing, undergarments, pajamas, toiletries or school supplies (he'd only shopped for luxury brands where sales clerks select everything for you and high end toys)."

"He didn't know how to buy groceries, because he'd never been in a grocery store in his life, or how to store groceries, like what had to go in a refrigerator or a freezer."

"He was nice enough, but his education was severely lacking—no one ever corrected him in school and tutors did his work for him so he'd get good grades and they'd get bonuses. He was very honest about it. He was at an Ivy League with about a 6th-grade education."

"He also realized he wasn't prepared to survive outside of his parent's home where people waited on him hand and foot."

"In the end, it felt like dating a child instead of a man, so we parted amicably. Last I knew he was a VP of some division of one of his parent's companies."

~ MaisZee

Have you ever dated way outside of your socioeconomic bracket? What was it like?