It's a time of hardship and hard truths in the world. So perhaps it is a time to own up to some hard truths we've all been hiding from for awhile.
The thing is, these truths will be hard to face at first, but after the initial hardship, they will set you free.
u/RealityPizza asked:
What's a hard truth most people need to hear?
Here were some of those answers.
It's Not Cool To Be Edgy
You will never get praised for being different and having different beliefs you will just get pushed away and there's a high change you will end up being alone most of the time, but that is not necessarily bad
Not A Persona
That being rude and "intimidating" isn't an interesting part of your personality. I admit, I used to do this too, but I learned that no one thought I was smart, witty, or intimidating, and that I came off as a clueless and edgy a**hole
Knowledge Is Power
You aren't special. But the great thing is, this knowledge can be a weight off your shoulders. You don't need to be special. It's ok not to stand out. Accepting you're not special, and being ok with just being average, with just being you will allow you to stop striving for the unattainable, for perfection or greatness (which is really just seeking recognition from others). It will help you find happiness that much faster.
Besides, you don't have to be special to the world, only to a few people. True happiness is being satisfied with who you are and what you have. And weirdly, that's pretty special in and of itself, since it's what everyone in this world is really striving for.
Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.
Fairness Or Equality?
Fair isn't equal. People conflate the two as synonymous when they are not. Fair means that everyone gets what they need while equal means that everyone gets the same regardless of need.
We, culturally speaking, focus a lot of our energy on making everything equal which a endless uphill battle because it just exposes more and more "problems" or "issues" because objectively speaking everyone is not equal. People make more money than others, or have a better socioeconomic network, or are just flat out more intelligent. We will never be equal, at least not within our current cultural institutions. We need to shift focus on being fair to everyone and stop singling out causes to crusade equality. Fight for marriage for everyone. Fight for fair wages for everyone.
Blind Eyes, Deaf Ears
Most people will be happy to complain about the world but are actually part of the problem. Most people are hypocrites and like to blame others to hide their own insecurity and apathy. People think hating the faces of these problems is enough and that there's nothing they can do about it.
People complain about Amazon and Jeff Bezos all the time but have Amazon prime accounts and don't support small businesses.
People will complain about the state of our government but not vote or be engaged in local government.
People talk sh!t about Bezos not donating large chunks of his wealth but have never given a dime to charity in their lifetime.
People like to talkabout some youtube chick cut up a few fishes inhumanely but turn a blind eye to meat farms and the low standards large meat industries actually impose on their animals.
As a liberal, it hurts me to say this but there are many people who can actually pick themselves up by the bootstraps and get what they want but choose not to. Sure there are billions of others who can't but I hate it when I see people who come from middle-class America complaining about how they can't get what's rightfully theirs because of the upper class when they did nothing but spend all their free time partying or drinking. You can argue the system we are taught itself teaches failure but I think with how accessible data is a lot of people choose the realities they live in.
Just Stop With The Mean Words
Talking to people like you do on the internet will get you straight up knocked out if you do it in real life. Something to consider when we all go back to our normal lives after so many months of being pricks to strangers.
Maybe start practising now, in case you call the person in front of you at mcdonalds in a few months a c*nt for calling it a muffin and not mcmuffin.
It Only Takes A Moment
Most people don't care about you, your accomplishments and what you look like. Even friends are happy/sad/angry for you mere seconds before forgetting.
Hard truth as it can be demoralizing but also it takes a weight off your shoulder. Live freely, for yourself (be mindful to respect other's freedom still)
Badgering The Witness
If a person acts like they aren't interested in you, they aren't. You aren't entitled to their attention or affection so stop it. The idea that persistent badgering will make them change their mind needs to go.
Ah Yes, An Angel Wizard
It is none of your goddamn business how someone else lives their life. If it doesn't directly impact you, leave them alone.
"But being fat is so unheal-" Is it affecting you? No? Shut up. None of your business.
"But that's a stupid thing to spend money-" Is it making your life harder? No? Shut up. None of your business.
"But it's sinfu-" Does their sin send you to Hell? No? Shut up. It's none of your business.
To boil it down: unless someone is asking you to get involved, don't goddamn get involved. You aren't being helpful. You aren't the Wise Angel Wizard that found the key to fixing them. You aren't the Big Goddamn Hero saving the day. You're just a nosy, pushy jerk who can't mind their own business.
I Can If I Try
You can pick your nose and you can pick your friends, but you can't pick your friends nose.
It's surprising how many people don't understand what this actually means.
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Jane Rosenberg
Jane Rosenberg
