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Mothers Explain How They'd Feel If The Father Asked For A Paternity Test

In every relationship, there are bound to be some tough conversations, like how to budget and deciding whether to move somewhere new.

But there are other conversations, like getting a paternity test or going through someone's phone, that potentially imply a lack of trust.


Redditor BlueSharker asked:

"Women, would you care if your husband wanted to do a quick, basic, cheap DNA test to make sure the kids are 100% his? And why?"

Healthy Relationship

"I love the wording of a 'quick basic cheap' test, like hey, it's no big deal, this is a totally normal quick little thing healthy strong couples do!"

"Like, Baby, it's no big deal. I just want to test the kids' DNA to make sure I can trust you."

- kaksereciklira

Feeling Insulted

"I just asked my wife this, and she said, 'I will rip your nads off and feed them to you if you want that d**n test.'"

"So yeah, they care."

- exportz

Holy Insinuation, Batman

"Asking for this test either means:"

"1. You think I cheated on you but don't want to actually accuse me directly of it and deal with the fallout of being wrong which is both cowardly and insulting and also didn't work."

"2. You have been spending time on unsavory red pill internet sites and are dumber and more gullible than I thought when I married you and I've now lost all respect for your critical thinking skills."

"3. You don't want to be married or be a father to our kids anymore and are looking or an excuse to leave. Perhaps you are yourself cheating, or you are hiding some other secret or opinion from me and have been for a while."

"None of these scenarios are good. I would 100% be rethinking the whole marriage at this point. What else are you going to blindside me with and when? Probably better to just leave on my own terms than wake up one day and find you gone and all the accounts drained."

- Fantastic_Poet4800

Lack of Trust

"I wouldn't be opposed to the actual request because I have nothing to hide."

"But the fact that he felt the need to ask 100% indicates his lack of trust in the marriage and that is the bigger issue that I would be seriously concerned about."

"That would generally be my same response to any hypothetical requests for my husband to look through my phone. Like superficially, I don't care. It's just memes and pics of our kids. But the inevitable longer form conversation that gets triggered by that is why is the trust gone."

- golemsheppard2

Quiet the Haters

"I’ve offered it to my boyfriend for our one and only child to shut up all the naysayers in his family who were telling him it wasn’t his."

"And he said my offering is even more suspicious than not offering."

"Which, I don't know how the f**k that makes any sense, but whatever dude. The kid is yours. Do it or don’t. I don't care."

- linkxlink

The Terrible Mother-in-Law

"My ex-husband’s mom was really weird about our firstborn not looking like him."

"He and I are very different in looks, where he’s black hair, and tan skin, and I’m strawberry blonde, and very fair."

"The son was born with brown hair and blue eyes."

"He tans a bit but definitely doesn’t look like his dad... because he looks like a darker-haired version of MY dad."

"The crazy s**t was, my ex was cheating on ME for most of the marriage and both kids are absolutely his because I don’t play stupid games."

- Dorkadoodle

Child Support Conspiracy

"My father tried telling everyone I wasn't his kid (I was conceived maybe a week or two before he got caught cheating on my mum)."

"My nan took one look at me and laughed in his face. She eventually convinced him to acknowledge me and pay his child support. I love my nan."

- maybebabyg

Going No Contact

"When my parents’ divorce started getting nasty, my father accused my mother of cheating, and that I was the result of it."

"He asked me over and over again to get a test and sure enough, I’m his biological son. He didn’t believe the result and kept asking me to do more tests."

"Among other reasons, I don’t speak to him anymore."

- Loopnova_

Taking the Estate

"I got my revenge on my dad's family who never believed I was his (my parents were together for 30 years but never married)."

"He passed away without signing his will. At his funeral, his sisters poked at my nose and pulled on my ears, questioning whether I was really their niece."

"So I got a posthumous paternity test done. The entire estate went to me and I didn’t give them a dime."

- qiwizzle

Empathetic Testing

"I would not care. My husband found out late in life that he has a different biological father due to DNA testing and it crushed him. I would understand that the test has more to do with that circumstance than his trust in me."

"That being said, even after going through everything with his dad, he never tested our kids, but I told him multiple times to go for it and I’d be totally fine!"

- CharacterLoquat6950

Accidental Discoveries

"One of my best friend's dads bought her and her two sisters Ancestry.com tests only for her older sister to get a 'Congrats! You have a half-sister!' email after my friend’s results were submitted."

"Obviously, she called her dad like 'What the f**k is this,' and he had them retest the results twice."

"He had to be the one to break the news to my friend. He absolutely had no clue before this happened, and he broke down crying and told her that she was still his daughter regardless."

"We were 24 at the time, and I genuinely can’t imagine how it must’ve felt to be either of them receiving that news."

"Her mom even tried to deny it at first before finally coming clean."

- ElysianReverie21

Grocery Store Antics

"'Here's a picture of my kid' … 'and here is the DNA test proving it!'

"'Can I leave now, officer? He just likes to scream kidnap for fun…'"

"Sigh. I love taking them to the grocery store with me."

- drewbreeeezy

Dad Jokes Galore

"I recently discovered that none of our three children are mine biologically."

"I feel so stupid, I should have known something was up when they all existed before I met my wife."

"All kidding aside, as a stepdad, I do find it genuinely tragic when dudes completely abandon kids and withdraw all love because it's not theirs, not their problem. I understand complex emotions surrounding the marital betrayal, but I can't imagine just peacing out on a kid whose fault it categorically isn't."

- Overthinks_Questions

What's the Point?

"Our kid looks so similar to my husband that her face unlocks his phone."

"Sure, do the test."

- noopibean

Not the Mother

"As a child, I overheard my Mom say to my Dad, referring to me: 'She is nothing like me. Are you sure you didn't cheat on me?'"

"I really never had much in common with my Mom, and at that age, I didn't know anything about how babies are made, so I thought she was serious and lived with that doubt for a few years."

- MsMaggieMcGill

While some people were able to make jokes or could otherwise point out why paternity testing had been helpful in their own lives, most were concerned about the lack of trust asking for a test implied.

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