Let's face it: Dating is supposed to be fun, but it can actually be an emotional, draining, and possibly dangerous experience.
Women, especially now, have to take special precautions in order to date safely.
When you go on the first few dates with someone new, it's strongly advised to let a few trusted people know where you will be going on the date, to drive yourself, to meet your date in a public place, and preferably, to date before dark.
You definitely shouldn't go to a secluded park with cliffs and a giant lake after dark with a first date from a dating app.
But that's exactly what TikToker @cassidykaschmitter did—and thank goodness for Cassidy, she's here to tell the scary tale.
Still shaken from the experience, Cassidy shared the details of the strange date that she had just gotten back from. She'd matched with a general surgeon on the dating app Hinge and they'd agreed to take a walk at the park to get to know each other.
The first 45 minutes of the date were lovely, the pair shared a great conversation, and being a general surgeon, he even gave her some medical advice regarding her Lupus and Rheumatoid Arthritis.
The park they were walking in was large, so as they began to walk back to their cars it had grown dark outside, and Cassidy noticed there was a significant drop-off to her right side, leading down to a massive, "pitch black" lake.
That's when things got scary.
Bewildered, Cassidy recounted:
"I'm trying not to freak out. I don't think I'm ever going to go out again. I really don't."
"So we were having a great time. We talked for, like, 45 minutes... but then when it came time to leave, he started playing these jokes, and there's a lake on the side of me and a big dip."
"I stand up and I start walking, and he takes his hands behind me, and he goes, 'Boo!' and tries to push me into the lake."
"I said, 'What are you doing?' 'He said, 'I am so sorry!' And I was like, 'Dude, I don't know you. Don't touch me like that.'"
But the scary moments didn't stop there.
"Then he apologizes again and kisses my hand, and he says, 'I'll get you safe to your car.'"
"But we continue to walk, and he does it again. He does it again, and it is pitch black walking around the lake. I said, 'Please stop! I don't like that!'"
Though she'd made it safely to her car and home, the surgeon continued to contact her.
"He's been constantly apologizing. He said, 'I'm so sorry. I shouldn't have done that. You're so adorable. I shouldn't have messed with you like that.'"
"I'm like, 'You're f**king right you shouldn't have messed with me like that, because you know what? I thought you were f**king damn adorable, too, until I thought I was gonna die.'"
"He's still texting me."
You can watch the first video here:
Some cautioned Cassidy, pointing out just how dark this story could have gotten.
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Others urged Cassidy to report the man to the police and to investigate if he was actually a doctor or surgeon.
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In response to the TikTokers who advised her to report him, she shared more alarming details about her date.
When she recorded the first video and was still shocked about almost being pushed into the lake *twice*, she thought that their 45-minute conversation had been promising. But when she had time to really process it, she realized the whole date was full of red flags.
Cassidy listed some of the weirder interactions, starting with a text that came after.
"[After the date,] he texted me, 'At least you survived. Ha. Ha. Ha.'"
During the date, he'd taken a weird interest in her medical history.
"Do you still have both of your kidneys?"
"This is exciting. This is interesting to me."
Then he promised her the red flag of all red flags.
"Then it gets weirder. We're facing forward on the bench, and then he picks his feet up and he criss-cross-applesauces and faces me on the bench and goes, 'I promise I'm not a serial killer or anything. I don't have any weapons.'"
"And I said, 'Why do you keep saying that? This is, like, the second time you've said that...'"
You can watch the second video here:
It's alarming how easy it can be to find yourself in a tricky and scary situation. Fortunately for Cassidy, she made it home and will not have to see the Hinge date again.
Always remember to date in public places, and during the day if possible, especially if you haven't met the other person before.
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