Men Share Their Biggest Insecurities About Being A Boyfriend Or Husband

This is your time gents. Speak up and share. No judges here.

Never You

"I play with my daughter all the time but at the end of the day, she always prefers mummy."

madeinthearcade

Care work is work...

"Well I quit my job to pursue my dream of owning my own business but it's going to take a long time to get there so right now, I'm just a stay at home dad. I thought it'd feel awesome being at home and being with my daughter while my wife works. It is awesome being with my daughter each day but man I feel kinda crappy now being a stay at home dad, like I'm not doing my part as a husband and father."

sk8t-4-life22

Dissatisfaction

"My gf becoming dissatisfied with the relationship and slowly losing the affection she has for me eventually leading her to cheat."

Fluffy_Carpenter1377

"This is how I feel. I’m afraid that somebody might come around who will catch her attention. And then just like that, she will be gone. I try my best every day to be the best boyfriend that i’ve learned to be. I’ve made a lot of mistakes in past relationships. This relationship I will not f**k up. I want this woman to be by my side."

kenzo-tx

Perfection

"That I'm not worthy of her. She's the total package and I'm just... me. What makes it really crazy is that we have been together for almost 34 years and I still feel this way. In no way, shape, or form has she shown me that this might be true. She's literally the perfect partner."

HatesNewUsernames

"just settling"

"That I am not good enough, in any sense of the word, and that my partner is 'just settling' because I'm stable. Can't help but feel sometimes they're just waiting for something better to come alone, ya know?"

ACalcifiedHeart

It's sad how we all think we're unique in our worries. But yet, here we are, more alike than not.

Listen

"That I cannot fix every problem they have and that I am not always the problem when they’re upset. I have to let them be upset and understand it’s not always me and it’s okay to just listen to them."

DankMemesMateus

Show me the...

"The lack of money that I make."'

Crocodile_toes

"Just to chime in here because most people haven’t really understood you. It’s ok as a man to have an expectation of yourself to be able to provide for your family. If the wife earns more so be it but if crap hits the fan then you know you got your family covered financially when the worst happens."

Suspicious_row_95

Wrong Time

"I know it is unlikely but dying at the wrong time. Like driving the family somewhere or she is at work (she works odd hours) and it is just me and the kids. I had this walking nightmare for years of me getting like a stroke while driving down the highway and sliding out of control with everyone screaming or me just keeling over at home while my kids sit with my corpse for 6 hours. As for why maybe it is because I like problem solving stuff for them and one day that is going to go away."

who_said_I_am_an_emu

Judgement

"The fact that I’m about to be a stay at home dad and her parents keep bothering me about what I’m gonna do. She’ll makes significantly more than I ever could and there’s literally no point in me working anymore. I just don’t like being judged. Thank you all for the thoughts and encouragement! To clear a matter up I tend to be a people pleaser and it’s something I’m really trying to work past right now, so I may not want to care about what they think, but I still do at this time!"

Square_Swordfish_916

HER

"I married her because she is the only woman I have been with that actually makes all my insecurities go away."

craggbart

"actually there"

"Giving them the feeling of not being there for them enough. I tend to be very quiet and introverted. I've been told several times that I'm too much in my head and that they have the feeling I'm not 'actually there.' But I try to work on it and be more open about my feelings and stuff."

No-Education818

Sexy Parts

"Overly High sex drive/vicious adhd = constantly horny unfocused husband."

erolswife

"Now imagine having a girl that has no sex drive at all and you don't get to 'repay' her for what she does. It's so frustrating."

Sharktos

"Idk if this helps, but as the partner with the lower sex drive, it genuinely makes me happy when I can satisfy my partner. I don't need the exact kind of return favor because making them feel good does make me feel good, just not in my sexy parts."

Zepheria

Love Me

"Not knowing why the f they would ever love me. So there must be a other reason, and it can't be money."

BaikenNuffSaid

"The guy I'm dating often says this same thing and he says it in a half-joking way but I think deep down he means it. I find it a little distressing because I don't think he really believes me when I tell him how much I like him or when I compliment him and things like that. I just want him to feel as good about himself as I feel about him."

bain_de_beurre

Farewell

"That one day, out of seemingly nowhere, they’ll no longer care for me. And when it happens, it hurts."

neekerbeeker3

"Have you ever heard of 'The Walkaway wife syndrome?' Maybe it can clear some things up."

OhMissFortune

Be More

"Not being enough for her. I know I work my butt of at work, emotionally supportive, and giving goals and lead way to what’s next in life. However, there’s always that voice that says you need to be more, it’s not enough, try harder. So, I push the living hell outta myself."

PunkedRebel

Bringing it down...

"For me it's feeling like i'm a drag on my partners life. I have several health issues that leave me in extreme pain near constantly, constantly sleep deprived and without any energy or motivation to do anything besides lay in bed and watch tv or listen to music while cuddling with my girlfriend."

"Meanwhile my girlfriend is a perfectly healthy, energetic and full of life young adult who wants new experiences and doesn't want to spend a minute more than she needs to resting. I try my best to keep up and if i can't do a certain activity she wants to try."

"I actively encourage her to do whatever it is she is wanting to do (i.e go to an amusement park, go on a road trip, go carting, activities like that) with her friends, but at the end of the day the unavoidable truth is i am a damper on her life and i don't see why someone like that is willing to be in a relationship with someone like me."

dman2316

Lucky

"Not being good enough. I’ve felt this way all my life to the point where it’s my normal. This is because of the way my family and friends treated me in the past. So, it was a bit of a shock when my girlfriend treated me the complete opposite way by loving me and telling me that I’m more than enough for her. The feeling of inadequacy comes up from time to time and i still have not fully dealt with it. I am really lucky though to have her as my girl."

smdik123

Still Human

"I have a hole in my chest cause I was born without my chest bone so now it is weird to everyone."

ptross-12

Need Coin

"The fear of not continuing to make the money I do. Over time my life has become dependent of my income, but it’s rare to get paid the way I do. So I genuinely fear not being able to find a job to keep my obligations in check. And before you say that I could downsize my life, I did. I have no debt, but because my ex and I were married for so long she gets about 2/3’rds my paycheck. I’m legally obligated to pay her that."

snwbrdj

Everyone has insecurities gentlemen. You're not alone.