Women are often asked to provide dating advice to men who want to know the best ways to present themselves when playing the field.
Now men have weighed in with their recommendations for the opposite sex. We know what you're thinking... It's 2020... why are we still listening to men? (Right? What's up with that? Look around!)
Regardless of the state of the world, people will always look for love. After Redditor MoonJazzCat asked the online community, "Men of Reddit: What is the best relationship advice you can give us women?" we finally heard recommendations from the opposite sex.
"That's for both sexes."
Say what you mean!
Don't dance around an issue. Don't make it a game. Be direct and just come out with it. You could save yourself a lot of time, potential pain, or the escalation of an argument that wasn't even on the table.
That's for both sexes.
"Little compliments..."
Little compliments are really awesome. Also, talk about what you want and don't want, please (this goes for men and women). Good communication makes things so much easier.
"Holding your relationship hostage..."
Holding your relationship hostage in every argument means you're a bad person with no real argument.
"Oh yea? Then why are we even together."
"If I'm so sh!tty then just leave me."
"I guess you don't care about our relationship then."
"If you hit or berate..."
If you hit or berate your boyfriend/spouse, that's abusive. It doesn't matter what gender the abuser is, and even if it doesn't hurt physically it can really hurt mentally and emotionally.
"If you want to be with someone else..."
If you want to be with someone else, dump your partner. Don't pull that BS where you play the field while having a partner who you're keeping on the backburner if things don't work with your new crush. And sure as hell don't string your partner along waiting for the "perfect moment" to break up with them while you're messing around with someone new. The best time to break up with your partner when you don't want to be with them (especially if you want to be with someone new) is immediately, rip off the band aid and get it over with.
Maybe they'll be mad or upset, but they're gonna find out if you lie to them about "just wanting to be single for a while" when you're putting up pics with you and "new boo" a couple weeks later on social media and that hurts way more than if you just be honest in the first place. If you want to be with your current partner, don't be messing around with Mr. "He's just a friend" because you're not as slick as you think and that's emotional cheating.
"Probably my top advice..."
Probably my top advice for anyone in a relationship: DO NOT PLAY RELATIONSHIP GAMES!
Just say what you want, don't make the other person guess, don't make them try to win you over. Don't play the silent game where they have to guess what they did wrong or guess how to fix things.
And, don't "loyalty test" them or whatever crap. If trust is lacking, tests won't fix them. Communication and trust will. If that doesn't work, tests certainly won't.
Just say what you want. If the other person genuinely doesn't know and is trying, that's okay. Don't make it unnecessarily hard on them.
"If we say nothing..."
Sometimes us men really are thinking about nothing, nothing whatsoever. If we say nothing it usually means nothing.
"Try to make it clear upfront..."
Try to make it clear up front if you want him to find what's wrong with your outfit or just give compliments when you ask how an outfit looks. The assumption is you just want a compliment but if you actually want a second set of eyes in case you missed something we need to know that.
"Even men..."
Even men like to be pampered and made to feel sexy. How you do that depends on your man, but we absolutely love it when we receive it.
"You have every right..."
If you go into a relationship with a list of things he does wrong but you want to 'fix' in him, neither of you will be happy. People can make small, incremental adjustments and concessions, but most people don't make sweeping changes to their personality and habits for the sake of another person.
You have every right to break up with a guy who makes you unhappy. He has every right to break up because living with a constant reminder of what he isn't doing right is miserable. Both of these things can be concurrently true about people who are in a relationship together.
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