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When it comes to long-term relationships and marriages, generally it seems like the longer the relationship lasts, the more of a "sure thing" it seems to be. If a couple has already been together this long, surely they can work through anything!
But there are some offenses that are far too big to overcome, and much less obvious to anyone on the outside looking in, the little things can hugely and hurtfully add up over the years.
Curious, Redditor sakillya asked:
"Divorcees who were married over a decade, what ended your marriage?"
"Letting all the small things get swept under the rug instead of working through them."
"Ignoring major red flags because of love."
"We were totally different people after 10 years of growth."
- Square-Heat-3758
"This is a big reason in my divorce as well."
"I used to pride myself on the fact that 'My wife and I never fight!' And I found myself enduring things that I was unhappy about 'BeCaUsE i LoVe HeR!'"
"But yeah, sweeping the problems under just made them linger. Resentments build up. Eventually, no matter how strong it is, the dam breaks. And it all comes FLOWING out."
"I was amazed at how open my emotions had become, and not just with my wife. I spent my marriage hiding from my feelings to keep the peace, and now I wanted to actually feel something again."
- malogan82
"After twenty-one years of marriage, and twenty-five years as a couple, she became an alcoholic. Childhood traumas she wouldn't deal with made her become drink-dependant for the last three years of the marriage and pushed me to breaking point. Mainly because she refused to admit there was a problem."
"We divorced, which she did everything she could to drag out and make acrimonious. My children (now grown) came and lived with with me."
"She died of liver and multiple organ failure within four years of the divorce. While highly stressed at the time, the whole thing makes me sad now."
- ArithonUK
"I got tired of seeing our money being spent at the racetrack, treating his friends to drinks at the bar, and he was extremely verbally abusive to me when he drank, and his mistress. We had a real trifecta of reasons."
"14 years married, I got the house and the mortgage."
"He married the mistress, that marriage lasted two years, and then he wanted to 'come home' and he promised 'he'd do better.'"
"By then, I was sooo happy he was gone, I thought it was pretty funny. He didn't appreciate being laughed at."
- Any_Assumption_2023
"Our daughter was diagnosed with a terminal illness."
"I discovered my partner was trying to start a new replacement family on the side."
- RetroDadOnReddit
"This reads like one of those two-sentence horror stories. I’m so sorry this happened to you."
- velociraptorbreath
"My parents were married for 25 years when my mom was in a fairly serious car accident, started taking classes at the local college for the first time, and then was diagnosed with breast cancer, all within six months."
"The youngest sibling was 16, and the rest of us were out of the house. My dad decided he wanted to be a kid again and cheated on my mom with his friend's wife."
"They didn't actually divorce until 15 years later (so they were legally married for 40 years), but they were separated, living apart, and dating other people. They kept trying to get back together every couple of years, but one wanted fewer responsibilities, and the other wanted to be taken care of."
"It was really difficult for my siblings and I to reconcile the man we looked up to so much was the same man who broke our family. The relationship between us and our dad has never recovered."
- duchess_of_fire
"My wife's and my marriage was pretty good. Not perfect, but divorce didn't cross my mind."
"She got involved online with a guy she knew from her childhood. She got emotionally entangled and couldn't give it up."
"29 years married, and it ended in a matter of months. She's been married to him now for two years. I'm now engaged and will be getting married next year."
- 3liter3
"I was married for almost 13 years, and we got divorced because we just fell out of love, and it was time to move on. We were basically just roommates."
- dickey1331
"This is so sad and one of my fears. Marrying someone I’m madly in love with, and years go by, and we fall out of love. I don't know."
- No_Anteater8156
"The phrase 'never stop dating' exists for this reason. Never assume just because you’re married, you’re set for life. People love to date and be dated, so why stop after a piece of paper is signed?"
- fuzzyfoot88
"'It’s not working anymore, we are just too different.'"
"While this is very true, it wasn’t anything new. It wasn't surprising."
"We were married for 16 years, together for over 20, and had known each other for 31 years by then. She had known me for 15 years when we got married."
"Oh, it also turned out she was having an affair for at least a year and a half when we signed the papers."
"So I have a slight hunch that the real reasoning was that she simply found someone better."
- _Bearded_Dad_
"I was married for seven years. I worked full time, went back to school, did all the housework, and still found time to be a good father and husband. Eventually, the stress broke me."
"The woman was addicted to sleep and playing on her phone. I guess she thought cooking once a week and sex whenever I wanted would be enough, but turns out stress is a real boner killer."
"Now our 10-year-old constantly complains about how all her mom does is sleep. Breaks my heart. I know there are underlying issues, but she refused to get any kind of help."
- Imokaywithbooks
"We stopped being teammates and started feeling like opponents."
"And the shift was so quiet, we didn't notice until it was a war."
- MohammadAbir11
"Together nearly 23 years, married for 18. Found out at Easter she was cheating on me. The emotional trauma is unlike anything I’ve experienced in my life, and both my parents and brother died."
"I eat half a meal a day, I’ve lost 30 lbs in 2 months, I can’t focus at work (I’m lucky to be able to take a three-month stress leave), I wake up at 3:00 or 4:00 AM with panic attacks and dry heaves, I start shaking randomly, and I can’t concentrate on any distractions like podcasts, music, video games or tv shows."
"Getting out and walking or talking with friends is the only thing that helps."
"Every cell in my body wants to get as far away from her as possible but we have three young boys I’m not leaving, and a house that was intended to be my inheritance before we 'bought' it from my mom (a home that's been in the family for 70 years) so that’ll be an expensive legal battle."
- Farklegruber
"We had children. It triggered his latent avoidant tendencies, and he avoided me for half a decade before I was finally able to drag the truth out of him: he never wanted to be married, never wanted to be a father."
"He stayed out of obligation and duty, but he was miserable, and he took it out on me. Never the kids, just me."
"You can feel sympathy for someone while also being betrayed on such a fundamental level that you never want to see him again. Sometimes I miss the man I married... but he never really existed, he was a mask for a guy who really ended up being a jerk."
- cloistered_around
"My ex once told me, 'I didn't plan to get married, it was just the expected thing so it happened, and then kids were expected so we did that, and then I looked around and realized I was married with kids without having ever thought about whether I actively wanted this.'"
"He then blamed me for being hurt by that. I don't feel sympathy for him, though; his avoidant tendencies put me through h**l."
- hazyandnew
"Infidelity. He met a woman through work and started up an extramarital affair."
"I found out through mutual friends that he got caught cheating on her three months after they were married."
"I wish I had known before I married him that his dad regularly cheated on his mom and his brother regularly cheated on SIL. Family tradition of infidelity."
- NotoriousLVP
"Her bipolar finally got the better of us."
"I supported her through the many episodes, suicide attempts and overspending, even the first cheating. It was still 'us vs. the disease.'"
"But when she stabbed herself in the stomach in front of our nine-year-old son, (drug induced psychotic break during another affair with an alcoholic , it’s a long story…) I knew I had to pull the plug."
"On the bright side, she hit rock bottom after that and rebounded with some help from me and her family. She is marginally better now, even if I suspect she’s off her meds again and things won’t end well."
- Pippin1505
"20 years. She upgraded to her husband three after years of out-of-control spending."
"I put my foot down, she hit the road. Fortunately, the next guy married her less than two years later, getting me out of many remaining years of 'income equalization.'"
"I should really send him Christmas cards."
- dswpro
From subtle changes in the relationship to resentment building to insurmountable big issues and offenses in the relationship, there are countless ways that a relationship could come apart at the seams, even if the couple has been together "forever," and we all thought that nothing could shake them. We're all human, after all.
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Far-right podcaster and white nationalist Nick Fuentes railed against "scam artist" President Donald Trump and criticized the larger MAGA movement, calling it "the biggest scam in American history."
Fuentes spoke as Trump continues to face criticism for rejecting calls to release the Epstein files, which are said to contain detailed lists of some of the late financier, pedophile, and sex trafficker Jeffrey Epstein's most high-profile clients and enablers.
Trump is widely believed to be in the Epstein files and has rejected calls by his followers to release them, admonishing critics of Attorney General Pam Bondi, who recently concluded no such list exists, despite claiming the exact opposite just months ago.
Trump has since directed Bondi to release whatever she finds "credible" in the Epstein files amid the backlash from his supporters. However, he dismissed the files as a "hoax" in a lengthy Truth Social post, claiming that "my PAST supporters have bought into this ‘bulls**t’ hook, line, and sinker" despite his spending years promoting conspiracy theories about the files.
Fuentes was particularly angry about Trump's attack against his own base, saying:
"Now he says, 'If you're not on board with the Epstein cover-up, I don't want your support. You're a weakling.'"
"F**k you. F**k you. You suck, you are fat, you are a joke, you are stupid, you're not as funny as you think you are."
"Honestly—and if you watch my show, I've been very critical—I've never been this far. This just goes to show this entire thing has been a scam. When we look back on the history of populism in America, we are going to look back on the MAGA movement as the biggest scam in history."
"And the liberals were right. The MAGA supporters were had. They were."
"When we look back in history, we will see Trump as a scam artist who served as a vehicle for this rather than the other way around. We were not the vehicle for Trump, Trump was the vehicle for all of us."
You can hear what he said in the video below.
It was a striking moment and people noted it reflected a larger break in Trump's MAGA base, though they were not especially sympathetic to Fuentes for only realizing this now.
Fuentes has regularly criticized Trump these last few months.
In March, he admitted on his show that "liberals were right, fundamentally" about Trump, acknowledging Trump's brand of authoritarian populism by referring to him as a "populist demagogue."
He said:
"What liberals said about him, that he was stirring up the rubes, animating the rubes, with nativist rhetoric and ginning up rhetoric against the system to empower himself and people around him, and brought the swamp closer to his periphery in his first and second administration, willing to say or do anything?"
"Yeah, that all kind of turned out to be true. Yeah, that basically turned out to be true."
Well, Nick—took you long enough.
Christian artist Morgan Weistling publicly denounced Kristi Noem's Department of Homeland Security (DHS) for theft and misuse of his intellectual property—his copyrighted painting A Prayer for a New Life—after DHS retitled his artwork and used it without his permission or knowledge for a White nationalist propaganda post.
The federal department posted Weistling's painting on their official social media accounts, captioned:
"Remember your Homeland’s Heritage."
"New Life in a New Land - Morgan Weistling"
On X, the DHS post received added context, the actual title, from X users.
Weistling also used social media to respond to DHS using art they didn't buy the rights to or get permission to use in an official government campaign.
In a since deleted Instagram post, the artist wrote:
"For those who are wondering, I DID NOT GIVE PERMISSION AND DID NOT KNOW ABOUT THE DHS USING MY PAINTING IN A POST YESTERDAY ON ALL THEIR PLATFORMS."
"IT IS A VIOLATION OF MY COPYRIGHT ON THE PAINTING AND I AM LOOKING INTO WHAT TO DO NEXT"
With the caption:
"I am amazed that they thought they could randomly post an artist's painting without permission. They even re-titled it."
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Days after Metallica forced Pete Hegseth to remove their song that DOD used in his video promoting war, the artist who painted a picture that Noem is using to promote deportations is furious his work was stolen by DHS without permission. meidasnews.com/news/exclusi...
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— Ron Filipkowski (@ronfilipkowski.bsky.social) July 16, 2025 at 1:26 PM
How did DHS find and select this specific painting?
Noem's office may have assumed Weistling would be sympathetic to the Trump administration's racist and xenophobic agenda because of the company he keeps.
The internet sleuths on Reddit found that Weistling licenses and sells his art through right wing anti-LGBTQ+, anti-reproductive freedom, pro-Christian nationalism Evangelical Christian "church," Focus on the Family.
store.focusonthefamily.com/morgan-weistling
Considered a parachurch due to having no actual church or services, founder James Dobson declared Focus on the Family a tax exempt church, claiming it is "primarily to protect the confidentiality of our donors."
Reminiscent of Noem's memoir title, this isn't her first rodeo pilfering artwork.
Earlier this month, DHS pinched a painting from late artist Thomas Kinkade. This time the call to action was to "Protect the (1950s White suburban) Homeland" depicted in the painting.
People are getting the message loud and clear, but felt DHS missed a few details.
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DHS's White nationalist propaganda is also being called out online for its inaccurate portrayal of how the United States was colonized and settled.
Ignoring the fact their "Homeland Heritage" excludes almost all Black, Indigenous, Asian, Latino, and Middle Eastern citizens of the United States, it also excludes most White people.
Like most Christian nationalist, White supremacist, and White nationalist rhetoric and propaganda, the "Remember your Homeland’s Heritage" caption touches on a romanticized, inaccurate history of the United States that's mostly Hollywood Heritage.
Covered wagons and westward expansion made for great TV shows and movies, but only a fraction of American citizens have any direct connection to those settlers because there were very few of them. Historically speaking, the wagon train era was little more than a blip on the national radar, having little to no overall impact outside of the fiction inspired by it.
The period of wagon trains lasted only about 40 years, from 1840 to 1880, with most settlers either stopping at established communities like Cincinnati, St. Louis, Kansas City, and Minneapolis instead of on the open plains.
And many settlers were only passing through on their way to the Pacific coast where gold had been discovered—a journey already possible by ship and by 1869, possible by the intercontinental railroad.
From 1880 to 1930 is when European settlers first made their presence known as permanent residents on the prairies depicted in Weistling's painting, thanks largely to rail and then automotive travel, after covered wagons were obsolete. Between 1950 and 2007, the Great Plains region's population more than doubled from 4.9 million to 9.9 million people, which is still sparse at best.
One thing DHS's chosen moment can boast is it was a path undertaken almost exclusively by White Christians.
Perhaps that's the message from the Trump administration—that only White Christian history should be recognized as our Homeland’s Heritage.
TikToker @_maycontain received mixed responses after having a flight attendant make an announcement about his severe nut allergy to his fellow airline passengers; the video has received more than 6 million views.
The video shows a moment between the TikToker—identified as content creator Dan Kelly—and an easyJet flight attendant as he explains his allergy and requests a nut-free announcement on a flight from Pisa to London Gatwick.
Though the airline stopped selling peanuts years ago and asks passengers not to bring nut-containing snacks onboard, Kelly still alerts cabin crews about his allergy, which he says can be triggered by airborne nut particles.
Kelly also asked if the crew could make an announcement to passengers, requesting a nut-free flight for his safety. The friendly flight attendant asked where he was seated—6B—and whether he had any EpiPens, before sending him on his way, worry-free.
Text overlaid on the clip reads:
"Why does it rattle so many people when I ask the airline to do an announcement?"
You can see the video below.
@_maycontain Surely people can go without nuts for a few hours if it could save someone’s life! Honestly, I don’t understand why some people still don’t take food allergies seriously. If it were you or your child living with a life-threatening allergy, you’d hope others would show a bit more empathy and recognise just how serious it really is! ✈️If you travelling or going abroad with a food allergy, make sure to check the 🔗 in my bio #allergy #foodallergy #allergies #easyjet
Kelly's page focuses on raising awareness and promoting understanding of allergy-related issues. His videos often include demonstrations of proper EpiPen use and personal insights into navigating dating while living with a serious allergy.
But people had mixed responses to his efforts, with some saying he shouldn't expect the entire plane to accommodate him.
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In an interview with Newsweek, Kelly said he has "had a severe nut allergy since I was 5," adding that "it impacts my daily life constantly; living with the fear of a reaction is exhausting, and it's even more intense when traveling abroad."
He also stressed how dangerous the allergy can be even with just minor exposure, noting that "if someone eats nuts, doesn't wash their hands, then touches me—that could trigger it."
Content Warning: Pet Loss
Pet parents and human parents everywhere will tell you that it only takes a moment for something to go horribly wrong, and it takes just one time of not noticing symptoms for something irreversible and tragic to occur.
TikToker and passionate pet mom @mazie.kayee shared a series of TikTok videos in which she explained the heartbreaking and sudden loss of her cat, Blue, after he accidentally ate the tassel off of a dangling cat toy that she had purchased from Target as part of an Easter gift.
Her beloved cat had to be hospitalized after swallowing part of the toy, and soon died from complications. There were negative reviews online, highlighting how easily the toy broke apart, which she wished she had read before making her purchase.
She wanted to caution fellow pet parents about purchasing toys with tassels and to do their due diligence and keep an eye on their pets whenever they were allowed to play with the toys.
She also reached out to Target, where she purchased the toy, to explain what had happened and to voice her concern about them continuing to sell the toys to other pet parents.
Fortunately, the TikToker's concerns were heard, and she shared in a "storytime" TikTok that Target had removed the toys from the shelves and were in the process of redesigning them.
@mazie.kayee UPDATE!! #catsoftiktok #cat #cats #target #cattoys #bootsandbarkley #catloss #fyp #trending
She even shared a brief video to celebrate that the toy wasn't available anymore.
"Yes, my cat is still gone. Nothing is going to change that. But Target is taking this very seriously, and that’s all they can do now."
"Toys SHOULD be safe for pets already, but they’re not. I’m making the best out of one of the worst situations. I’m spreading awareness so people don’t make the same mistake as me."
"Last I checked, 1.1 million people now know Blue’s name, and they’re making changes to their cats' lives as well so this doesn’t happen again."
@mazie.kayee Yes, my cat is still gone. Nothing is going to change that. But Target is taking this very seriously and that’s all they can do now. Toys SHOULD be safe for pets already, but they’re not. I’m making the best out of one of the worst situations. I’m spreading awareness so people don’t make the same mistake as me. Last I checked, 1.1 million people now know Blue’s name, and they’re making changes to their cats lives as well so this doesn’t happen again. #fyp #catsoftiktok #cats #cattoys #target #bootsandbarkley #catloss #petloss
To further caution pet parents who may have already purchased the toy, the TikToker shared an image of the toy.
@mazie.kayee Replying to @andie🦇 TikTok removed the last one already so part 2. #catsoftiktok #cats #cattoys #target #bootsandbarkley #sedgwick #insurance #catloss
Some were shocked that they had the same toy, and were grateful for the advice.
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Others empathized with the cat mom and wished her well while she continued to mourn her lost pet.
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Some were grateful the TikToker was spreading awareness, and shared additional advice.
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It's beyond heartbreaking that this TikToker had to go through this and have a "learning experience" instead of her beloved Blue still happily in her home.
With her continued advocacy, she can save other pet parents and their beloved pets from the same trauma.