Let's face it. There is nothing sexy about a significant other who has a lot of growing up to do.
So Redditor _Hellosh helped us identify signs of people, women, in particular, who may not be the right dating material.
The Redditor asked:
"What are signs a woman hasn't matured?"
Some believed that in relationships, women who avoid having an adult conversation do not make them adults.
Turning To Social Media
"when instead of communicating she makes a status about you or tweet 🚩 immediately cut off."
– pingponggawd
Can We Talk?
"Not communicating when you do or don't want something and then holding resentments about it later."
"Edit: to people lamenting that they are like this, I’ve been through this journey myself and know how deep rooted this behavior is. Still working on it myself but feel free to DM to chat about some tips and strategies."
– youneedsomemilk23
Blame Game
"And any relationship failure isn't her fault and blames the other party. 'If a man knows your worth, he will treat you right' kind of Instagram stories."
– king_booker
Let's Discuss This
"Lack of empathy and listening skills. Thinking you are 'less of a man' for being emotionally vulnerable and expressing your feelings, and later weaponizing these insecurities."
– velvet_thunder999
The Soon-To-Be-Ex
"Was looking for this one. Me and my lady, well probably ex by now, just had a BIG fight and she did this exact thing. Using the things that I'm most susceptible to be hurt by to cause true damage. You just don't do that. Wish I could upvote this to the highest cloud on the Internet."
– Wrong-Row9404
Redditors suggested drama breeds more drama.
Pot Calling Kettle
"She’s always going on about cutting out all the drama and toxicity from her life. Hint: She’s the drama and toxicity."
– an_ineffable_plan
Petty's Not Pretty
"If she still gets into petty drama as an adult."
– DrunkTomte
One Big Competition
"Many of my mom friends compete with their own daughters. Talent, success, male affection. It’s all f’ing disgusting."
– dr_uggist
Forever Plastics
"Making unneccessary drama and stating you don't like drama. Then, you're probably toxic and your entire group of friends are just like you. You never left high school mentally."
– TheNothingAtoll
No Time For Games
"When they do constant 'tests' to see how you will react."
– Nicodemu5
Manipulative Sister-In-Law
"My sister-in-law is exactly like this. She's pushing 40 and she's all drama. 🙄"
"We don't talk to her anymore because we don't need her toxic bullshit in our lives. Her and my husband's father passed away several years ago and she stole a ton of money from his estate. My husband got nothing and she walked away with a huge down payment for a house. It's a long story but she forged documents and straight up stole all the money from the estate."
"My husband hired a lawyer to get the money back and instead of working with him, she went and turned their entire extended family against him. She also tried to talk to my husband's friends to turn them against him but they wouldn't have any of it. We live several states away from the rest of the family so we're not there to defend ourselves."
"It has been peaceful without her drama and toxic bullsh*t in our lives but it sucks that my husband's family doesn't talk to him anymore just because they bought into her lies and drama.
– lonedandelion
A Friend's Advice
"For anyone reading this. I was advised to get legal representation by an old friend as soon as as the situation presented itself. Meaning before anything had gone through probate. I thought about it and went ahead and did it. It's on the pricey side but I guess it's a bit like insurance - you pay hoping it won't be needed. Plus it lets all parties concerned know that you are watching what is going on. These sorts of things happen but it's possible to influence the situation in your favor."
– drevilseviltwin
Women who elevate themselves in this way were seen as undesirable.
Rotten Way Up
"When the only way she can get ahead is by bringing you down."
– Wrexis
"Last woman I dated was like this. She would constantly talk down to me and call me stupid. I was in college for a bachelors in Aviation Management and she was getting her Masters in Organic Chemistry."
"I would ask about her studies as I found green chemistry interesting, but she’d answer me in a really degrading manner every time. Took time to piece it together, but I got out of that mess before it took off."
– Thewombocombo91
Judgy
"Putting others down for fun."
"One of my friends started dating a girl and he brought her to dinner with us. She attached herself to me because I was the only girl in the group. She spent the entire night commenting negatively on the clothes and appearance of every single person we passed and thinking she was so clever for it. Sorry, but I'm in my thirties and don't feel like hanging out with someone who has the mentality of a middle schooler."
– MadameBurner
Proving A Point
"Shout out to that girl who blew my friend after 3 days together to prove I wanted her monogamously."
– AEWPackers
A person wanting to be in a healthy relationship should keep the above tips in mind.
Not only should the person, male or female, keep an eye out for red flags indicating immaturity, they should also check themselves before analyzing the egregious behavior others.
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