Sometimes love and understanding can stop hate in its tracks.
Even between strangers.
And yes, even online.
Gender non-conforming model Rain Dove has become a popular figure on Instagram, often using their platform to represent non-binary people everywhere.
As well as experimenting with the different reactions assumptions about gender create.
When an incensed and angry parent DM'd them about the influence Rain Dove's pictures have had on their child, Rain Dove's response quickly went viral.
Rain Dove shared screenshots of their exchange with the ignorant parent.
Even as the parent threw hateful insults at Rain Dove, they responded with kindness and understanding.
By the time the conversation was over, the mother was ready to go do some research for her child!
Rain Dove also posted this caption along with the photos:
" Parents I promise that a professional binder is a safer option for your teen than alternatives they might be using. Getting them one as a gift can be life saving. A great brand and resource is @gc2b they even recently gave me a whole box to donate when in SA. Amazing conscientious and involved company."
"Binding ones chest can be a dangerous thing- especially when using alternative options like I used to do. Ace bandage and ducttape lead to skin tearing, fractured ribs and I even passed out once after taking off the binding from the oxygen rushing into my system again. I have models I've worked with who will testify times in which they saw my body distorted after inappropriate binding practices."
"People bind for many reasons. It's not always identity or dysphoria related. Especially people with larger breasts have expressed binding has been lifesaving in functional terms. Binding CAN be lifesaving and ease much anxiety. I must note that it alone won't make someone feel complete in their existence. We must work to dismantle toxic oppressions that lead to social oppressions and anxieties. We must create a space of love for all people to live in no matter their bodies. We must create a safe space for dialogue.#LoveWins #noteasybutworthit#nonbinary #memes #educatedonthate #binding #lgbtq #genderfluid #trans #lovewins #grsm"
"NOTE: Sammys parent gave me permission to post this convo! Always important to make sure You have permission! The photo is not their real face."As it turned out, the mother was simply scared for the wellbeing of their child and lashing out at Dove.
Social Media was amazed at the profound effect Rain Dove's caring had on the angry parent.
But they were also quick to remind people that it should not be the responsibility of non-binary people to be kind to abusers.
At the same time, however, it's hard not to admire Rain Dove's kind spirit.
Rain Dove responded to the viral reaction on Twitter!
Well done, Rain Dove—you're making the world a better place, one conversation at a time!
Jane Rosenberg
Jane Rosenberg
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