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People Break Down How They'd React If They Couldn't Have Sex Anymore Due To Physical Or Mental Issues

People Break Down How They'd React If They Couldn't Have Sex Anymore Due To Physical Or Mental Issues

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Sex isn't everything.

But it can be something many of us take for granted.

But when it's gone... you notice.

Some move on, and some grieve.

And for many Redditors, this situation wasn't a hypotherical.


Redditor JeffLaRue wanted to hear how people would react without the possibility of sex, so they asked:

"What would you do if you couldn't have sex anymore due to a physical or mental issue?"

I personally wouldn't be thrilled.

But I'd find a way.

The New Me

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"I do actually (endometriosis). It's sometimes really sad, but you do other things with your partner, and try again to see if there's any improvement."

"I used to have a high sex drive, but due to the pain not anymore. My partner understands that and his one preoccupation is my health."

Nansya

Likely be ok?

"My husband has stage 4 metastatic melanoma. He’s ok and will likely be ok but chemo/immunotherapy f**ked with his mojo. I’m good. We’ve found our intimacy in other ways like coffee together and just laughing in our car, our tv shows, etc.. I’d much rather have him with me than sex."

Dawnydiesel

"Let's take a moment to appreciate that 'likely be ok' and 'stage 4 metastatic melanoma' can coexist in one sentence. Science, man."

Sixmonths_Newaccount

Sucks, really...

"I was hit by a car and paralyzed from the chest down. I no longer have any sensation down there. Sucks, really. In some ways I think it is easier to get over not being able to walk, than losing sexual function. Unfortunately there isn't anything to do about it."

krunchytacos

"I’m glad you’ve made it this far. I agree with you. My vehicle was rear-ended at a red light. I learned to walk again (so I’m doing amazing really!) but I can’t feel most of my bits, peeing is weird or doesn’t work, same with poo, one foot is constantly weakening, numbness, pins and needles, bolts of pain, constant throbbing, changes with the weather and activities, and really just keeps getting worse. Can’t work a full time job anymore. But the thing that’s the hardest to deal with is the neurogenic sexual dysfunction. It’s difficult as hell."

jessibrarian

All Gone

"The real question is, what would your SO do? We have been in this exact predicament for over 3 years now... It's like living with your best friend but every single day you watch a piece of your relationship die."

"Sorry for the over sharing. This one hits hard. Prostate cancer under 50 is considered rare."

"Although if caught early its very treatable. What they don't tell you is the cancer is transplanted into your relationship. For over 30yrs we had an amazing intimate sexual chemistry that was built around if one of us isn't into it then we won't do it. No fake orgasms, no birthday sex, no wearing each other down or giving in... just raw vulnerability and trust. All gone!"

New_Shoes_999

Meh

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"I would definitely miss it, but I'd manage."

SexyChronicPain

Some people really don't care but did address the lack of intimacy.

A Mental No

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"Honestly I’d be devastated. Not being able to connect in that intimate way with my partner would leave a huge gap in my mental well being. I know it’s not technically essential but it’s a massive part of a relationship and without that I would feel incompetent as a partner."

whiskerbiscuit2

Quality Time

"I'd try other things to feel intimate with my partner. Like naked, but not sexual, snuggling. Or start up a hobby night where we spend quality time together. Maybe buy them a quality toy so they don't feel like they're missing out because of me 🤷♀️ But other than that? I'd just continue getting on with life!"

BinkiesForLife_05

The Struggle

"Been dealing with an inflammatory skin issue that has prevented me from having sex with my partner for the last two months. It’s been a struggle, feels like my sex life is in shambles, and it’s driven me back into depression."

"Luckily my partner is incredibly understanding, but it has put a huge strain on the relationship. Trying to explore other forms of intimacy but she has a hard time receiving touch without it being a mutual experience.

"If this becomes a long term problem I don’t know how I’ll cope."

Merp_the_People

Downgrade

"I'm going to buck the trend and say that my life would be significantly degraded. I had a fairly low sex drive through periods of my life due to mental illness. Now, I am at my sexual peak and it's as if I'm seeing in color for the first time: I know how my body works, and what it likes, and I feel powerful and sexy."

"At this point, my sense of self and identity are linked to my ability to have sex. I felt very ugly and like I was only a mother for a while, and I feel much more like a woman and a normal person now. I could live without sex... but it would take me building myself up all over again and accepting who I am without that."

PralineOwl

Inadequacy...

"It would probably devastate me, honestly. I was super overweight had very poor luck with women in my teens and twenties. I took control of my life, lost over 100 pounds and met my wife at 28. 8 years later we still have a very healthy sex life. She would understand but I feel as though it would bring up the feeling of inadequacy again."

Kingjerm731

Sex isn't everything, but it's important to many.

Hopefully everyone finds peace if this is a life issue being faced.

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