Men are a mess. I can say that because I am one.
We can be better. Yes we're coming off of generations of madness and holding in feelings... but now is the time to learn and grow.
Or just keep looping the madness.
Women have a keen instinct when it comes to explaining the way men can represent themselves as... less than desirable.
Time to chat gents.
Redditor ANONIMkiddo wanted all the ladies to have a sit done and spill some tea the boys need to hear... they asked:
"Girls, what makes a guy instantly unnatractive?"
Why can't we just be real?
That is always my first question.
Lose Control
"Uncontrolled anger issues." ~ reaubsew
"Happened to me too - it was an unprompted no context pic of his bloody fist after he’d punched a wall (I had to ask for context). IDK which is worse, getting into fights and bragging about it or punching walls and bragging about it. He def has a few screws loose (the fist picture was when I realized, but unfortunately too late) and still virtually stalks me years later." ~ sofiacarolina
Be kind...
"Being condescending... Instant no." ~ bellachuuu
"I worry about this, since I tend to tease that way. I'm pretty good about knowing when it's appropriate, but sometimes playing along and being offended can feel very similar." ~ Polymersion
Bad Personality
"Controlling personality." ~ DweedleDee69
"Hi! This seems to be a fairly common issue. Will you please provide some examples and do you think age differences might contribute? What is an example of one’s intended good actions that are interpreted as controlling?" ~ AgreeableMoose-
"Limiting who you talk to men/women -limiting what you can wear in public -isolation from friends and family -deciding where and how much you work -limiting access to social media or makes you delete altogether -doesn’t let you go places without them -goes through your phone -'who are you texting/talking to.' There’s more examples but I don’t have all day. But they always say 'I only do this because I love you.'” ~ DweedleDee69
Ego is always a problem.
Love yourself yes, but don't be elitist.
Be Clean
"Bad hygiene. Anger management issues. Laziness and dependence on others to get things done. Same things that make girls unattractive." ~ Person9183736
GiphyBehavior
"Poor manners." ~ Cat_Astrophe_X
"I had an ex talk about my dinner manners and how a past guy had extremely bad manners. I took cotillion and learn the proper dinner etiquette. She loved it. After she is gone I still do dinner parties and set 6 course meals for friends. Everything I learned in cotillion, my mom forced me to go, hated it then, love it now." ~ polyphemus69
Sushi Issues
"Constantly interrupting and one upping. I hate when they won’t allow anybody to have a moment of their own. I knew someone who wouldn’t even allow people to have their own tastes. As an example, someone said they liked sushi. His response was, 'you don’t know what real/good sushi is.' WTF they didn’t say they were experts in what sushi should or shouldn’t taste like, they just said they liked it."
"It wasn’t just positive things either. Someone would complain about a body ache or pain and get responses like, 'it can’t possibly hurt as much as my (insert injury here) so you need to just get over it.' Dude we get it, nobody can be as smart/traveled/experienced/sick/wounded as you." ~ cellendia
Anger
"Through years of anger management I’ve learned that anger manifesting itself in physical release (punching walls, kicking, etc) releases endorphins which is why it’s so easy to just resort to that, I had this problem myself growing up."
"Learning to realize it’s futile, and that it wont achieve anything or solve the problem is really the key point in solving such tendencies. Took me a while but I can’t control pretty much everything now, except if I’m watching a raider game I will be yelling non stop lmao." ~ Stellar_gz1724
Two Feet
"An overly dependent man. Learn to take care of yourself before getting into relationship. A woman shouldn't have to tell you when to clean up, set alarms for you, do your laundry or anything else. I've met way too men whose parents didn't teach them how to be independent and stand on their own two feet."
CSIBakerStreet
“broken pipe”
"Lying. The smaller the lie, the weirder it is. I once had a guy tell me he hated Christmas music but, once I said that I liked it, he changed his answer to loving it. It was… that’s weird right?"
"My friend who was dating awhile ago had a guy lie to her about a pipe breaking at his work. He sent her a picture of a broken pipe that was clearly just pulled off google… it had a water mark. When we searched 'broken pipe' it was the first thing to come up. Bruh…? Like… why?"
Ambulism
Winning
"Fighting or arguing in a way that’s obviously just aimed at 'winning.' Like if I overhear a guy who canNOT let a small (wrong or right) comment go at the bar when a group of friends are hanging out, it turns into an hour long argument. Bonus points if between two guys, which it almost always is. Eugh. Drier than the desert."
Wit-wat-4
GAS
"When they do that thing where they squint their eyes and clench their teeth before pushing out a fart. Like you can fart around me that's fine. But why are you trying so hard to force it. This is why you pooped your pants at the mall and the other time at barnes and noble."
Catladylex
fart GIFGiphyWhat about this?
"I do not show enthusiasm for most things. The one emotion/reaction I have the most problems with. I was raised in an environment where no matter my accomplishment or excitement, it was always 'What about this? Did you know you did this wrong? Have you thought about this?' I know they were trying to make me see the big picture but it just made me not show any excitement or enthusiasm for most things."
michiganproud
Tripping
"Guilt tripping. Oh, I can’t hang out in 15 minutes at your place? 'I guess you don’t like me/want to be with me huh' it turns me off WILDLY when people do that. I’m allowed to have a life and say no to hanging out."
yeetmesomejuice
Psycho
"Long nails. Refers to an ex as 'crazy' or 'psycho.'"
Bananastrings2017
"On the second part that's sometimes all you can say about the person, as an example figuratively say you had an ex that threatened to kill a person just because you were hanging out with them because you were friends, that might be an extreme example but I think you would have every right in the world to call them crazy or a psycho."
R2**ckyou_
Materials
"Flexing brands. I have a good friend, but he’s all about the drip and brands, but when someone’s that materialistic it’s such a turn off. Great guy, has helped me a lot, I just wish he found his value in more meaningful things"
justblippingby
Material Girl Yes GIF by MadonnaGiphyHave you been listening boys?
I hope you took notes.
I did.
