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Warning Signs That Someone Doesn't Have Their Sh*t Together

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A lot of people honestly go through life barely holding everything together, but some people just totally don't have it together in the first place.

Some folks are really good at hiding that fact, but there are usually some pretty clear signs.


Redditor erestupapi asked:

"What is a sign someone doesn't have their sh*t together?"

Airing Their Dirty Laundry

"They post all of their drama online and then complain that people are in their business"

- mrsbreezus

"Love especially the detailed posts about how 'some people' need to mind their own business, and how such and such isn’t even true because blah blah blah. 😂 the best"

- dust057

"I figured out long ago that if someone in a LTR starts plastering social media with 'We're so happy! We are SO IN LOVE! We are going to be together FOREVER!', things are on the verge of reverting to 'It's complicated.'"

- notthesedays

Whose Fault Is It Anyway?

"When you blame everyone else for your self-inflicted problems."

- No-Consideration6589

"And vice-versa, by blaming yourself for everything regardless of whose fault it is."

- Delux_Takeover

"This is how I turned my life around at 22. I had a series of problems in my life and I took no ownership in causing them. I had a sudden realization that I was the main cause of each of my problems, and started shaping up from that day on. Unfortunately, once I had that realization, it made me see those issues in friends and family, and those relationships suffered because those people refused to see the same thing in themselves."

- Bobcatluv

It's Only Borrowing If You Pay It Back

"Always asking to borrow money"

- Cornfilledpoop

"My boyfriend gets called by his “best friend” weekly and asks him if he can lend him tons of money. Meanwhile he buys the most expensive jewelry for his girlfriend. Yeah he’s not well"

- pippa03

"This. Ironically, my high-earning friends are the one that always gets involved with debt. It's funny how they earn 2-4x my salary but they still got the nerve to borrow money from me."

- Reid22

You Can Just Block People, You Know

"New phone number/social media accounts every few months."

- pieceofdebri

"I lost contact with a lot of people because of that. I constantly got chained texts of "this is my new number!" Or a Facebook post saying to send them your number because they got a new number. I just stopped responding. And when the new social media accounts were created and I got a new friend request I would end up just not accepting after the second one."

"And it wasn't like once in a while either. Every few months. It happened every few months with the same people."

- bunnyrut

"When I was younger I knew someone like this. He’d get blocked by women on Facebook or his number would be blocked so every year or two he’d get a new number or make a new Facebook so he’s suddenly unblocked."

- squaredistrict2213

Trying Too Hard

"Constantly posting motivational videos and quotes. I mean like all the time."

- rhaizee

"Or the ones constantly posting over top love declarations about their spouse/SO. Things are likely not well in that relationship."

- TheRealDrWan

"Hahahaha this is a massive red flag for a breakdown. Also posting loyalty memes 'never take my kindness for weakness' with a picture of a tired lion."

- Nukitandog

"and the memes with some dude smoking that is about how they are the 'black sheep' of the family but everyone comes to them when sh*t 'gets real'"

- holtpj

"You can always tell your friend is going through some sh*t in their life when their social media posts all of a sudden have an uptick in positive and motivational quotes. It's like a call for help or something"

- Frodo_noooo

A Perfect Act

"Plot twist, no one has their sh*t together. Some are just really good at faking it."

- brodosphotos

"I like 'Everybody is on their first try at getting through life'"

- ZsaFreigh

"Worked with 'highly intelligent; execs. They sure as f**k were acting."

- awhhh

"I’m making my way up the career ladder atm and I’m faking it half the time. I realised a little while back that the guys above are as well. Life is messy, barely anyone has their sh*t together all the time. Just some are better at riding the the chaos than others and are better at dealing with the unexpected."

"What I find is that some compassion and a little self awareness goes a long way. That’s the difference between a crap senior exec and one that you want to work for."

- XCinnamonbun

Just The Runs

"Diarrhoea"

- microwavedhottakes

"If they have loose stool and do not eat enough fiber"

- Cats_Dont_Dance

"Technically correct. The best kind of correct."

- StoneCutter256

The Glory Days

"Most of their small talk/idle chat consists of their high school days even though they graduated years ago."

- TangibleMalice

"Oh yes. My husband had a friend like this when we were dating. They knew each other in high school and that’s all the friend would talk about. I saw this slow but steady pulling away that my husband did because there was no 'now', there was no 'future' with this friend. If he couldn’t talk about that crazy time they painted all the footballs with tar, he’d have nothing to say."

- maruffin

That Was A Lie

"Becoming easily agitated and constantly saying 'I don't care'"

- OpposedScroll75

"My mother every day of my childhood."

- LacrimalStrength

Always Overbooked

"Honestly, someone who would identify as a workaholic and over-schedules themselves. Always seems to me to be a person who doesn't like sitting alone with their thoughts too long. Not enough balance. *not referring to those of us who have to work like that due to economic status."

- lovvvedog

"These people are great at parties (if they even bother to show). You get to hear all the humble bragging and how they 'are so tired and busy all the time' /s"

"They always slide in the fact that they are successful and highly sought after for work. Lord help the people who don't think they're in control of their own schedule and don't know what 'no' is."

- Foamtoweldisplay

Even the person who seems like they've got it all figured out might not really be as in control of their life as they seem.

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