A play on the long-running internet joke about how "everything reminds me of" our exes, the ad had one online creator hilariously telling the company to "have some decorum" when she saw it on a New York City street.
The ad features a photo of a woman's fingers in the three holes of a bowling ball with the caption:
"Everything reminds me of HER."
It's a clever play on, um, let's say "digital stimulation" between two amorous ladies, and it had creator @melisa.suzan jokingly clutching her pearls when she and a friend saw it in New York.
As her friend hysterically laughs, @melisa.suzan is heard saying:
“Is that f**king legal in broad daylight. Think of the children! Gay?! ... Have some decorum!"
The ad is one of a series that is part of the app's "Sapphic Restart" campaign that focuses on dating in the New Year. Appearing in New York and Los Angeles, the ads all share a not-so-subtle, innuendo-driven sense of humor.
For instance, another of the ads features a couch cushion with a giant wet spot on it—FROM A SPILLED GLASS OF CHAMPAGNE, YOU PERVERTS.
The app is huge. Geared toward queer women and non-binary people, it has more than 15 million users globally and has been an outspoken part of a wider movement to reclaim Sapphic partnership from the anti-trans contingents of the LGBTQ+ community and the TERF (trans-exclusionary radical feminists) movement.
In 2023, the app was at the center of a dogpile on X after it announced on Lesbian Visibility Day that part of its mission is to "reclaim" the word "lesbian" from “the clutches of TERFs and bigots who’ve tried to hijack it to fuel their transphobia and hatred."
It was widely applauded at the time for standing up on the right side of history.
And now, HER's bowling ball ad is generating even more praise from people who can't stop laughing at its hilariously unsubtle wit.
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HER CEO Robyn Exton says the app's primary goal is to be inclusive of all those on the Sapphic side, regardless of gender.
She told PinkNews:
“HER has always been a platform that is for trans women, for non-binary people and anyone who identifies as a woman."
That includes bowling enthusiasts, too, obviously.
Rogers, an ordained Presbyterian minister, hosted Mr. Rogers' Neighborhood on PBS from 1968 until 2001, entertaining several generations of children with a diverse cast and gentle moral lessons.
According to McCain:
"Wanna know one of the best things about Mr. Rogers growing up? I never knew anything about his political opinions. He just entertained kids. That's it."
You can see her post here:
People were quick to correct her or call out her ignorance.
While the police were blowing up Black neighborhoods in Philadelphia and enforcing segregation in the South, Mr. Rogers cast a Black man as a police officer and shared a pool with him on his program. Swimming pools were still strictly segregated throughout the United States at the time.
Mr. Rogers made numerous statements about civil and human rights.
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Fred Rogers set new standards for quality children's television and has been repeatedly recognized as one of the most influential figures in television history.
His show addressed complex topics in age-appropriate ways and emphasized kindness and acceptance for all people.
In real-time, in the moment, it can be difficult to appreciate and learn from the experiences of life and those who have lived through them.
It may seem selfish or ignorant, but the more I think about it, the more I realize that's how we grow.
Good or bad.
Real time is experience.
But... it would behoove all of us to listen to advice that is rooted in truth.
So much wrong can be righted by just listening and avoiding.
Redditor WittyMonk7391 wanted to hear about all of the wisdom so many of us regret not taking to heart, so they asked:
"What’s a piece of advice you ignored once, but later realized was 100% correct?"
"'Enjoy being a kid while you can.' I'm so tired."
- TheFieryBanana
"Keep that playful kid version of yourself, it's good for your brain."
- Somebody23
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"In my senior year of high school, I was blessed to have a car, which meant I could go from my front door to my heated car, straight into school. Total outside time <2 minutes."
"One winter morning, nearly a foot of snow still accumulated on the ground, the temperature was near 0°F, I was leaving the house, and my dad noticed I didn't bring a jacket."
"He urged me to bring one, and I stubbornly said, 'Nah, there's no need. I won't even be outside at all until I get home later.'"
"Dad asks, 'What if there's a fire drill?' and I say, 'Then I guess I'll be cold!'"
"Anyway, there was a fire drill that day, and yes, I was very cold. My dad was quite amused."
- LetsDoTheNews
"If you don’t take a break voluntarily, your body will force you to take one."
- thesecrwns
"Lost my job to burnout. Your employer doesn't care. Your body keeps the score. So now I'm both jobless and in terrible health because I sacrificed it for the job that let me go. I would say lesson learned, but it's too late for me. Use me as a bad example, that way my f**kups might at least have some residual value somewhere."
- DespondentEyes
"If something seems to be too good to be true, that’s because it is."
- mustacheyoutoSTFU
"I 100% agree with this sentiment, but I’ve had 2 instances where I bought something dirt cheap, and everyone told me it was too good to be true, but it was!"
"My camera, the guy selling it in the marketplace for $500, even though it was a 1.5k camera, because he was rich and didn’t care about it. And my first car, which was work $15k, but I got it for $9k because it hadn’t moved in forever, because they mainly sold trucks in that lot."
"Both times, everyone said this quote to me (understandably), and I just did my research and thankfully came out okay."
"But yes, almost always follow that advice!"
- No-New-Therapy
"If someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. The first time it’s said, it sounds harsh. Later, after a few burned bridges, wasted years, or I thought they’d change situations, it landed like a fact of physics. That I can’t change anyone."
- mintleeaf
"Also, when someone tells you how they are, believe them. You can avoid needing to be shown if you listen carefully. It took me way too long to realise people who say they're non-confrontational won't come to me when they have an issue with me. I've had too many friendships fall apart uncomfortably with self-proclaimed 'non-confrontational' people."
- gnomenclature33
"Stretch every day."
- unimportantinfodump
"I had a big ol cyst growing in my hips that was pushing against my sciatic nerve something fierce. Took 10 years for a scan to pick it up, and it was mostly removed. I have been SO STIFF over the years as it got bigger and bigger, and I moved less and less. I have been stretching regularly, and I can tell this is going to take a LONG time to undo."
"It used to be like my pelvis, hips, waist, and hamstrings were all one solid painful piece. I started doing kettlebell swings this week, which would have been a nightmare for me a year ago."
"Kids, you may feel fine today, but you will lose your youth quickly unless you maintain it. Heed this advice."
- Johnycantread
"Buy less, buy better."
"Spent years buying cheap stuff that broke or wore out fast. Finally did the math on how much I was actually spending replacing things."
"Now I research before I buy and honestly own fewer things but like them all more."
- MemoryKeeper92
"Honestly, the way the economy looks now, more people will become more cautious about what they buy; until somewhat recently (until the start of 2025), a few silly purchases could sort themselves out after some time, but uncertainty has made it so that very few mistakes or no mistakes at all are an option to most people."
- elopingcats
"Some very good and sound advice is getting posted on this thread."
"So here is mine."
"If there is something that you believe is important for you to get or achieve in life, then you need to be working towards it right now and doing it consistently. The timing almost never gets better to do it, and before you know, you’re too old and you never even tried."
- Independent_March536
"Listen to your body. If one food/drink makes you tired/nauseated/burp/… that means that you can't handle it well, so avoid it."
- Sunbee_Peanut
"Only just learnt that kiwi fruit doesn't make everyone else's mouth feel weird and uncomfortable - I'm just allergic apparently."
"In my defence, they are delicious and other foods fight back like lemons or chilli, so how could I have known, haha."
- AdMaximum7545
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"I'll add one more, because I think everybody has ignored it multiple times."
"Listen to the voice in the back of your head when it says something's not right."
"Oftentimes, your subconscious will pick up on something that you did not overtly take notice of. Everybody's had that moment where they had a bad feeling about something, but followed through with it anyway. The moment you get that feeling, you should stop and ask why... and probably not do it."
- FuriouslyListening
"Your brain's job is to keep you alive, not happy... and it only knows about what didn't kill you in the past, so it will continue to convince you to do that, ya know...since you didn't die. If you want to change, if you want something else, you have to trick your brain into believing the new thing won't kill you; otherwise, your subconscious operating system will continue to make choices based on survival alone."
- bluemooncommenter
"'You'll understand when you get older.'"
"Life was so nice when I was young and ignorant and invincible. Almost 50, and life has taught me some experiences. For example, it turns out I'm invincible."
- iamthe0ther0ne
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"Always go to the funeral."
"Three separate times in life, I have received this advice, unprompted. If you can't decide whether or not you should go, then go."
"It seems like such a strange piece of advice, and I have often wondered why I specifically have gotten it so many times, but I can assure you, the one time I DIDN'T go is one of the only regrets I have."
"Always go to the funeral."
- Winnie_rem18
"When I was 17, a friend told me that I needed to deal with my anger issues before they messed up my life."
"At the time, I was not in the right place, mentally, to accept the advice. I ended up telling the friend to F off. He never spoke to me again."
"He was right, though. Unfortunately, I had to learn that the hard way."
- rosesforthemonsters
"This is just something I learned."
"Learn how to pick your battles and learn to let go. It's a piece of advice I used to ignore, but now I'm learning to apply. Especially since there are more important things that need my attention more, and keeping grudges over every slight is unhealthy and stressful."
- Stock_Pangolin_8902
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This list is only the tip of the iceberg.
Lesson #1... Life is short!
Prepare for that.
#2... listen to advice from people who know.
We can't always reinvent the wheel, nor should we.
This thread makes me edgy.
I need a bucket list stat!
Thank you for sharing.
What other lessons are missing?
