The Real Reason Why People Moved Out Of Their Parents' House

Too Many Cooks

"Too many adults under one roof. I needed to branch off and be my own person in my own space."

- cmf1990

Simple Independence

"I love my parents, and I honestly have a great relationship with them. In fact, I'm moving across the country to be near them in about a month, and I'll be living with them for a bit while I search for my own place."

"However, when I live with them, I struggle to act as an independent adult. It's as much my fault as everyone else's, but I still prefer living on my own long term."

- retief1

Financial Trouble

"Mom was downsizing due to financial difficulties and didn’t have room for me in the new apartment."

"So, I struck a deal with the manager of the little restaurant where I worked part-time to rent a room from him and his wife while I finished high school. It was a good growing-up experience."

"The only downside was I’m pretty sure my manager didn’t bother mentioning to his wife that some awkward pimple-faced 17-year-old would me moving in until that Saturday morning when I was dragging all my crap through their living room towards the back bedroom."

"She gave me a frosty reception and frankly, I couldn’t blame her."

- Southern_Snowshoe

Not So Merry Christmas

"My brother's friend called home from college in early December, to make travel plans for coming home over Christmas break."

"His parents said, 'Oh, uh, yeah, about that, we meant to tell you before... we moved... to a one-bedroom apartment... but I guess if you wanted to come here and sleep on the couch for the break, I guess that would be okay...'"

"He did not go home over break, or to my knowledge, ever again. He spent Christmas at our house that year, instead of with his own family."

- DaddyBeanDaddyBean

"Crippling Disability"

"Living with my s**tty, controlling parents for 18 years was enough to make me move out and run to the farthest, most remote college I could without having to pay out-of-state fees."

"They wanted me to stay home and go to community college because I was their 'precious, delicate little girl' and because I had ADHD, it meant I was destined to be incapable of looking after myself, and they needed to shelter me."

"Everything I accomplished, my grades, my awards, my honors, they attributed it all to themselves, not to me (I couldn't achieve those things, I had ADHD after all. In their eyes, it was all them). They believed being verbally abusive somehow helped me succeed (it didn't, it just stunted my growth)."

"I took my diploma, my scholarships, and my PC and got the f**k outta dodge. Best decision I ever made. I did just fine, and I am a successful electrical engineer with a husband, a house, and an active healthy social life."

"So much for my 'crippling disability.'"

- McMew

Severe Anxiety Attacks

"I found an okay job and left immediately. I’m lucky I did. I can survive about a week with my dad before remission into panic attacks and severe anxiety. The last time I spent more time than that, we had an argument that ended with me in the hospital (no violence, just fear)."

"Yeah, no thanks. I’ve since gotten a support group of friends that I can stay with if something goes wrong, and I’m lucky I can live without him spending much time in my life. I don’t think I’d be around if I couldn’t."

- MountainMan2_

Packed the Bags

​"We didn’t have a house. We lived in an apartment. I had been paying half the rent since I was 15."

"One day, I got home, and my mom was packing bags. I asked what’s up, where was she going? She said she was going to go stay with my sister and see my nieces. I was like okay, cool, see you in a few days, I guess."

"I got a call two weeks later that she wasn’t coming back and already told the landlord I’d be out in 24 hours. I called the landlord and told him I had no idea what was going on. He gave me a month to move out."

"I put all my mom's stuff in storage and started life on my own. To this day, I don’t know why she chose to up and leave me. I’ve asked her and she just says she missed my nieces and wanted to be with them."

"Really going to drop a 17-year-old and give them 24 hours to move out. Took a long time to get over."

- captainkrakin

18 and Homeless

"She kicked me out the day after my 18th birthday because I turned 18. She dropped me at a homeless shelter with a small laundry basket of clothing and no money."

- AkKik-Maujaq

Time to Cosign

"I went to college. When I graduated, I moved back until I could find my own place."

"After a week of living there, I felt it was time to go. I had a fine childhood and my parents are nice and all. But my dad went right back to treating me like a high schooler. If he wanted me to do something around the house, I had to do it right then, like I didn't just work 8 hours like everybody else."

"The funny thing is, he told me that I had six months to find my own place (which is fine, this was in 2006). I asked him to cosign on an apartment and moved out after two weeks of living there."

"He then told me he was joking about the six months. I think he missed me."

- CaptainAwesome06

Unreasonable Standards

"My dad raised the rent to pay half of his mortgage while I was 17 and had barely gotten my first job. Talk about killing your kid's economic future."

"It was an easy decision to move out. He was also an alcoholic and smoked like a chimney. You live and move on."

- Intrepid-Ad-3871

Anxiety-Inducing

"I could practically feel their breath on the back of my neck."

- burn-babies-burn

Classic Scapegoat

"I was already in the process of finding a place to live when I got kicked out by my mom. And it was for something I didn't even do! (It's so ridiculous that I can kinda laugh about it now, but the situation was so messed up.)"

"My parents have a terrible marriage and apparently, my dad decided to use something I said in an argument against my mom. Thing is? I never said the things he claimed I did. I was asleep for most of this screaming match (they happened daily, so you learned to sleep through it) and was entirely unaware that I had been thrown under the bus."

"I woke up the next morning to my mother waiting for me in the kitchen, going absolutely bananas, yelling at me, and I could not get a word in. I had to leave with no warning and just stuff as much as I could into my backpack and two plastic bags and drag my belongings with me to my first-year uni math lecture. I had to explain to all my friends why on earth I was dragging so much stuff around all day, fun times."

"To this day, six years later, they still have not acknowledged that it happened and just pretend that it was a 'disagreement' where I was equally at fault."

- mihio94

A Golden Scapegoat

"I was every parent's dream. A law-abiding, obedient, straight-A student going to college on scholarship."

"I nannied, tutored, chauffeured, and cleaned up after my three younger sisters. My part-time job went to groceries for the family instead of luxuries or even savings for myself."

"But somehow Mom was unable to communicate with me in any form other than lecturing. I was never good enough."

"I left at 17 and never looked back. I have a chill, successful, happy life surrounded by people who appreciate me and tell me so. Mom doesn't understand why I don't call her (for more lectures)."

- bluescrew

The Circle of Life

"I got pregnant at 18, married, moved out, and had the baby at 19."

"Then I divorced, went back home, and then out, and then back in a few times over the following years."

"Finally at 26, I moved out again with a degree, a career, and the best husband ever."

"And then five years later, my parents moved in with me. Life is crazy."

- Gladyskravitz99

There are all sorts of reasons that a young adult will decide to move out beyond simply turning 18.

Though some will move out because of toxic homes and parents who make them move out, there are others who move for far more independent reasons, like going off to college or wanting to start a life of their own.