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Relationships are a lot of work, and the very idea of them can be terrifying to some. Breakups hurt and starting a relationship is taking the chance of either finding the love of your life or having it all end in heartbreak.


A Reddit user who has since deleted their account asked:

"Guys who've become scared of dating/relationships, why?"

Five years ago

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Five years ago I was dating someone who I considered to be one of the best, most honest, truly good people I have ever met. We were supposed to get married. She left me abruptly, giving me neither warning nor reason for her departure.

It's hard to go back to dating after something like that. I find myself unable to trust anyone, after such a betrayal. I know this shit happens all the time, but this is my personal reason for being unable to date anyone for the past 5 years or so.

-BIGBUMPINFTW

Not scared

I don't think I've become scared of dating. It just feels like I'm such a weird and peculiar guy that I won't find anybody with the same interests or lifestyle as me. That, coupled with the fact that I've become so comfortable just being alone on my own that a relationship feels like just an unnecessary burden and that I don't really need one to be happy.

-MountainMongrel

He's just a friend

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4 relationships 4 times "he's just a friend" turned out to be bullshit. The paranoia wasn't worth it so I just stopped giving a sh!t about dating and learned to enjoy being alone.

-leclair63

Abandonment issues

Crippling abandoment issues and pretty bad depression. i don't wanna hurt anyone with my own emotions

-mel-the-moth

Friendship

I have a messy philosophy that I should be friends with someone before I could consider dating them. Then when I reach that point, I get too scared of losing what I've already built with them, so I just don't do anything.

-Kingdomville

Roommates

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Never really got to see my parents act like they wanted to be married or loved each other, they always just seem like roommates stuck in a house together. Don't want to get 20 years in and end up in the same situation.

-Mearl96

Just kidding

The first girl I was ever interested in lead me on for 3 months and then emailed me saying she was joking the whole time so yeah screw getting my heart broken again. Then all my relationships lasted no more then a month.

-Drumsat1

Evidence

To this day, I keep a video on my desktop Mac that I recorded years ago of an ex drunk and screaming at me and throwing things and pushing me...all because I wasn't comfortable sleeping in bed with her after an argument and was trying to sleep on the couch.

For the longest time after we broke up, I was worried she might try something crazy like claim abuse. I keep that video as evidence just in case.

Once while we were dating, I even caught her trying to find the video and delete it.

-prstele01

Cheater

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It's been so goddamn long. I'm 26 now and the last meaningful (if you can call it that) relationship I've had was at 18. She cheated with me, without my knowledge, on a close friend while he was at basic training. I've had one night stands and flings since that, but an actual relationship? No.

-Psychwrite

Not marriage

My ex wife lied and took everything I built for over 15 years. Everything. 5 years on and I am still recovering from the devastation she delivered unto my life. Emotionally, mentally and economically. Am I skittish of relationships? F yeah. I am NEVER getting married again. Date? yes. Relationships? Yeah. Marriage? No f-ing way.

-JosefthePainter

Inevitable heart break

I mean at a certain point the inevitable heart break and months of sadness and depression aren't worth chasing for a temporary high. Or the constant rejections just becomes not worth dealing with as it sours your perception of people and makes you feel like you have no value to offer.

-pdxblazer

If you are interested in tips on how to better get over a break up check out "No Breakup Can Break You: The Definitive Recovery Guide for Men" by Nick Dawson here.

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Haters are gonna hate, so you might as well play along with them.

Internet trolls and haters know they've made it when their insults are featured on Jimmy Kimmel Live's "Mean Tweets" segment.

On Wednesday night's show, Lizzo was one of several musicians to read out the meanest and rudest comments from their Twitter feeds.

Lizzo had the best clap back to one hater's comment.

The 31 year old "Truth Hurts" singer read a post by Twitter user @mikeb73.

@mikeb73's tweet read:

"Lizzo. Bus passes and happy meals. Two things that I imagine #Lizzo has seen a lot of. #sh**e #bbc3"

Lizzo was visibly amused by the comment, and immediately had an amazing retort:

"Yeah, I'm a big b***h and I ride a bus. A tour bus, motherf***er. Where's yours?"

You can watch the hilarious segment below. Lizzo's tweet comes around the 1:52 mark:

Kimmel's audience erupted into cheers over her "Good As Hell" response, and so did the internet.

Youtube user Rabbit commented:

"'WHERE'S YOURS?' oh my goodness Lizzo is so awesome"

Mihlali Charlieman wrote:

"Lizzo is everything 😊 that clap back was fire"

Twitter also loved how she handled the troll.



Lizzo is a champion of body positivity and self love.


The curvy singer has been very open with fans about her struggles with body image, and her journey to self acceptance and unapologetic confidence. She talked about becoming a pop star while being faced with fat-phobia and Euro-centric beauty standards in the media in an interview with Vogue earlier this year.

She told Vogue:

"I didn't have enough women to look up to and they weren't given enough space in the industry to carve out a lane for big girls that are brown and black and want to sing and dance without getting sh** talked and body shamed. I'm out here and I set my mind to it. I want to be a sex symbol and music goddess and I'm out here trying to make that happen for myself. I'm here for the fantasy but I want to be a part of that fantasy. I'm just as fine as those girls."

Cardi B., Billie Eilish, Monsta X, Chance the Rapper, Luke Bryan, Green Day, Perry Farrell, Midland, Leon Bridges, John Mayer, Alice Cooper, and Luke Combs also appeared on Kimmel's November 13th "Mean Tweets" segment.

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