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Single Mom Celebrates Her Second Divorce Before Age 35 With An Epic Party

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Instead of wallowing in self-pity after the failure of her second marriage before she turned 35, a party mad mother-of-four decided to celebrate with a divorce bash.


When she first parted from her husband in 2017, student Christine Cassaniti, 36, feared she would never find the strength to survive another such major split and adjust once more to life as a single mum.

But when her decree nisi came through in early 2018, Christine, of Newcastle, New South Wales, Australia, decided to get her life back on track and became intent on throwing a party to commemorate her 13 year marriage, with everyone who had been important to her – bar her ex.


Christine in her outfit for the night (PA Real Life/Collect)

She said: “I really felt like I needed some closure after everything that I'd been through.“Ever since I was little, I'd love throwing a party, and getting my friends and family together – it just made sense to throw one for my divorce as well."

Christine, who does not wish to name her ex-husband or go into detail about their split, admits that, despite her gung-ho attitude now, the early days after the break up were tough.

She explained: “You plan your whole life in your head, then those plans change, and you feel like it's not worth going on."


Christine on her wedding day (Graham Hynds, Newlight Photography/PA Real Life)

“That sounds awful to say, looking back, but those first 12 months on my own were some of the toughest of my life," she added.

At her lowest, Christine was unemployed and struggling to make ends meet for her and her four sons, Alexander, 16, Harrison, five, Samuel, four, and Joseph, three.

But after realising that self-pity would not put food on the table, she knew she had to turn her life around.


Christine on her wedding day (Graham Hynds, Newlight Photography/PA Real Life)

She said: “There came a point when I realised, once and for all, that my marriage was over, and that feeling sorry for myself wasn't going to change that.

“That's when I picked myself up and shifted my focus towards the future and a new picture.

“I surrounded myself with good quality people, friends and family."

Eighteen months after they first discussed divorce, Christine's decree nisi came through – the trigger she needed to defiantly turn a negative situation in to a positive one.She said: “I actively avoided bitching and moaning about the negativity in my life, especially in terms of my divorce being finalised.

“Instead I looked at the finality of the whole thing as a positive, an end to the months of heartache."

During the ongoing divorce, Christine looked to her sister, Katie Ranclaud, 34, a self-employed property developer, and her mother, Judy Hogan, 56, a housewife, for emotional support.


Christine celebrating her divorce (PA Real Life/Collect)

I surrounded myself with good quality people, friends and family.

As her confidence grew, her plans to throw a bash to celebrate the end of two difficult years started to take shape, but she struggled to come up with an appropriate name for it.

She continued: “We celebrate so many life events in this life: birthdays, anniversaries – even the passing of a loved one."


Guests enjoying the party (PA Real Life/Collect)

“But when it comes to divorce, it's completely different, like there's something to be ashamed of," she added.

“I knew that wasn't how I wanted my divorce to be for me. It's a life event – like any other big change – and I wanted it marked it with a celebration."

Christine discussed the idea with Katie and Judy, who both agreed a 'gratitude party' was the perfect way to mark the next stage in her life.


Guests enjoying the party (PA Real Life/Collect)

She added: “I wanted to throw a divorce party but didn't like the connotation it has, that's why we officially named the do a 'gratitude party.'

“A party to celebrate my gratitude to all those people who have walked this life with me over the past 13 years.

“The friends and family who supported us as we bought our first house, raised our babies and went through our ups and downs."


Christine and her mother, brother and sister (PA Real Life/Collect)

“I wanted all of those people to be there so I could hug them and give them a big, smoochy kiss as a thank you," she said.

Christine set a date for the party, in November 2018 – the month when she was granted her decree absolute – and organized a Facebook event to which she invited 40 of her nearest and dearest
friends and family.

Christine's dad Robert, 64, a painter, was on the barbecue and the guests were asked to bring a sweet and savory dishes to the giant knees-up.


The divorce party invitation (PA Real Life/Collect)

The day, full of laughter and celebration, was not without its surprises, with Christine, who is single, putting together two divorce-themed party games for the soiree: 'trivial divorce-suit' and 'no-longer-a-bride bingo.'

Christine explained: “The first game involved answering various questions about my past two marriages, very much in the vain of Trivial Pursuit.

“While the second involved being awarded points for attending several key life events I've had up until now."


The divorce party invitation (PA Real Life/Collect)

She continued: “Whoever had the most stickers in the end won and helped me dish up the afters!"

By all accounts the party was a huge success, and even Christine's eldest, Alex, turned up – playing the part of DJ.

Christine added: “It was one of the best nights of my life in the end."


Christine her brother, Ben, and sister, Katie (PA Real Life/Collect)




She concluded: “Divorce can be full of such harsh emotions, so, to any upcoming divorcees out ther, my advice is to throw a party to celebrate what it was and to acknowledge those who have stood with you along the way.

“Now I don't look back on my divorce with regret, I look back on it with gratitude.

“My only regret is I didn't invite my ex-husband – well, almost!"

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When you know your kids backwards and forwards, this is the best tool in your arsenal.

Getting our kids to listen to us is not always the easiest of tasks. They're willful and stubborn, but we've got a mighty weapon they are rarely prepared for: reverse psychology. Getting them to convince themselves to want to do something against their own initial intentions takes some work and a whole lot of creativity, but a little sneaky manipulation goes a long way. Here are some clever parents' tricks that are definitely worth taking notes on.

Redditor u/LeanderD Asks:

Parents of reddit, what's your best example of reversed psychology on your kids that actually worked?

He Floated His Idea Through A Back Channel

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Wanted to name my boat. Anything I would think of was dismissed as stupid by my 13 year old son. After deciding on a name, I confided to a male friend my son liked. Made my friend suggest the name as though it was his idea. My son thought the name was perfect. Done.

calypsodweller

We Always Want What We Can't Have

One of my best friends through childhood used to be punished with no salad if she misbehaved. She cherishes salad now and would always try to eat as much as possible during school lunch. Coincidentally, her now husband used to be punished with no books, it had the same effect. I think it's hilarious that they'd be hitting the salad bar and library like some black market their narc parents couldn't reach hahaha.

cookiearthquake

A Deceit That's A Cut Above The Rest

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Don't know if this counts, but, at my high school (private, boys only) in the 1960's, they made a big deal about how long your hair was, and would occasionally order a boy to go home and "get a haircut".

I thought it was stupid, until years later, a master confided to me at a reunion that the policy was deliberate. The school figured we'd spend so much energy rebelling about hair length, that we would ignore other aspects of teenage rebellion. (Not?) Surprisingly, they were mostly right.

FrankDrakman

Damn! That's smart. Wow.

fangxx456

Oh they don't like long hair?

I'll show them. I'll grow my hair out as lon- what?! No I don't want to go "party"? I gotta try out this horse shampoo.

DankeyKang11

The Forbidden Book

Hi I was a victim,

There was a forbidden book that I was not allow to read on the shelf. My parents said I could only read it if I behave myself.

It was summer holidays and I was playing games all day (after 6 hrs of summer homework). One day I was home alone and had the opportunity to grabbed it. I read like half of it in one go. It was 5000 years of Chinese history.

Safe to say I was bamboozled.

oddstodd

Flowers Of The Queen

My parents always told me my broccoli were the flowers of the queen and that I really shouldn't eat them, or else the queen would get very upset! I, of course, ate the whole broccoli in a few seconds.

Subwoofy

I'm telling the queen and she's gonna be pissed

draculacletus

Sleeping Beauty

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I taught my kids when they were toddlers that no amount of yelling, shaking or hitting can wake a sleeping adult. The only thing that works is a gentle hug and/or a nice kiss on the cheek.

Edit: Probably needed some more details for the reverse psychology aspect to be clear. It went something like this - Step one, tell the kids I'm going to sleep and nothing they do will wake me (head buried face down is the safest position). Step two, after the initial onslaught dies down pretend to awaken on your own. Tell them you got a bit of nap left in you and nothing can wake you, especially not hugs and kisses.

DrMethusael

Holy sh*t...if my daughter woke me up like this I would buy her a pony.

All-Seeing_Elon

I am saving this comment because this will save lives if I ever have kids, stg.

smerter

A Walk In Someone Else's Shoes.

Split custody with my ex. When my son was around 10, he visited two weekends a month. I was waiting tables and didn't have a huge amount to spend, but he was so needy from divorce (and I'm not blaming him, it was ugly), he begged constantly for MORE when he was with me. Whatever more was, it didn't matter... he'd be eating ice cream cone and begging for teriyaki.

I finally realized that he just felt empty, and getting MORE whatever from me wasn't filling him up. His next visit I handed him $100 in cash and told him it was our food/fun budget for 3 days and two nights, and he was in charge of it. I bought him his own wallet to carry. We figured out how many times we were going to eat and what we were going to do, and he paid. He got to keep whatever money he had left...thought he was rich...then realized just how much everything cost. Well. Shoe on other foot then. If we had no money for food, we ate leftovers - and I didn't contribute more to pot. After a few weekends of running short or not getting something he actually wanted because he was foolish with funds, he started to really think about how to spend that money. He budgeted and kept to his budget. And a few times he actually went home with a little cash for his private stash.

Many years later, he thanked me for this. It really changed the way he thought about money and love.

Augumenti

This Is Worth Giving A Shot

Took my 3 year old son to one of those doctor's visits where he was going to get a shot. He was worried about the shot on the whole drive over, almost to the point of tears. We get to the doctor's office and a nurse subtly lets me know that my son is not just scheduled for 1 shot, but 5 of them in the same visit.

I turn to my son with an exaggerated smile and tell him, "Good news! They figured out how to take that one big shot you were going to get and instead break it up into these 5 little tiny shots so it won't hurt nearly as much!"

You could see the relief wash over his face. He stopped squirming and relaxed completely. He took the first shot and even smiled and said "It's true! The small ones don't hurt!"

We actually made it through the third shot before the effect wore off and reality kicked in. Still... I counted it as a victory.

blackbird77

Put This To The Taste

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My mom would tell me she only lets me eat soup after candy and she'd only buy me candy that i didn't like. After a few times, i stopped trying and begged her to let me eat soup first. She gave me a smirk and told me go ahead. This doesn't sound as evil as it was. But trust me i suffered.

turkeypr0

So what was the candy?

Poster_Main

Mint chocolate, raisins, stuff like that. I still hate them to this day. Who the f--- thought while eating chocolate "hmm id like some tooth paste with this."

turkeypr0

This is Truckin' Awesome

Mum had sworn a bit around the house.

When 4, while out at the supermarket, I said F word really loudly.

Very quickly and intently, she asked if I had just said "Truck" and said that was a bad word and not to ever say Truck like that again.

I thought that was the bad word so used that when being naughty.

GodOfTheThunder

The "Silly Mom" Routine

The "Silly Mom" routine.

My kid, and a few other kids I've known, would balk at getting ready to go. I'd grab their clothes and say, "Well, if you won't put on your clothes, I guess I'll put on your clothes. Cute shirt, by the way! Does it go on my foot?"

NO!

"Does it go on my head?"

NO! IT GOES ON ME!

"Oh, that's right, thanks! So, it must go on your legs, right?"

NO!

"I just can't figure this out! Where does this adorable shirt go?"

[kid grabs shirt and puts it on] ON MY TUMMY! SILLY MOM!

"Oh, thank you so much! Now what about these pants? Shirts go on tummies, so...the pants go on the tummy, too, right?"

NO!

[continue until kids have dressed themselves]

I would also do things like hand the kid my keys and say, "Alright, you're driving, I'll sit in the booster seat in back," attempt to feed the kid by putting a spoon up to his ear or his belly button, and attempt to put away his toys in the refrigerator.

insertcaffeine

Some Foot For Thought.

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My mum would always yell at us "if you don't do X, you have to go to bed without socks!"

I never wore socks anyway, and I'm ashamed to admit that this worked.

Splittsky

That would work really well on my son, or make him cry for a really long time... He's 3 and over the last few weeks has decided that he is fully unable to sleep without socks on.

PJQueen

Toddlers man. Completely unpredictable.

SheaRVA

I'm Greens With Envy

My mum had a friend that would put vegetables on her own plate and not the kids.

When the kids asked she would be reluctant to share, "that's grown up food. But I suppose I can let you have a little."

Her kids grew up loving vegetables.

I sat at the dinner table for 3 hours staring at the yucky cauliflower I refused to eat.

laik72

This reminds me of an instance when my child convinced my wife and myself to change our plans for dinner. We were in a grocery store to pick up something quick and easy to eat that we wouldn't have to prepare. Our daughter, wanted none of that, she demanded that she wanted a salad from the salad bar. We started to argue back, but then realized: "Our child demands that we feed her vegetables for dinner instead of a microwaved meal, why are we saying 'No?'"

We had salad for dinner that night.

Galaxy_Ranger_Bob

The Power Of Choice

I don't so much know if you would call it reverse psychology, but I didn't realize it until my dad told me this.

When there were chores that needed doing, he noticed if he asked me to mow the lawn, I would complain and procrastinate. But if he asked would I rather mow the lawn or wash the windows, I'd pick one and just get it done.

Shattered my brain when he told me when I was in my twenties. I use it when I'm coaching or baby sitting all the time and it almost never fails.

AppealToReason16

The Boy Who Cried 'Ouch'

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I've done this one with tens of kids. Any time a kid gets "hurt" (falls down on grass, gets gently hit in the face with a ball, etc.) instead of stopping the activity to pick the kid up and see if they're ok you just scoot them off to the side and resume. Within 10 seconds of not getting all the attention and seeing the fun is resuming they pop right back up and are magically healed.

This of course is only for the "injuries" that aren't actually injuries.

pedanticProgramer

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