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People In Relationships Reveal How They Feel About Giving Their Partner Unlimited Access To Their Phone

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"What's yours is mine, and what's mine is yours."

A common ideology when people enter committed romantic relationships.

This doesn't mean, however, that people don't still appreciate a moment or two of privacy, even from the person to whom they are otherwise committed, body and soul.

Particularly when it comes to their phones.

While some people have no concern about their partners seeing anything they have stored on their phones, others might prefer that everything found on their phones stays away from their partner's eyes.

Be it for a text chain they'd rather remain private, or to avoid judgment for their choice of apps, knowing their partner would disapprove, or would at the very least mock them endlessly.


Redditor Glass_Chance9800 was curious to hear how people really felt about the idea of their partner having unfiltered, unlimited access to their phone and its entire contents, leading them to ask:
"Redditors in a relationship, how do you feel about your partner having full access to your phone such as text messages, photos, your apps, everything?"

Context Is Everything

"I wouldn't care unless the openness was only one way or constantly being used as a tool to constantly unsuccessfully prove I'm being unfaithful."- varthalon

"It's strange because i wouldn't care if someone looked through my phone, I have nothing to hide."

"BUT someone demanding that they can look through it is a massive red flag."- BunnyMcRabbitson

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Meh...

"I don't care."

"There's nothing there."

"I can get on her phone, too."

"But I don't want to."

"Being married 40+ years does that to you, I guess."- mike11172

"Been married 33 yrs."

"My husband can access everything if he wants."

"I don't care in the least."

"Not much to see."- chalisa0

"I don't care if my husband looks through my phone, emails or whatever else."- galactictictac·

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Go Right Ahead

"Sure."

"Worst she'll find in my dumb searches."- Iisham

Nothing To Worry About

"My partner and I have each other's passwords but don't go through each other's stuff because he's always had an iPhone, I've always had an Android, and we don't know how to work the other OS."- abominable-ho-man

"The hell they gonna find, pictures of our cats?"

"Have at 'er..."- miffy495

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Couldn't Stop Him If They Tried...

"He knows all my passwords."- LunaTic0922

Allow It? I Encourage It!

"My husband has full access to my phone and my passwords and I have full access to his."

"I would trust him with my life without any hesitation, I definitely don’t mind knowing that he has access to my phone."- Hekatevenstar

"Not a problem."

"I don't keep secrets and my sweetie isn't the jealous type."- Xylorgos

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Hard No!

"I don't allow it."

"My friends and family occasionally tell me things in confidence that my husband doesn't need to know."- feral_hippie

"I consider it to be a red flag."

"Now, you might think 'Well if you're not doing anything wrong, then you have nothing to hide from your partner', right?"

"However, that doesn't invalidate my privacy."

"Not every little conversation and every little interaction has to be up for review."

"It also speaks to going into a relationship with an immense lack of trust or faith, which leads me to wonder why you'd engage with someone else to begin with."- MenagerieMiyamoto

"Married over 20 years."

"F*ck that."

"If I can't have some measure of privacy then I'd rather be alone."- Southernerd

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Sharing Is Caring

"He's my partner it's fine, I see no issue."

"I'm not acting weird or crazy or creating some kind of suspicious environment to where we're snooping in each other's phones."

"The best thing about having nothing to hide, your brain can relax, you don't need to lie and you can."

"Leave things where you set then and not worry, like a phone on the table instead of carrying it all the time."- Hachimon1479

If there's anyone who one should feel free to share absolutely anything and everything with, it's their romantic partner.

Even so, everyone has a right to privacy, and everyone has the right to fill their phone with whatever content they like, without judgment or stress.

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