"What I hate is..."

What I hate is "you're too good for this job." If I'm that good then please hire me because I need this job, I have great work ethic, and work well with others.

shaka_tulu

"She explained..."

"Your legs are nice and fat!" - said by an old lady I visited at a nursing home. She explained she wished her legs weren't so skinny now that she was old and frail.

lalapine

"I worked part time..."

I worked part time at a nonprofit. I recruited a friend to volunteer and he was excellent and very popular with the staff. Towards the end of my tenure (it was a one year assignment) my boss told me that recruiting this guy was the best thing I'd done for the organization. She didn't mean it to attack my previous year's work but...

She was probably right though.

valuesandnorms

Ouch.

Kind of backhanded, no?

"I was really excited..."

I was speaking German with a woman who told me, "You sound like a southern German!" I was really excited that my accent sounded authentic until later in the conversation when she said she can never understand southern Germans...

Brontesaurus_Rex

Keep it up though!

The important thing is you're actually practicing your language learning!

"Someone told me..."

Someone told me a few weeks ago that they loved how I smelled like hot dogs. They said it was sooo sexy and asked if they could suck/lick my fingers clean.

BunHein

Ummm...

I'm going to be need brain bleach for this comment.

"I once had a patient..."

I once had a patient (who may have had a touch of dementia) basically go on and on about how she thought my clothes were awful and that my hair was doing nothing for me and I should be doing something to change my look. Then at the end, she said "Listen, I'm only telling you this because I think you're a beautiful girl. If I thought you were ugly, I wouldn't say anything because there would be nothing you could do about it."

eggtart2020

"When I said my baby was really easy..."

When I said my baby was really easy this annoying friend said God only gives you what you can handle. Little did she know my second would be a hell child.

RunRevolutionary9019

"It was a legitimate..."

"You give me so much confidence to dress like you do with a similar body type."

It was a legitimate compliment and part of me was glad I had helped but part of me will always be devastated that just wearing cool clothes is an act of courage because I'm chubby.

FinalTourist

"I genuinely not..."

I genuinely have a hard time gauging my own size in the mirror and have issues getting on a scale sometimes/don't own one (I had an eating disorder as a teenager and I think aspects of it never fully leave your mind, if that makes sense at all) and so I had asked a close friend of mine how I looked. For context, I hadn't seen her in a few months, and I was feeling good enough about myself to be able to even ask someone for their actual honest opinion.

She told me that I "didn't look fat" but that I looked "well-fed". Not going to lie, no matter how good I thought I felt about my body at the time, it definitely kicked my butt into gear back into working out (but not starving).

happykgo89

Think before you speak, people.

It takes a little bit of effort, but it's worth it. It helps you feel like you're contributing to a culture of more conscientious behavior!

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