You meet someone new. It's going pretty well, you're connecting, the conversation is flowing smoothly.
Then they spy someone out the corner of their eye, make sure there's no one else within earshot, and drop an unabashedly racist comment.
What's up with that? Abhorrent behavior, right? You probably feel like backing away from them and dislike them immediately, right?
People shared the things that make them side-eye the people around them after Redditor charlieh331 asked the online community,
"What makes you instantly judge someone?"
"Had a coworker..."
"Had a coworker come with me to get lunch. They threw their trash out my window while I was driving down the road. Immediately thought less of them. To add to that she was like 'Yeah I litter don't judge me.'"
huneebie
WHYYYYYY???
You bet I'm judging her.
"Treating food/service..."
"Treating food service/retail employees like garbage for no reason."
SibyUnrest
This is a big one. I have worked in food service. It's one of the most stressful jobs out there.
"I lose respect..."
"I lose respect for a person if they make fun of people but can't handle being made fun of."
Demand-Curve
They can dish it but can't take it.
Not a good look.
"Being manipulative..."
"Being manipulative or trying to convince me something is in my best interest when it's in that person's best interest instead."
Azzizzi
Hahaha, oh the times I've borne witness to this. Ulterior motives are fun!
"Extra bonus scorn..."
"Standing in the middle of aisles or doors, etc., and not paying attention to anyone else coming or needing to get through. Extra bonus scorn if you actually take a tone or give a dirty look when someone dares say 'excuse me.'"
llcucf80
I really hate that I have been this person before no matter how hard I've tried.
"Probably to make me think..."
"When the first thing they do when they meet me is talk bad about others. Probably to make me think they are great and it's the other people that are the problem."
TooGayToPayCash
A major red flag. We all run into this. So I'd advise that you run away. Run away.
"It's personal."
"I lose respect for people who go to politics and forget about their friends. It's personal. I had a very good friend but later he decided to start a political career. Stopped talking with me after that for no reason."
This is very specific.
Care to tell us how you really feel?
"Being careless..."
"Being careless or doing a sloppy job because they won't be the ones that have to deal with it."
poopoo_fingers
This is especially annoying when it's done at work. Why are people so content to pass the buck?
"When they openly demand..."
"When they openly demand respect based on their age, status or position instead of earning it through their actions."
CrimsonKnightmare
Looking at you, mean older dude who lived down the street and would yell at anyone who "talked back" to him while he ranted from his stoop.
"I have a really hard time..."
"I have a really hard time with people that cut you off mid-sentence, and completely change the subject. Then ONLY talk about what they want to talk about. The art of listening is really dying off…"
BigMurr
There's a simple rule to life, people. You don't need Commandments or anything. Just... don't be a jerk.
Or these people, for that matter.
It's really that simple. Just don't do it. It'll pay dividends, trust me.
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