People Explain Which Things They Dislike More As They Get Older

It's Hard Out Here

"For me, I'm 47, it was coming to accept and understand that life is really f**king difficult. It's difficult for everyone."

"We do what we do, say what we say, and think what we think as a way of coping with and navigating those difficulties. Some are better at it than others, and we all consistently slip up and fail."

"Given this, really internalizing how much I struggle myself, moves me towards compassion for others going through the same. The fact that other people are here means that they are still trying. I'm not going to beat them down for that, and maybe I can find ways to help them do better. I love people because we're going through the same things and we need each other for support, even a**hole strangers, and Becky."

- Oliver_DeNom

Better Late Than Never

"I’m in my 70s and it’s the best time of my life. Almost everything I used to dislike, I can easily avoid now."

- Gorf_the_Magnificent

Faith in Humanity

"In my thirties, there was an epiphany when I realized how many people are traumatized before 18. And it doesn't even have to be anything in particular. Just the whole childhood is bad."

"And this seems to be fairly common for lower socioeconomic groups. They're traumatized, made stupid not just ignorant, and with no value for trust or reputation."

"It's difficult to hate criminals and a**holes for who they are when I know they're hurt. I'm not saying it excuses the behavior, but there's so much cruel nuance there."

- BitterLeif

Age Brackets

"Realizing I'm the oldest person in a group."

- bundlebundle

"I'm 29 and work in construction. About a year ago, I started to notice, 'Hey, there's one or two people here younger than me.' I recognized right then that that realization was going to occur more and more often."

"I still feel like a kid, and have no plans of changing that, but I can see that my 'young' years are almost over."

- stfleming1

Time Perspective

"The 80s will forever be 20 years ago."

- ListenItWillIHear

"I felt shocked when I realized you could be born after 2000 and be old enough to buy alcohol."

- Universeintheflesh

Truly Unsettling

"I was in healthcare a long time, and saw more and more patients die with birthdates in the 1940s and '50s, thinking, 'Oh, d**n, that's so young.'"

"Nope, that's my parent's age, and those people are in their 70s and 80s. They die from falling, or from other minor accidents. It's a hard thing to adjust to."

- DwarfDrugar

Retirement Status

"I’m 62 and retired, and my wife and I are living comfortably on my retirement pension. Once you are guaranteed that check, I say you’ve reached the 'f**k you' status in your life. You no longer have to put up with bulls**t demands from an employer. If you don’t like a certain situation, usually you are in a position to just say fuck this and walk away."

- wyoflyboy68

Ads and Paywalls

"Everything slowly 'evolving' into a subscription service. Even heated seats are getting those, for f**k's sake."

- AchyBrakeyHeart

"My wife thinks I'm nuts because I'm transitioning back to physical media. Keeps insisting that everything I want to watch is on streaming and then gets surprised when it isn't or was and they took it off."

- thugloofio

"My wife wanted me to get rid of all my DVDs and Blu Rays. I have some obscure s**t in that collection along with a ton of stuff you can find anywhere. But I compromised and moved them all to a massive but cheap Amazon essentials case."

"I needed a few extra cases too, but no way am I losing those. Like another person said, soon enough some of them will only be available behind a paywall or with ads every 10 minutes. Hard pass."

- afoz345

The Dating Scene

"Dating. When I was 20, it was fun. Take 10 minutes to get ready and have a good time. Now that I’m older, it’s a whole ordeal and feels more like a job interview."

- RedditorChristopher

Aging Parents

"That my parents are also getting older and the fear of losing them soon terrifies me."

- Maso_TGN

"I’ve lost one. It sucks. It’s one of those events that rocks the foundations of your life."

"BUT…"

"I accidentally had a conversation with my father after he had to have urgent surgery they had some scary moments. I wasn’t able to be with him but talked to him about my feelings and wondering if I was going to lose him."

"He told me that he had a great life and he was proud of my brother and I. He told me when the time comes, to think kindly of him and keep on going."

"About a decade later he died. I was in a hotel room with him and he died in his sleep. It sucked, but that conversation I had with him a decade before about his own mortality really got me through it."

"Why am I telling you this? Sit down with your parents and have the hard conversation. Ask them what they want done with their body when they die. Discuss medical decisions and DNRs. Let them know you love them and you’re scared. When the time comes, you’ll be glad you had that talk."

- slider728

Lack of Motivation

"Myself but more specifically the lack of motivation to do things anymore. I find myself always exhausted and unfulfilled by just everything around me and I can't seem to do anything about it."

- FaultFinal5248

"I'm the same way. I hate that no matter how hard I try, I just can't bring myself to do the things that I need to do. I can't even do the things I enjoy doing."

- point50tracer

Cleaning Woes

"Dust, it just never goes away. Tips would be appreciated."

- Sinister-Kid

"My pro tip for dust is when I finish drying my dishes, I wipe over my kitchen with the wet towel. Top of the fridge, benches, etc. Walk towards the laundry to put the towel in the basket, wiping all surfaces on the way. It means I never actually have to 'dust' those areas when I'm dusting."

- working_class_tired

People Are Just Too Peopley

​"People. Nobody knows what respect is."

"My one friend who repeatedly says they don’t care about people shows me more respect than almost anyone else. They don’t care about people and even they know how to not be unnecessarily rude and judgemental. I don't know why it’s so hard for most people."

- I_Am_My_Truth

"I can even look past the rudeness and judgy behavior because I honestly don't freaking care anymore. What really gets me is the lack of social awareness, like is it really cool to be up in someone's 'personal bubble,' should I maybe not block an entire supermarket aisle with my cart, maybe not everyone in my vicinity wants to know about my son's wife."

"Can we just run our errands and live our lives without inadvertently being intrusive or obstructive? I hate people. Respect has done died."

- Sinfullymad

Poor Priorities

"I know someone who died of pancreatic cancer at age 35."

"In the same week, I hear of drama from a separate group of people surrounding the f**king stupidest s**t (high school level of pettiness)."

"Someone just a few years older than us f**king died and the rest of us are having a fit about how Bethany didn't invite Melinda to a BBQ because she's a b***h."

"I couldn't express how astoundingly meaningless 99% of our problems seemed from that point on."

"I wasn't even that close to the person who passed away, but it was one of the rudest wake-up calls in my life. He had a lot of things he wanted to do. I think about it a lot."

- octoriceball

Former Pastimes

"Concerts. My feet hurt, the music is too loud, I've become very sensitive to the strobe light effects most of them use, the fees to buy tickets are outrageous plus parking... and frankly, I get bored. It could be the greatest show on earth and I still get bored after an hour or so."

- toomanycats21

As we age, we know that certain aspects of our lives are going to change, but we don't always think about how our perspectives and priorities might change as the time passes.

If this thread taught us anything, it's to prioritize the important things over the drama, and to make those time-sucking tasks as easy as possible, so we can spend more time on the things that matter.