an Oh Myyy Property

Dad Credits His Unlikely Recovery From Stage 4 Bowel Cancer To Refusing To Hear His Prognosis

Family holiday (PA Real Life/Collect)

Brassed off when he discovered he had stage 4 bowel cancer at age 44, a baritone horn player is now trumpeting his remarkable recovery – claiming it was helped by his positive attitude, after he refused to hear his prognosis.

Rather than plummeting into depression, when technical support scientist Andy Wood, now 46, a married dad-of-two, received his diagnosis, he drew up a bucket list of things he had always wanted to do, saying he was determined to “go into the ring fighting."

He asked his project manager wife, Arlene, 42, a cornet player, who he met in a brass band 22 years ago, to help him choose some fun things to do together and with their girls Keira, nine, and Zoe, seven – giving them something to look forward to.

Darren recovering in hospital (PA Real Life/Collect)

Andy, of Weston, Cheshire, who is currently cancer free, although he has not been given the official all clear, said: “I didn't want to go into the treatment constrained by the prognosis – so I didn't ask what it was.

“I've seen a lot of people get diagnosed with cancer and once they're told the odds aren't in their favor and how long they might have left, you can see it makes the fight a real uphill struggle.

“Arlene and I spend so much of our time working, I wanted to make some lasting memories with our children, rather than worrying about time frames."

Darren on family holiday (PA Real Life/Collect)

In October 2015, noticing a change in his bowel movements, including loose stools and stomach cramps, Andy scheduled an appointment with his local GP.

Initially suspecting that he had irritable bowel syndrome (IBS), he was told that he had most likely contracted a virus and that, if symptoms had not improved in six months, he should return.

Nine months later, with no sign of the symptoms improving, he went back to his GP, where he was referred for a colonoscopy, which involves inserting a camera into the large bowel to detect abnormalities.

But, rather than wait, Andy decided to use Arlene's health insurance to have the procedure done privately at the South Cheshire Private Hospital in Crewe, a decision which he claims “saved his life."

Considered a routine procedure, the colonoscopy was cut short after doctors found a blockage on Andy's bowel.

“Obviously, I wasn't looking forward to the procedure and I was expecting it to be uncomfortable, but I certainly wasn't expecting what happened next," he said.

Darren on family holiday (PA Real Life/Collect)

Given a CT scan the same day, a week later Andy and his family were told his devastating diagnosis.

“The consultant sat me down and told me they'd found a 7cm tumor in my bowel and that it had spread to my liver, too," he recalled.

Diagnosed with stage 4 bowel cancer – from which only roughly eight percent of people have a five-year survival rate, according to Cancer Research UK – Andy explained that he purposefully avoided being given a prognosis.

Darren on family holiday (PA Real Life/Collect)

“I knew I wanted to battle the cancer with whatever it took, so I didn't ask to be given a prognosis or time frame on the cancer – I just didn't want to know," he added.

And he decided, with his wife's backing, to be completely honest with their daughters.

“We bought them a book about a daddy diagnosed with cancer and explained that in order for me to get better, I was going to have to get a lot worse first," he said.

Darren on family holiday (PA Real Life/Collect)

He continued: “We were worried about telling them, when we needn't have been. They've been as tough as old boots throughout the whole thing. People really don't give children enough credit for just how resilient they are at that age."

In October 2017, Andy began a grueling course of radiotherapy at Salford Royal Hospital, Greater Manchester, and chemotherapy at Leighton Hospital, Crewe, Cheshire, before an operation to remove the tumors on his bowel and liver.

“For three months I planned my life around chemotherapy," he said. “The first week was a write-off. I'd feel nauseous and lethargic. But, by the second and third week, I'd be feeling a lot perkier."

Andy continued: “Those third weeks I would spend with Arlene and the girls, making the most of being a family together. That's when the idea of a bucket list came about.

“Arlene asked me if I could own any car what would it be and, obviously, it was an Aston Martin.

“She quickly said that was beyond our budget, asking if a BMW would do, as she'd just bought me one!"

He continued: “After that, we started building up a list of all the things that we'd like to do as a family."

Given three months to recover from chemotherapy before surgery, Andy and his family had the perfect opportunity to make some memories, before his big operation in March 2018 at Manchester Royal Infirmary.

“We couldn't plan any of the big holidays just yet, like trips to Disney World and Universal Studios, but we were able to go to Harry Potter studios and London's West End – things we'd been saying we'd do for years, but never had," he said.

Darren at the West End (PA Real Life/Collect)

Told the tumors had been removed successfully from his liver and bowel, when he woke up in intensive care, Andy found out part of his bowel and half of his liver had been cut away in the process.

As a result, he was fitted with a stoma bag after having an ileostomy procedure, when waste from the small intestine is diverted through an opening in his tummy – something which has since been reversed.

Still not fully out of the woods, Andy faced a grueling four months of chemotherapy to ensure the cancer did not return.

Darren on family holiday (PA Real Life/Collect)

“The side-effects this time around were a completely different kettle of fish," he explained.

“By the time I was having the third round of chemo, I turned to Arlene and told her that the pain was so bad in my left arm that I was tempted to cut it off myself.

“That's when the consultant decided the fourth course was not necessary."

Feeling better than he had in a long time, Andy started ticking off more adventures on his bucket list – beginning with a trip to Lapland in December 2018.

“It was perfect timing, as the girls were just the right age to believe in all the magic that happens there, and we had the best time as a family," he added.

Then, in March 2019, at his six-month check-up, Andy was given an MRI and CT scan that showed there were no signs of the cancer returning.

Still aware that he has not been given the all clear yet, he said: “I know from what other people say that the odds for stage 4 bowel cancer are never good, but that does not stop me feeling absolutely blessed to still be here."

Now, Andy is determined to make every moment he has with his family count.

He continued: “If I've learnt anything from this, it's that you need to take every opportunity life throws at you, because you never know how long you're going to be able to make lasting memories for."

He continued: “We've ticked off so many incredible things we've always wanted do as a family, and if it wasn't for my diagnosis, we probably wouldn't have done them."

Working with Bowel Cancer UK, Andy is now hoping to disprove the myth that bowel cancer is an old person's disease.

“I never thought you could be diagnosed with something like this until you were in your 70s, but the number of younger people getting this disease is rising," he said.

Andy after surgery (PA Real Life/Collect)

He added: “If you think that something is wrong with your health – listen to your body. If I hadn't, who knows where I might have ended up."

Andy is supporting Bowel Cancer UK's Walk Together this September, a sponsored five mile walk to bring people together to support those undergoing treatment, to remember loved ones and to help stop people dying from bowel cancer.

Find out more at

We're all self-conscious about something, and it doesn't help when our faults get thrown in our faces. You don't want doctors hinting that something is "weird down there," nor do you want someone to tell you you're balding. WE KNOW.

Keep reading... Show less
Fox News, @hewster1369/Twitter

A guest on Fox News is being roasted online after his unusual description of how one would get high on marijuana.

Keep reading... Show less

Hmmmm, I don't think THAT'S your essay....

Keep reading... Show less

When you know your kids backwards and forwards, this is the best tool in your arsenal.

Getting our kids to listen to us is not always the easiest of tasks. They're willful and stubborn, but we've got a mighty weapon they are rarely prepared for: reverse psychology. Getting them to convince themselves to want to do something against their own initial intentions takes some work and a whole lot of creativity, but a little sneaky manipulation goes a long way. Here are some clever parents' tricks that are definitely worth taking notes on.

Redditor u/LeanderD Asks:

Parents of reddit, what's your best example of reversed psychology on your kids that actually worked?

He Floated His Idea Through A Back Channel


Wanted to name my boat. Anything I would think of was dismissed as stupid by my 13 year old son. After deciding on a name, I confided to a male friend my son liked. Made my friend suggest the name as though it was his idea. My son thought the name was perfect. Done.


We Always Want What We Can't Have

One of my best friends through childhood used to be punished with no salad if she misbehaved. She cherishes salad now and would always try to eat as much as possible during school lunch. Coincidentally, her now husband used to be punished with no books, it had the same effect. I think it's hilarious that they'd be hitting the salad bar and library like some black market their narc parents couldn't reach hahaha.


A Deceit That's A Cut Above The Rest


Don't know if this counts, but, at my high school (private, boys only) in the 1960's, they made a big deal about how long your hair was, and would occasionally order a boy to go home and "get a haircut".

I thought it was stupid, until years later, a master confided to me at a reunion that the policy was deliberate. The school figured we'd spend so much energy rebelling about hair length, that we would ignore other aspects of teenage rebellion. (Not?) Surprisingly, they were mostly right.


Damn! That's smart. Wow.


Oh they don't like long hair?

I'll show them. I'll grow my hair out as lon- what?! No I don't want to go "party"? I gotta try out this horse shampoo.


The Forbidden Book

Hi I was a victim,

There was a forbidden book that I was not allow to read on the shelf. My parents said I could only read it if I behave myself.

It was summer holidays and I was playing games all day (after 6 hrs of summer homework). One day I was home alone and had the opportunity to grabbed it. I read like half of it in one go. It was 5000 years of Chinese history.

Safe to say I was bamboozled.


Flowers Of The Queen

My parents always told me my broccoli were the flowers of the queen and that I really shouldn't eat them, or else the queen would get very upset! I, of course, ate the whole broccoli in a few seconds.


I'm telling the queen and she's gonna be pissed


Sleeping Beauty


I taught my kids when they were toddlers that no amount of yelling, shaking or hitting can wake a sleeping adult. The only thing that works is a gentle hug and/or a nice kiss on the cheek.

Edit: Probably needed some more details for the reverse psychology aspect to be clear. It went something like this - Step one, tell the kids I'm going to sleep and nothing they do will wake me (head buried face down is the safest position). Step two, after the initial onslaught dies down pretend to awaken on your own. Tell them you got a bit of nap left in you and nothing can wake you, especially not hugs and kisses.


Holy sh*t...if my daughter woke me up like this I would buy her a pony.


I am saving this comment because this will save lives if I ever have kids, stg.


A Walk In Someone Else's Shoes.

Split custody with my ex. When my son was around 10, he visited two weekends a month. I was waiting tables and didn't have a huge amount to spend, but he was so needy from divorce (and I'm not blaming him, it was ugly), he begged constantly for MORE when he was with me. Whatever more was, it didn't matter... he'd be eating ice cream cone and begging for teriyaki.

I finally realized that he just felt empty, and getting MORE whatever from me wasn't filling him up. His next visit I handed him $100 in cash and told him it was our food/fun budget for 3 days and two nights, and he was in charge of it. I bought him his own wallet to carry. We figured out how many times we were going to eat and what we were going to do, and he paid. He got to keep whatever money he had left...thought he was rich...then realized just how much everything cost. Well. Shoe on other foot then. If we had no money for food, we ate leftovers - and I didn't contribute more to pot. After a few weekends of running short or not getting something he actually wanted because he was foolish with funds, he started to really think about how to spend that money. He budgeted and kept to his budget. And a few times he actually went home with a little cash for his private stash.

Many years later, he thanked me for this. It really changed the way he thought about money and love.


This Is Worth Giving A Shot

Took my 3 year old son to one of those doctor's visits where he was going to get a shot. He was worried about the shot on the whole drive over, almost to the point of tears. We get to the doctor's office and a nurse subtly lets me know that my son is not just scheduled for 1 shot, but 5 of them in the same visit.

I turn to my son with an exaggerated smile and tell him, "Good news! They figured out how to take that one big shot you were going to get and instead break it up into these 5 little tiny shots so it won't hurt nearly as much!"

You could see the relief wash over his face. He stopped squirming and relaxed completely. He took the first shot and even smiled and said "It's true! The small ones don't hurt!"

We actually made it through the third shot before the effect wore off and reality kicked in. Still... I counted it as a victory.


Put This To The Taste


My mom would tell me she only lets me eat soup after candy and she'd only buy me candy that i didn't like. After a few times, i stopped trying and begged her to let me eat soup first. She gave me a smirk and told me go ahead. This doesn't sound as evil as it was. But trust me i suffered.


So what was the candy?


Mint chocolate, raisins, stuff like that. I still hate them to this day. Who the f--- thought while eating chocolate "hmm id like some tooth paste with this."


This is Truckin' Awesome

Mum had sworn a bit around the house.

When 4, while out at the supermarket, I said F word really loudly.

Very quickly and intently, she asked if I had just said "Truck" and said that was a bad word and not to ever say Truck like that again.

I thought that was the bad word so used that when being naughty.


The "Silly Mom" Routine

The "Silly Mom" routine.

My kid, and a few other kids I've known, would balk at getting ready to go. I'd grab their clothes and say, "Well, if you won't put on your clothes, I guess I'll put on your clothes. Cute shirt, by the way! Does it go on my foot?"


"Does it go on my head?"


"Oh, that's right, thanks! So, it must go on your legs, right?"


"I just can't figure this out! Where does this adorable shirt go?"

[kid grabs shirt and puts it on] ON MY TUMMY! SILLY MOM!

"Oh, thank you so much! Now what about these pants? Shirts go on tummies, so...the pants go on the tummy, too, right?"


[continue until kids have dressed themselves]

I would also do things like hand the kid my keys and say, "Alright, you're driving, I'll sit in the booster seat in back," attempt to feed the kid by putting a spoon up to his ear or his belly button, and attempt to put away his toys in the refrigerator.


Some Foot For Thought.


My mum would always yell at us "if you don't do X, you have to go to bed without socks!"

I never wore socks anyway, and I'm ashamed to admit that this worked.


That would work really well on my son, or make him cry for a really long time... He's 3 and over the last few weeks has decided that he is fully unable to sleep without socks on.


Toddlers man. Completely unpredictable.


I'm Greens With Envy

My mum had a friend that would put vegetables on her own plate and not the kids.

When the kids asked she would be reluctant to share, "that's grown up food. But I suppose I can let you have a little."

Her kids grew up loving vegetables.

I sat at the dinner table for 3 hours staring at the yucky cauliflower I refused to eat.


This reminds me of an instance when my child convinced my wife and myself to change our plans for dinner. We were in a grocery store to pick up something quick and easy to eat that we wouldn't have to prepare. Our daughter, wanted none of that, she demanded that she wanted a salad from the salad bar. We started to argue back, but then realized: "Our child demands that we feed her vegetables for dinner instead of a microwaved meal, why are we saying 'No?'"

We had salad for dinner that night.


The Power Of Choice

I don't so much know if you would call it reverse psychology, but I didn't realize it until my dad told me this.

When there were chores that needed doing, he noticed if he asked me to mow the lawn, I would complain and procrastinate. But if he asked would I rather mow the lawn or wash the windows, I'd pick one and just get it done.

Shattered my brain when he told me when I was in my twenties. I use it when I'm coaching or baby sitting all the time and it almost never fails.


The Boy Who Cried 'Ouch'


I've done this one with tens of kids. Any time a kid gets "hurt" (falls down on grass, gets gently hit in the face with a ball, etc.) instead of stopping the activity to pick the kid up and see if they're ok you just scoot them off to the side and resume. Within 10 seconds of not getting all the attention and seeing the fun is resuming they pop right back up and are magically healed.

This of course is only for the "injuries" that aren't actually injuries.


Kelly Sullivan/Getty Images

The internet has been dominated this week with talk of Sony and Disney splitting over their agreement to have Spider-man in Marvel's Cinematic Universe.

After Deadline reported that negotiations had broken down in the contract renewal, everyone has had hot takes on the situation.

Keep reading... Show less

Reddit user cuddlethrowawayy found himself in an awkward situation recently when his in-laws and wife chastised him for cuddling with his 15-year-old daughter while the family watched a movie.

On the famous subreddit "Am I The A**hole?" he told the entire story in a viral post entitled "AITA for telling my wife and in-laws to f*** off after they told me to stop cuddling my daughter?

Keep reading... Show less