People Reveal The Major Pros And Cons Of Being 'Friends With Benefits' With Someone

I've never done FWB.

I feel robbed.

After a while...

"Fun, and fine for a while, but less fulfilling than a relationship. Also, you both need to be good at compartmentalization, otherwise one of you will likely end up catching feelings."

Akiram

Be Clear

"My FWB caught feelings even though we were always clearly communicated as FWB. We were both in a big but really close friends group. I got a gf (she had recently had a bf as well) and she got mad. I ended up losing all my friends. It’s been 4 years, and she actually successfully managed to get 20+ ppl to forget I exist."

"Wouldn’t recommend."

sadbudda

The Rule of Three

"I had 3 throughout college. Two ended in us dating and then breaking up. The only one that worked and lasted two years was me and an ex from high school. We never hung out but were cool after our breakup. Didn’t speak for like three years and then when we were in college we saw each other at the bar, hooked up that night, then like two days later she asked if I wanted to meet up and I said sure."

"Then it just continues for two years. We rarely spoke outside of the bedroom other than like ‘pick me up from the bar’. Overall it was cool but I think it’s very rare. You have to find two people who just don’t have any desire for each other other than when horny, which a lot of times is not the case in one side"

InternationalMouse56

Confusion

"I honestly don't understand it at all. Having any sexual relation with a person whom I don't love and who doesn't love me seems pointless and even scary to me. I guess I am over-sensitive or something, because the thought of being so close to somebody without actually having a connection, an exclusivity, without knowing if this will ever happen again, is genuinely horrific to me."

"I don't care what others do in the bed and with whom, but this kind of relationship is just not for me."

ZidanSufuzki

For Life

"If they can provide Medical, Dental, Unemployment, and Retirement benefits then they’re a friend for life."

Stupify_Me

Benefits are benefits. I'm in.

Forever

"It didn't work out. We couldn't keep it just friends once we started the benefits. We will celebrate our 19th wedding anniversary in 2 weeks."

dirtysecretsofmine

Hey Buddy

"Very messy. You gotta either be f"k buddies only, dating, or friends only. Trying to keep feelings out of FWB is too difficult."

MarthaTheTRex

"That's a great point. I agree that it's tough to keep feelings out of the equation. I think it's best to just be honest and open with your friend so that you both know the boundaries of the situation and can stick to them. That way, both parties can be sure that they're getting what they need out of the relationship."

Professional-Help114

Taking Chances

"Seems iffy to me if you want the friendship to lay long term. Doesn't someone usually catch feelings, so after the FWB finds a partner they want to keep, it leaves the other party out. Especially if the new bf/gf doesn't want you to be friends with someone you've had sex with."

"Yes? No? I'm not into casual sex for myself, so am I off base?"

lifehappenedwhatnow

Developments

"A lot of people are saying 'someone always inevitably develops feelings' and that it ends badly, but that's not been my experience. I'm still friends with a few of my FWB's that I'm no longer sleeping with over the last couple of years and I'm genuinely happy for them that they've found relationships that make them happy. And I know of quite a few others similar to me."

playswithf1re

In Sync...

"A great plan when both participants are on the same page. Whether that is 'stay FWB' or 'hey we caught feelings, let's give a relationship a try'. A mess when only one participant catches feelings."

Gwywnnydd

Don't get hurt...

"Terrible idea, someone always inevitably develops feelings and gets hurt."

"It can work sure, but in general, unless you're both 100% sure (which, how can you ever really be?) beforehand that you won't develop feelings for each other, I generally have seen it not work."

"In my personal experience, someone always had to break it off just as feelings were starting to arise. So yeah, be careful I guess."

PodcastingPodcastGuy

What have we learned?

Communication is key.

Do you have any WTF FWB experiences to share? Let us know in the comments below.