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Parents Of Young Dad Gunned Down On Doorstep By Strangers Still Searching For Answers

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Eleven long years since their son was gunned down during a struggle with three strangers on the doorstep of his sister's home – desperate for justice, a couple have renewed their fight to find his killers.

Just 20 when he was snatched away in the mindless attack, Adam Chadwick had been watching a film with his sister Gemma Chadwick, now 34, on June 24, 2008, when three unidentified intruders came to her door in Leeds, West Yorkshire, and shot him.


Adam died two days later in hospital, but the people responsible were never found, leaving his devastated parents, school caretaker Martin Chadwick and his kitchen assistant wife, Jackie, both 58, from Thirsk, North Yorkshire, and Adam's 14-year-old daughter, Ruby Chadwick – who was just three when she lost her dad – desperate for answers.

Adam and RubyPA REAL LIFE/COLLECT

Last year, they even launched their own billboard campaign, like Frances McDormand in the film Three Billboards Outside Ebbing, Missouri – driving around the area where he was shot with a screen on the back of a van, hoping it would jog somebody's memory.

Tormented by all the missing pieces concerning the appalling crime, Jackie said:

“We do not know what else we can do now. After 11 years we feel like we've done as much as we can, but we remain determined to keep his memory alive and to keep his name out there."
“We will always hope that one day we will get that phone call from the police, saying they have charged someone. Hopefully, one day we will get the answer."

Jackie and Martin with RubyPA REAL LIFE/COLLECT

Jackie continued:

“We have to keep fighting for Ruby. She is 14 now and had just turned three when it happened."
“We are always talking to her about Adam. There's not a day that passes when we don't think and talk about him."
“We feel like we've been robbed. We have moved forwards, but we have not moved on. I don't think we ever will."

“There will always be this big hole in our heart," she said.

Last year the family drove an electronic billboard on a van through the area of Harehills, Leeds, where Adam was killed and handed out leaflets, hoping someone's memory would be jogged – also displaying the appeal at Leeds United football ground, where Ruby was a mascot.

Martin said:

“Adam was a massive Leeds United fan. He was a ball boy for them, so it seemed right that Ruby became a mascot. Adam would have been so proud to see her on the pitch."

Martin said:

“We thought the billboard would maybe, finally, break the case. Instead, we're still waiting for that breakthrough, but we won't give up."
“Maybe someone will fall out with one of the killers and tip off the police. We are waiting for something to happen. You just never know."
“Maybe if we could offer a huge reward – it would have to be six figures – that would work. We know someone out there knows something."

AdamPA REAL LIFE/COLLECT

The couple are even wondering if there might have been a similar crime, which could have links to Adam's killing.

“It could be that there's been a similar type of shooting in Leeds and that case will link to Adam's case or jog someone's memory," said Martin.

“It is hanging over us all the time. We are waiting and waiting and Ruby will be waiting and waiting for the rest of her life."

Adam and GemmaPA REAL LIFE/COLLECT

West Yorkshire Police reports said that on the night of June 24 2008, Adam was at his sister Gemma's house in Clifton Mount in the Harehills area of Leeds, when a mystery woman, described as white, in her late 20s and 5ft 5in, with dark brown hair and olive skin came to the door asking for a 'Michelle'.

She returned to the house at 10.40pm with three unidentified men and, following a disturbance, one fired a Russian built Balkal converted handgun and the bullet hit Adam, who was taken to Leeds General Infirmary, where he died two days later.

Police believe an abandoned blue Ford Focus C-Max car was used as a getaway vehicle. It was stolen almost a fortnight before the shooting.

Ruby at the Leeds United ground with the appeal to mark 10 years since the murderPA REAL LIFE/COLLECT

Recalling that fateful day, Jackie said:

“Adam, a carpet fitter, had been working away and popped in to tell us he was going to see Gemma. He gave us a kiss and said he wouldn't be back late."
“I phoned him at about 9pm asking what time he would be home and he said they were watching a film, then he would be on his way."
“We had gone to bed when the phone rang. Martin picked it up and I could just hear him saying, 'What? What?'"

Jackie recalled:

“It was Gemma screaming and shouting that Adam had been shot."

At first, Martin thought he had been shot by an air rifle and did not grasp how serious it was, although the couple still jumped out of bed and drove to Gemma's.

Martin continued:

“There were no police or ambulances, but when we got closer we knew it was bad because all the neighbors were outside."

Adam with RubyPA REAL LIFE/COLLECT

“Gemma met us and was in a right state. She said Adam had been hurt, but we couldn't make sense of it," Martin said.

Jackie recalled seeing her son lying unconscious in the front doorway, where a neighbor was using towels to try and stem the blood loss.

“At the time I was holding his hand and talking to him," she said. “I didn't realize how serious it was. Martin did, but I did not see what he saw. I just wanted to hold Adam's hand."

Ruby at the Leeds United groundPA REAL LIFE/COLLECT

Jackie and Martin followed Adam in the ambulance to hospital where they were told he would not live.

“Someone came and said that his injuries were not survivable. That's when I broke down," Martin recalled, adding that the bullet went into Adam's head and came out through his neck.

“It was awful. I wouldn't wish that feeling of knowing you're about to lose your son on my worst enemy."

Martin added:

“He was taken to hospital on the Tuesday night, he was taken off life support on the Wednesday and he died on Thursday, June 26."

Family and friends were all there to say goodbye, when the life support was withdrawn.

And his parents did not leave his side until he took his last breath 12 hours later.

AdamPA REAL LIFE/COLLECT

“We were telling him how much we loved him and how we would look after Ruby," said Jackie.

“We didn't believe it was going to happen. He was still breathing. We thought he would pull through."

Paying tribute to their son the pair described him as a quiet child who was always smiling and was a huge football fan.

Memorial event for AdamPA REAL LIFE/COLLECT

“He played in the school rugby league and football team and he had to give up one, so chose to stick with football and give up rugby. His heart was in football," added his dad.

He met Ruby's mum, who does not wish to be named, while training as a hairdresser, after leaving school and even though the relationship did not last, his daughter meant everything to him.

“If we went away we would come home and there would be a bouncy castle in the kitchen or a ball pool in the living room, as he just wanted to make it as much fun as he could for Ruby," said Jackie.

She continued:

“Nothing bothered him or upset him. He was happy with his life, going to work and spending time with his daughter."
“Ruby was his main priority and, although they were apart, he got on well with her mum. I was so proud of him for being a good dad. He took his responsibilities seriously."

Martin and Jackie, who also have a grandson Adam Easton, two, who is Gemma's son and is named after her brother, found living in Leeds surrounded by memories of their son too painful and left last month to live permanently in their holiday caravan near Thirsk, North Yorkshire, hoping it would bring them some peace.

Jackie continued:

“The pain will never go away, but if we could get closure and justice we might be able to move on and focus on remembering Adam for the kind and loving son and wonderful father he was."
“We just hope we never get to the point where the police close the case without answers. That would hurt so much. It would be another nail in the coffin if it became a cold case."
“If anyone has any information we would urge them to get in touch with us over Facebook or to tell the police."

Meanwhile, the couple praised people who have continued to campaign for justice for Adam.

Martin added:

“The amount of people who have helped over the last decade has been amazing. For one bad thing that happened, there are that many good things. We have met some really nice people, who have gone out of their way to help us and we really appreciate it."
“You realize there are more good people out there than bad."

Detective Superintendent Jim Dunkerley, from the homicide and major enquiry team of West Yorkshire Police, said the police remain committed to doing everything they can to get justice for the family.

He said:

“We still believe there are people out there who know who was involved that night, and that knowledge must surely weigh heavily on their consciences."
“We would urge them to think about the pain and loss that Adam's family continue to go through, without knowing who was responsible for his death."

He continued:

“It may be that loyalties or people's situations have changed with the passage of time and that someone is now in a better position to tell us what they know."

Anyone with any information can contact the Homicide and Major Enquiry Team via 101, quoting Operation Pimento or Crimestoppers anonymously on 0800 555 111.

For more information visit www.facebook.com/groups/ACF4S

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When you know your kids backwards and forwards, this is the best tool in your arsenal.

Getting our kids to listen to us is not always the easiest of tasks. They're willful and stubborn, but we've got a mighty weapon they are rarely prepared for: reverse psychology. Getting them to convince themselves to want to do something against their own initial intentions takes some work and a whole lot of creativity, but a little sneaky manipulation goes a long way. Here are some clever parents' tricks that are definitely worth taking notes on.

Redditor u/LeanderD Asks:

Parents of reddit, what's your best example of reversed psychology on your kids that actually worked?

He Floated His Idea Through A Back Channel

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Wanted to name my boat. Anything I would think of was dismissed as stupid by my 13 year old son. After deciding on a name, I confided to a male friend my son liked. Made my friend suggest the name as though it was his idea. My son thought the name was perfect. Done.

calypsodweller

We Always Want What We Can't Have

One of my best friends through childhood used to be punished with no salad if she misbehaved. She cherishes salad now and would always try to eat as much as possible during school lunch. Coincidentally, her now husband used to be punished with no books, it had the same effect. I think it's hilarious that they'd be hitting the salad bar and library like some black market their narc parents couldn't reach hahaha.

cookiearthquake

A Deceit That's A Cut Above The Rest

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Don't know if this counts, but, at my high school (private, boys only) in the 1960's, they made a big deal about how long your hair was, and would occasionally order a boy to go home and "get a haircut".

I thought it was stupid, until years later, a master confided to me at a reunion that the policy was deliberate. The school figured we'd spend so much energy rebelling about hair length, that we would ignore other aspects of teenage rebellion. (Not?) Surprisingly, they were mostly right.

FrankDrakman

Damn! That's smart. Wow.

fangxx456

Oh they don't like long hair?

I'll show them. I'll grow my hair out as lon- what?! No I don't want to go "party"? I gotta try out this horse shampoo.

DankeyKang11

The Forbidden Book

Hi I was a victim,

There was a forbidden book that I was not allow to read on the shelf. My parents said I could only read it if I behave myself.

It was summer holidays and I was playing games all day (after 6 hrs of summer homework). One day I was home alone and had the opportunity to grabbed it. I read like half of it in one go. It was 5000 years of Chinese history.

Safe to say I was bamboozled.

oddstodd

Flowers Of The Queen

My parents always told me my broccoli were the flowers of the queen and that I really shouldn't eat them, or else the queen would get very upset! I, of course, ate the whole broccoli in a few seconds.

Subwoofy

I'm telling the queen and she's gonna be pissed

draculacletus

Sleeping Beauty

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I taught my kids when they were toddlers that no amount of yelling, shaking or hitting can wake a sleeping adult. The only thing that works is a gentle hug and/or a nice kiss on the cheek.

Edit: Probably needed some more details for the reverse psychology aspect to be clear. It went something like this - Step one, tell the kids I'm going to sleep and nothing they do will wake me (head buried face down is the safest position). Step two, after the initial onslaught dies down pretend to awaken on your own. Tell them you got a bit of nap left in you and nothing can wake you, especially not hugs and kisses.

DrMethusael

Holy sh*t...if my daughter woke me up like this I would buy her a pony.

All-Seeing_Elon

I am saving this comment because this will save lives if I ever have kids, stg.

smerter

A Walk In Someone Else's Shoes.

Split custody with my ex. When my son was around 10, he visited two weekends a month. I was waiting tables and didn't have a huge amount to spend, but he was so needy from divorce (and I'm not blaming him, it was ugly), he begged constantly for MORE when he was with me. Whatever more was, it didn't matter... he'd be eating ice cream cone and begging for teriyaki.

I finally realized that he just felt empty, and getting MORE whatever from me wasn't filling him up. His next visit I handed him $100 in cash and told him it was our food/fun budget for 3 days and two nights, and he was in charge of it. I bought him his own wallet to carry. We figured out how many times we were going to eat and what we were going to do, and he paid. He got to keep whatever money he had left...thought he was rich...then realized just how much everything cost. Well. Shoe on other foot then. If we had no money for food, we ate leftovers - and I didn't contribute more to pot. After a few weekends of running short or not getting something he actually wanted because he was foolish with funds, he started to really think about how to spend that money. He budgeted and kept to his budget. And a few times he actually went home with a little cash for his private stash.

Many years later, he thanked me for this. It really changed the way he thought about money and love.

Augumenti

This Is Worth Giving A Shot

Took my 3 year old son to one of those doctor's visits where he was going to get a shot. He was worried about the shot on the whole drive over, almost to the point of tears. We get to the doctor's office and a nurse subtly lets me know that my son is not just scheduled for 1 shot, but 5 of them in the same visit.

I turn to my son with an exaggerated smile and tell him, "Good news! They figured out how to take that one big shot you were going to get and instead break it up into these 5 little tiny shots so it won't hurt nearly as much!"

You could see the relief wash over his face. He stopped squirming and relaxed completely. He took the first shot and even smiled and said "It's true! The small ones don't hurt!"

We actually made it through the third shot before the effect wore off and reality kicked in. Still... I counted it as a victory.

blackbird77

Put This To The Taste

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My mom would tell me she only lets me eat soup after candy and she'd only buy me candy that i didn't like. After a few times, i stopped trying and begged her to let me eat soup first. She gave me a smirk and told me go ahead. This doesn't sound as evil as it was. But trust me i suffered.

turkeypr0

So what was the candy?

Poster_Main

Mint chocolate, raisins, stuff like that. I still hate them to this day. Who the f--- thought while eating chocolate "hmm id like some tooth paste with this."

turkeypr0

This is Truckin' Awesome

Mum had sworn a bit around the house.

When 4, while out at the supermarket, I said F word really loudly.

Very quickly and intently, she asked if I had just said "Truck" and said that was a bad word and not to ever say Truck like that again.

I thought that was the bad word so used that when being naughty.

GodOfTheThunder

The "Silly Mom" Routine

The "Silly Mom" routine.

My kid, and a few other kids I've known, would balk at getting ready to go. I'd grab their clothes and say, "Well, if you won't put on your clothes, I guess I'll put on your clothes. Cute shirt, by the way! Does it go on my foot?"

NO!

"Does it go on my head?"

NO! IT GOES ON ME!

"Oh, that's right, thanks! So, it must go on your legs, right?"

NO!

"I just can't figure this out! Where does this adorable shirt go?"

[kid grabs shirt and puts it on] ON MY TUMMY! SILLY MOM!

"Oh, thank you so much! Now what about these pants? Shirts go on tummies, so...the pants go on the tummy, too, right?"

NO!

[continue until kids have dressed themselves]

I would also do things like hand the kid my keys and say, "Alright, you're driving, I'll sit in the booster seat in back," attempt to feed the kid by putting a spoon up to his ear or his belly button, and attempt to put away his toys in the refrigerator.

insertcaffeine

Some Foot For Thought.

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My mum would always yell at us "if you don't do X, you have to go to bed without socks!"

I never wore socks anyway, and I'm ashamed to admit that this worked.

Splittsky

That would work really well on my son, or make him cry for a really long time... He's 3 and over the last few weeks has decided that he is fully unable to sleep without socks on.

PJQueen

Toddlers man. Completely unpredictable.

SheaRVA

I'm Greens With Envy

My mum had a friend that would put vegetables on her own plate and not the kids.

When the kids asked she would be reluctant to share, "that's grown up food. But I suppose I can let you have a little."

Her kids grew up loving vegetables.

I sat at the dinner table for 3 hours staring at the yucky cauliflower I refused to eat.

laik72

This reminds me of an instance when my child convinced my wife and myself to change our plans for dinner. We were in a grocery store to pick up something quick and easy to eat that we wouldn't have to prepare. Our daughter, wanted none of that, she demanded that she wanted a salad from the salad bar. We started to argue back, but then realized: "Our child demands that we feed her vegetables for dinner instead of a microwaved meal, why are we saying 'No?'"

We had salad for dinner that night.

Galaxy_Ranger_Bob

The Power Of Choice

I don't so much know if you would call it reverse psychology, but I didn't realize it until my dad told me this.

When there were chores that needed doing, he noticed if he asked me to mow the lawn, I would complain and procrastinate. But if he asked would I rather mow the lawn or wash the windows, I'd pick one and just get it done.

Shattered my brain when he told me when I was in my twenties. I use it when I'm coaching or baby sitting all the time and it almost never fails.

AppealToReason16

The Boy Who Cried 'Ouch'

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I've done this one with tens of kids. Any time a kid gets "hurt" (falls down on grass, gets gently hit in the face with a ball, etc.) instead of stopping the activity to pick the kid up and see if they're ok you just scoot them off to the side and resume. Within 10 seconds of not getting all the attention and seeing the fun is resuming they pop right back up and are magically healed.

This of course is only for the "injuries" that aren't actually injuries.

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