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Fathers Debate If They Would Still Want Kids If They Had To Give Birth Themselves

Fathers love their kids. There's no question about that. But fathers have one major advantage when it comes to babies--they don't have to do the physical labor.

Giving birth itself, well...it's painful. We all know that. But men have the luxury of not totally knowing.

But what if they had to?


u/ry_seemor asked:

Fathers of reddit, if you had to be pregnant and give birth to your children, would you still want the same amount of kids? Why or why not?

Here were some of those answers.


The Details Matter

It depends what hole they are going to come out of.... lol otherwise yes. I love being a dad!

drummer1155

No From Me Dawg

Hell no! I wanted kids and so did my wife. We had kids and I love em all, and I am so proud of my wife and impressed with what she did - but I wouldn't want to go through it. Gaining weight, I could do that. Swollen ankles, nausea, being uncomfortable all the time...ok. But the actual birth? No. Even with all the medications, hell no.

Now, take this for what it's worth coming from a guy on the internet, but I'm a pretty tough guy. I can push myself pretty hard and if I can walk off some pretty serious injuries (or at least not cry while I'm getting carried off). But one of the worst things in the world isn't getting hurt, it's knowing you are going to get hurt, bad, and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.

In 8 months you are going to feel the worst pain you have ever felt. in 6 months. In 2. In a week. Tomorrow. 4 hours. 1 hour. 15 minutes...

That is psychological torture.

(Regarding the countdown, we had an induced labor)

DamnItDarin

The Risk Involved

Not a father but I may want children in the future...

I would feel the same. Having children is a terrifying (and beautiful) prospect, even not having to carry the pregnancy. I'm both scared and drawn to it, regardless. I would be scared for my SO's and children's health and well being both for during the pregnancy and worried that I would not be a good enough parent in the upbringing. I'm pretty confident that I could do a good job, but I also think it would be naive not to have misgivings. For the actual pregnancy as is I would be worried about my SO's health. Pregnancies and deliveries still do frequently enough go wrong and end up dangerous, and it seems like all pregnancies do have permanent physical consequences. In some way it would almost be easier being able to face that myself rather than see a loved one risk it, but it would also be a difficult thing to face as the one at risk too.

Bonch_and_Clyde

It Makes It All Harder

I wanted one, maybe two, so it's not like I'd have been birthing an army. Now at 2 and no one has to worry about pregnancies anymore.

Honestly I'm always slightly shocked we're not dying off planet wide, we need to average more than 2 each just to maintain and I can't imagine either side choosing to go for 3+

azuth89

Aggressively Male

Yes. I just watched my wife give birth all natural (no pain killers) a month ago. Most women will not want to hear this, but I honestly believe I could crush it. I'd be like those MMA fighters on youtube getting pepper-sprayed, then attacking a punching bag. The whole maternity ward would hear me. I'd be like "YEAH, I'M CRUSHING IT!!!!" And they would know what's up.

bjjjcollective

Nope

Love being a dad but envied absolutely nothing about pregnancy, labour of delivery.

Ladies deserve much more credit for what they endure and sacrifice!

BaconFace2736

Spare Her

Yes. I want two and I would happily carry them myself if I could spare my girlfriend the pain.

jimmy17

A Workaround

Yes, I would want the same amount of kids. Zero kids still remains zero.

NAbberman

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