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People Explain What Instantly Makes Them Lose All Interest In Someone

People Explain What Instantly Makes Them Lose All Interest In Someone

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Humans are annoying.

Our attention spans are limited, our attitudes really need adjusting, and we make dating torture on ourselves.

So losing interest in a person should be more of a given than a surprise.

But it is fascinating to learn about what can change a person's mind about another so quickly.


Redditor lixxie_lx wanted to hear about all the big and minuscule things that have us running for the hills, so they asked:

"What instantly makes you lose interest in a person?"

This is a major issue for me.

I lose interest at the speed of light.

Not Cute

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"Superiority complex. It’s fine to be confident, but if you need to put others down to feel that way you’re just insecure and it’s not cute."

CarlosTentacule

Growning Apart

"The moment I can tell that they aren’t trying. Either they aren’t all that interested in me or they expect me to do all of the 'work' so to speak. Either reason is a good enough one to step away."

Ok_Button1932

"I’m going through this as well. 5 year relationship, no kids thankfully and not married. We’ve had to do long distance the last few months and she’s essentially radio silent. Never calls and only texts back if I chase her."

"We trust each other implicitly and even share location but the lack of interest in even checking in with me or being affectionate unless I initiate it has me feeling so gaslit. I fear it’s something as simple as growing apart but neither person wanting to end it."

SavetheFollys

The Tease

"When I tell them I don't like something, or something makes me uncomfortable and they continue to do it intentionally as if it's flirting."

mtotheija

"Hardest breakup I ever had was because of a person's inability to stop f**king with me... it's not funny when someone says that it bothers them and you continue to do it."

"Everything else was really good it gave me huge self doubt that I was just being a whimp and she had a point that it was just teasing. Even got to the point that I thought that's just the way this give and take is gonna go in this relationship. Glad I decided to get out... I would have been miserable."

phreedumb21nyc21

Be Quiet

"Constantly talking sh*t about others and trying to boost their own ego."

uncultured_swine2099

"Yup, I thought I met a good person at first, but then she started talking sh*t about everyone, not to mention if I got something I wanted, instead of being happy for me, she becomes extremely jealous."

"The last straw was when she left me in the middle of the street and left without me for university even though she told me she was picking me up. Sadly, she's still friends with my sister, and she kinda has to be because they share so many classes, but I'm still trying to find a way to cut off all contact, which is harder than I thought would be."

The_Phantom_Soldier

I See You

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"Few things are 'instant' dealbreakers, but blatant displays of rudeness or condescension toward strangers when under stress is a big red flag. Like, I get that you are frustrated, but there is no need to be a d*ck."

MissBitsy

Why is kindness so arduous for some people?

Kindness First

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"If they mistreat others, especially those who are in the service industries."

funtime2000

Stay in the moment...

"When they can't stop checking their mobile phones every few seconds while we are talking. I went out with a woman who would do that. After the 4th date I stopped going out with her and dated another woman. The former was surprised to know that."

"I said 'But girl, you're always on the phone while I talk to you, it makes me feel ignored you know' and she was angry/sad. But I'm not exaggerating when I say she was staring on that screen and sending voice messages and all that to other friends of her while we were dating."

GabrielOmarCY

Look Further

"Lack of curiosity/intellectual laziness. lack of empathy, excessively judgemental attitude, narcissism, treating others as subhuman, spewing hatred, excessive victim behavior, and/or unnecessary combativeness. Maybe I'm just picky."

SawgrassSteve

"Assuming that if they don't know it it isn't worth knowing/can't be interesting. Also adults - well into adulthood, whose excuse for not knowing something is that they weren't taught about it at school. If they taught you to read you can keep learning on your own, you know."

zeugma888

Hard No!

"It definitely (for me i’m talking friendships) depends on a couple things. how they respond to emotional situations (example is are they caring/comforting or being dismissive and not really trying to put anything into it?)... how they respond to boundaries, if they’re mean or judgmental of others, like if we were talking and walking and they randomly look at another person walking and insult them, that’s DEFINITELY a hard no."

chaoticwitchbrr

Tropes

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"The 'hard to get' trope. like its one thing if there actually isn't mutual interest but when there is and someone makes you feel like you're working for their time and consideration, forget it."

cherrycreams0da

Coin Chat

"Talking about money. Pitching me business ideas. Speaking ill of people they view as lesser. Always comparing things they associate with prestige, and never speaking about anything of real substance."

FoldedaMillionTimes

Have any of these things ever happened to you? Let us know in the comments below.

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